How Soon is Too Soon?

[Deviant]

So, you meet someone on a MU. You hit it off. The chemistry is good, the conversation flows easily and naturally, and you start thinking about all the fun things you might do together.

And then… silence. You don’t hear from them, they stop logging in, and you aren’t sure how to reach them outside of the game.

How long do you wait before reaching out?

Is it like dating etiquette? Is three days too soon to “call”? Do you send a casual @mail after a week? Do you wait two weeks before asking mutual acquaintances if they’ve seen them? At what point does a public “Hey, I really enjoyed our time together, are you still alive?” go from potentially endearing to mildly unhinged?

Obviously, real life happens, people get busy, and nobody owes anybody their time. I can’t even throw pebbles in that house, I’m extremely guilty of it.

But sometimes you find an RP partner you really click with, and you’re left wondering whether they’re coming back or whether you’ve just experienced the MU* equivalent of a fantastic first date followed by ghosting.

So what’s the etiquette? How long do you wait before putting out a missed-connections ad for someone you really enjoyed playing with?

Asking for a friend. Who is me. And who would very much like a second date scene.