@Meg said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

@64bitjedi shit, i lost my bet.

any new things to say about what Zephyr has countered of your bullshit PR?

I saw Zephyr’s post and I still see a lot of it covering what other people did. All she said about me that is defensible is that I also shared concerns about some asshattery–Which I did/do still have as opinions. But I’m not going to equate those to being the same things as sexual harassment. That wouldn’t be fair to victims. I have my own issues with a lot of people. Other people are the ones calling this PR. I’m not here to throw a blanket over a dumpster fire. I’m just not eager to ignore the dumpster fire, either.

@helvetica said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

@64bitjedi said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

@DarthSmegma said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

@64bitjedi Okay, let’s say that you only knew of one. You know about the rest, now. What’s up? What’s the next move? Continue to stake your name and reputation in the hobby in support of these obvious problem elements? Push for any kind of accountability on the game you help maintain? We know you’re not fully ignoring it all because you’re here.

I don’t honestly know what the next step is. I can’t tell you how to take something like this, and the people involved, and make everyone feel better about what’s happening. I don’t know what the next step is because I don’t know what people want, here. I know somehow I have a game full of people that have to feel like they are safe, each and every day after this all came to light. And that’s an uphill battle that is adding a lot to my brainpower.

But, here I am opening myself up to the forum. I don’t know what the next step is. I’m making this up as I go along.

@GF First I would have to have any idea who made the complaints, and I think we all know why me suddenly asking for the names of accusers might have pretty bad optics.

Nobody is going to believe me if I suddenly show up on scene, telling everyone, “Hey guys! Banshee is here! You’re all safe now!” That would be hilariously dumb. I also can’t make that promise yet. I never said those things because I can’t deliver those things. I can’t provide restitution for the people who were hurt.

I cannot undo what has happened. I don’t think I can even provide some measure of comfort to people that were wronged. But someone in the community is here, putting themselves out there for the discussion. So if you want to discuss this, there you go. If you don’t, that’s fine too.

Also, I never promised that I was good at this. I never pretended to be an expert.

@TooManyCharacter said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

@64bitjedi said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

All she said about me that is defensible is that I also shared concerns about some asshattery–Which I did/do still have as opinions. But I’m not going to equate those to being the same things as sexual harassment.

This is the problem. It’s not asshattery, locker room talk, jokes, or floating the grey area. It’s toxic vitriol targeted at a group of people. Even if we pretend that it’s for humour, the punchline is still ME or people like me.

Behavior I never defended. Or seek to defend. I said, in responding to ‘[You had issues with him too]’ that my issues with him were different and didn’t compare to sexual harassment.

That’s the only distinction I was making.

@Meg said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

@64bitjedi shit, i lost my bet.

any new things to say about what Zephyr has countered of your bullshit PR?

I saw Zephyr’s post and I still see a lot of it covering what other people did. All she said about me that is defensible is that I also shared concerns about some asshattery–Which I did/do still have as opinions. But I’m not going to equate those to being the same things as sexual harassment. That wouldn’t be fair to victims. I have my own issues with a lot of people. Other people are the ones calling this PR. I’m not here to throw a blanket over a dumpster fire. I’m just not eager to ignore the dumpster fire, either.

@Meg said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

i’m gonna take a shot for 64bitjedi showing up, but i am also going to call a bet and take a shot that he’s now gone.

realized he couldn’t spin the narrative in anyway to make himself the ‘good guy’, and dipped.

rip to a homie. we’ll remember you. have fun on your game filled with sex pests.

I’m still here, I just have work. I had to travel to another city today for my job, so that took up my morning.

@Roz So my line of thinking is this:

Someone sends me a link to this thread, with a lot of information I didn’t know about. I can either ignore it, or, I can try and get in on the discussion and find out why I didn’t know.

Don’t get me wrong: I knew showing my face would be putting blood in the water. I accept that. But that wasn’t going to change in time.

I’m here trying to be part of the conversation. I’m not here to defend the actions of other people (though I am willing to defend mine), and I’m not here to call people liars. I’m just here.

@helvetica said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

@64bitjedi This is not personal. I do not know you. If you stay on that game with that person in charge, you’re the asshole.

I know that this issue is a hand grenade, so I’m trying to keep my feelings in check because my pride won’t help anyone. But being called ignorant and incompetent by others feels pretty personal. I know that wasn’t you, but, jeeze.

*Clarified whose pride I meant.

@GF First I would have to have any idea who made the complaints, and I think we all know why me suddenly asking for the names of accusers might have pretty bad optics.

Nobody is going to believe me if I suddenly show up on scene, telling everyone, “Hey guys! Banshee is here! You’re all safe now!” That would be hilariously dumb. I also can’t make that promise yet. I never said those things because I can’t deliver those things. I can’t provide restitution for the people who were hurt.

I cannot undo what has happened. I don’t think I can even provide some measure of comfort to people that were wronged. But someone in the community is here, putting themselves out there for the discussion. So if you want to discuss this, there you go. If you don’t, that’s fine too.

Also, I never promised that I was good at this. I never pretended to be an expert.

@helvetica said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

@64bitjedi said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

@GF said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

@64bitjedi said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

When the people who will defend others leave a space, that space gets worse. People need to know there is someone they can report this stuff to.

If this thread is the first time you’re hearing most of these complaints, then people do not know or believe there is someone that can report this stuff to.

Which is the only reason I’m here trying.

Take an action. Boot your problem staff or leave that game to start a new life. Otherwise, the only thing you’re here trying to do is PR, in which case we’ll feed you to @Jennkryst and their screenshots again.

Actions are being taken. I said I was making it up as I go along, I didn’t say nothing was being done.

@blu said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

@64bitjedi This is pretty much going how it always goes. Cujo comes under attack, the game comes under attack, and instead of Cujo addressing it, he sends you. You put on airs that you’re the “safe person,” that you are there to “look out for us,” and then you tell Cujo and Cujo exacts his revenge quietly through bans, nukes, and removal of contributions.

It always goes this way, and you need to stop being his enforcer if you actually care about remediation and have him address his accusers.

He can make an account here.

He can address this group.

I can assure you nobody thinks my being here is a good idea.

@GF said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

@64bitjedi said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

When the people who will defend others leave a space, that space gets worse. People need to know there is someone they can report this stuff to.

If this thread is the first time you’re hearing most of these complaints, then people do not know or believe there is someone that can report this stuff to.

Which is the only reason I’m here trying.

@Roadspike She said she couldn’t report spying on her private scene with Cujo because it was Cujo. Maybe she meant both–You know better than me.