Hi everyone,
Wow, this is hard to write. I’ve probably written and deleted about five of these posts by now, and who knows if I’ll be brave enough to click send on this one. Anyway, way back up at the top there, I actually made a brief cameo in this thread as the girl who got a notoriously bad harasser banned for sending her porn. Not sure that’s ever something I had on my list of things to be known as, but here we are.
This might sound pretty ridiculous to you guys, but I actually cried when he got banned. Not because I regretted it, but because I hate causing people pain. Surely, I thought, it must’ve been something I said that made him do it. I led him on, or made him think it was something I’d find funny or hot. Surely, I thought, it was my fault.
I know, I know. But I reported him knowing that, if I didn’t, he’d do it to someone else. And it was dealt with swiftly.
I’ve spoken to Zephyr about this recently, and while I didn’t want to weigh in on this discourse in the slightest (who needs that chaos in their life lol), I felt it was necessary to say, in no uncertain terms, that I believe her, and I believe it was her that had my back in that moment. Furthermore, I believe everyone who’s shared their experiences. It all breaks my heart, at the end of the day. It breaks my heart because I’ve had good experiences with just about everybody on Age of Alliances. I’ve told good stories with people. Had a lot of laughs, too.
I find myself wishing for a lot of things. I wish, maybe, I’d had tougher conversations with people around me. I wish this all had been handled differently. I wish I could still play the stupid Star Wars game without being reminded of all this, but I’m not sure if that’s possible any more. I’m not sure what I want to do. But I am sure that I’m disappointed.
For those of you who have shared your experiences, just know that you have all of my love and support.