@SockMonkey Do we share a brain? Because all of this. I understand (and have done) all of this.

@SockMonkey said in Tough Calls:

My husband was still dealing with his brain tumor at the time. Did the person know that? No. Should I have to tell them or explain how “brain tumors aren’t comedic content” for them to have common sense? No.

In my very misguided youth, I thought I had to over explain every decision I made. I still over explain when I get in panic state that I think I’m offending someone but that’s a me thing. I stand very very very firmly in the thoughts that NO ONE is entitled to any of your RL information. They don’t get to know your story if you don’t want to tell it. They don’t get to have any of that. Also, no one is promised anyone’s time. I’m sorry that happened to you. There is nothing worse than a ‘surprise’ RP mechanic (good or bad) aligns with a RL event that there are feelings around. For me (as I can only speak to that) it’s like getting emotionally ambushed. Not intentional on the other person, but damn.

Also as a person that likes to inject comedy in serious, you have to learn to read the room. I think silly/comedy comes from doing things to lift a serious game as the brain can read it and put a person RL in that state, so a little light RP is good too. But, time and place.

My idea of humor (which may fail as humor is subjective) is falling over a stranger’s lap and ‘swooning’ for him. Luckily, the person that it happened to went with it.

Or playing a game of dares or something that leads to an end point that both people are laughing OOC and like WTF just happened.

Or making comments. Or taking the fall instead of being a hero but doing it humorously.

Or collecting a specific thing for no reason other than humor or seeing how many they can end up with.

Maybe I don’t understand silly, goofy. I don’t think it’s game disruptive though.

I mean I’ll ask someone to RP. Then when they don’t or it doesn’t work out; I get all rejection sensitive and never ask again. I just wait for others to ask me.

Spoiler: It doesn’t work well. Also, as much as I thought I was being annoying, I’ve been told I wasn’t annoying. So I just try to ask, but I only do it like twice and then I stop. They now have to engage if they want to.

I’m usually pretty nice and welcoming to people. I normally try to RP with as many people as I can. I sometimes overshare plot with people. I like to get people up and running and I like to connect people to other people that I think fosters their stories. That said…

No one but me gets to decide how I spend my energy and who I RP with or don’t RP with. That feels so toxic to me to tell another adult who they have to RP or how they have to RP. I’m sure that’s not the intend but…

Right now for a lot of people RL is severely fucked up. People are uncertain, scared, struggling, etc. Our hobby is meant to be a safe haven from that. One where we get to meet people and tell stories and write stories and hide in our escapism for a little bit before we go back to our RL demands. I don’t want to co-author a book with everyone, so why would I want to write a story with everyone?

Does this make me elitist? I don’t think I’ve ever been called that. Does that make me mean and rude and unwelcoming? Still don’t think I’ve been called that, but maybe. What it does make me is protective of my calm. Forcing anyone to interact with anyone is bad in my book. If people want to log in and hide in a fake online place with one other person writing a fake online storyline with them because it gives them a moment of peace in their chaotic real life? Let them.

I give you a server so you have to do what I say ranks right up there with the working spouse telling the homemaking spouse that they have no say to their identity. They can’t spend any money because they haven’t earned the money. It’s different, but it rings at the same level.

I don’t run games. I avoid staffing like I owe it money. I just think that with the world being as it is for a great many people right now, just let them find their peace where they can find it. You are free to ask them to leave your game if you want, but you do not get to tell a person who they must interact with like you own or control them.

Just my thoughts. Doesn’t make it right. Doesn’t make it wrong. Just makes it my opinion.

@Pavel

Lords and Ladies, magic and magical beings. I cannot remember the overarching plot as it was forever ago, but magic was in high theme and it was high fantasy.

I played Crossroads too, not my first game though. I played CDI (Castle D’Image - I think) too

I feel like my very first game was a Robotech one called Protoculture or something like that. There was a Heavy Gear one out there. I think my first WoD game was something like Haight Ashbury where I knew nothing and people had to explain a lot as I was trying to interact in it.

Not really what the conversation is about, but to find out if it’s AI, you post it to AI and basically say: Did you do this?

I don’t know why, but I find that both sad and completely hilarious.

I know that this is a minor thing with everything going on in the world. However, I started going back to school full-time (while working full-time) in January. I just got my letter that I got on the Dean’s List.

@kalakh

I feel all the words of your reply like I did the original posting. I think personally, it’s an insecurity of mine. So when it has been pointed out (again not in a loving way) it just makes me even more anxious. THEN add to it that I don’t have an RP community so I have to break into another one. Ugh. I mean. I have y’all but no one on the game that can be my designated RP person/companion cube/support page receiver until I figure out the vibe and flow. Also being blessed/cursed that I type at a fairly quick pace - I can get text blocks out like I invented them. It’s a thing.

It’s good/bad that someone else understands the ‘too much’ comment. Like yay for relation. Boo for the bad and anxiety that comes with it.

Salutations!

I know for me that I have in life been told I’m too much. If you know me, then you know what I mean. I get very VERY excited when I’m excited about things and I babble in pages or I want to RP. I’m just very excited to write a story with the other person or find out what happens next, etc. I am also very hyper and optimist IRL and it carries over to my paging. So, as someone who has been told that I need to calm down. I take that as a part of my personality to fix. I’ve been told it IRL and MU life. Thus, I don’t always know that line on how much is too much and get stuck in a paralysis pattern. Then in an overthinker pattern. Online is worse because I can’t see the other person’s non-verbal cues. I can’t see if you smiled when you saw me. If you frowned or hesitated, etc. Thus I’m left with words that I have to figure out and probably not well.

Then if you suddenly stop inviting me to RP (with the hopes I’ll reach out), I panic the other way. I feel like I’ve upset you. As I’ve been told in MU realm that if I upset someone, you shouldn’t contact them unless they contact you or it can look like inadvertent harassing; I’m again in decision paralysis. Do I reach out? Do I assume there is an issue and that makes it worse? Normally the second because the behaviors suddenly changed.

I know I’m not the person in question, because I’m not really playing anywhere, but that would be why I personally was doing or not doing what was happening. Although, now I try to lay out my crazy to people up front. Like, hey you are going to have to tell me if I’m paging too much or inviting too much - because I might get so hyper-fixated on writing the story - I don’t read the clues or misunderstand the ‘tone’ of the text.

@Snackness

All the love. I’ve been through this and even if it is expected, it isn’t easy. We are here if you want to talk.

My new desc:

Felt cute, might delete later.

I still stand by your sexy factor, etc is less PB and more RP. Sure, sure your PB can be great or whatever, but if you can build a story with me? Chef’s kiss.

If you can make me cry (not in the bad way), and laugh, and fall in love with the story; that is the sexiest element. I’ll probably breeze over your desc to know how tall and things I might need to notice, but then take my cues from how you pose.

Also, all body types are gorgeous and I’m glad they are out there.

@Juniper

Messily with lots of four letter words. Ouch included

MU peeve – I’m not on a MU playing.
Also MU peeve – I don’t think I have the time/energy for a new game.
Additional MU peeve – Meeting new people to RP with is either really super fun or really really really stressful.

That is all. Carry on. Just my weekly random comment to stay part of the community.

Self peeve of the day - two actually.

1. I’m going to really commit to being healthy — 2 hours later – oh hey, chips.

2. I’m going to be an adult and follow a budget. I’m super excited about this. — Sure, let’s go to dinner. Hmm, I don’t need that thing, but I think I’ll buy it anyways.

I’d like to blame my ADHD and the serotonin, but I think it’s just me and it’s really frustrating some days. I know I can do better about it, but you know… I don’t. Or let’s focus on getting a good night’s sleep and going to bed at a great time — while posting on a forum at 11:50pm.

Sorry, carry on. Just venting at the void about my life decisions.

@crawfish

I feel like we need a list for everything and explanations. Release the truth about cats.

I miss RPing. I’ve filled my hours with other things, but I miss logging on and writing stories with people. I also miss the daily chatting with people I use to chat with about random stuff.

However, the idea of making a new character makes me feel like I don’t have the mental energy. Then I’m not sure how well my RP will be after the ‘break’ I’ve been on.

Anyways, in conclusion – if we’ve RPed at all, you’ve been on my mind and you rock - so thank you for writing stories with me.

RL Peeve is domain change. Not that it’s changing, but that I’m going to have to try and remember my password.