Predators and Roleplaying Communities

[somasatori]

@Pavel said in Predators and Roleplaying Communities:

@somasatori said in Predators and Roleplaying Communities:

technically in industrial psychology the company is the client and the workers are child clients of the company

The ethics organ in my brain (probably the amygdala) just squirmed at that…

YEAH! I remember when I first learned that. Also, in forensic psychology the employer (prison or district) is the client, not the prisoner/parolee, so there is no ethical requirement to privacy for prisoners. It’s why I did a trauma emphasis instead of a forensic emphasis.

(Also I veered us wildly off topic, sorry about that!)

[Cygnus]

Thank you for sharing this, Cobalt. LAMush was the first World of Darkness game I ever played, and the first MUSH. I was 17 when I first signed in. There were bad things that happened there which I have heard about over the years, including the infamous meetup. I experienced a few borderline things myself in pages and scenes. I thought it was just how things were, like hazing or I was just new to the MU* scene, and since I was too young and didn’t want people to know I was too young I made the mistake of not speaking up.

I’ve often had an overly rosy view of that place which I may have shared with you on occasion later on other games, and now that I realize how oblivious I was, I feel awful. I’ve been out of the hobby a long time, but I’ve always liked roleplaying with you when we’ve come across each other over the years. So, I felt compelled to say thank you for your courage and screw LAMush. And thanks for making the scene a safer place.

[crawfish]

A reminder to everyone:

Just because you’re an adult doesn’t mean you can’t be victimized. Just because you think you know better doesn’t mean you’ll always listen to the red flags. Just because you’ve handled shit before with grace doesn’t mean you always will. Just because everyone in a community says ‘oh man, so-and-so is such a good dude, you should ask him for advice/insight/resources/whatever’ doesn’t mean he can be trusted or he’s without flaws, or that if he sends you an unsolicited dick video that ‘you should be flattered’. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t speak up or no one will believe you. And just because you flirted back because ‘really, everyone says he’s such a great guy/leader/whatever, the problem has to be me’, doesn’t mean you were not victimized, or that your feelings about being victimized are not valid.

I don’t know if this is the right place to put this, but I hope it reaches the people that need to see it. We have got to stop blaming ourselves for other people’s shitty behavior.

[GF]

@crawfish said in Predators and Roleplaying Communities:

Just because you think you know better doesn’t mean you’ll always listen to the red flags.

If I make a little light fun of the idea of listening to a flag, it’s only because your post made me feel things that I needed to find a way to laugh at. Thank you for these reminders, though, seriously.

[crawfish]

@GF I mean I get it. If we don’t laugh sometimes, we’d cry. Right?

[SockMonkey]

@crawfish Or you can be an overachiever and do both!

Seriously though. Thank you for that reminder. It is very much appreciated.