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    The Stupid Things We Do

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    • hellfrogH
      hellfrog @tieflinguist
      last edited by hellfrog

      @tieflinguist honestly you probably should consider your contacts in this light. It’s healthier, because at the end of the day even if you are or do become a friend, if your target is a staffer, they are basically “at work”.

      fr fr
      (she/her)

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      • farfallaF
        farfalla @Herja
        last edited by

        @Herja said in The Stupid Things We Do:

        Many MU friends aren’t really friends but more like really active acquaintances.

        This is such a good way to put it. Friendly active acquaintances, even! But friendly isn’t the same as friends, and I personally find it really off-putting when a friendly active acquaintance starts dumping friend-level emotions, information, and expectations on me.

        I think I view other players on a game with me almost like co-workers. We’re friendly! I like you! We’re together a lot! I’m not going to tell you about my parents’ divorce.

        as previously stated, good day.

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        • HerjaH
          Herja @farfalla
          last edited by

          @farfalla This has been my approach for a few years and it works. That shift into thinking that friendly does not mean we are friends has changed how I feel about the hobby and I feel like I am being much more fair with those I play with than I was before. I don’t see it really as something I want that I can’t have so I am sad about it but something that I shouldn’t have wanted and was only doing it out of unhealthy feelings on my part. I will chat about game stuff and story ideas and superficial life stuff all the time because I am like one of four extroverts in the hobby, I think, but I’m not going to talk in depth about my personal life and probably not be open to talking that deep about someone else’s if that relationship isn’t established already.

          lol lmao

          It's me, hi, I'm the problem it's me

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          • saoS
            sao
            last edited by

            Which does mean it can sometimes be hard to figure out when you have slid across the border between friendly acquaintance and friend because it absolutely happens, but it can also happen at work, so…

            let it be a challenge to you

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            • PavelP
              Pavel @farfalla
              last edited by

              @farfalla said in The Stupid Things We Do:

              @Herja said in The Stupid Things We Do:

              Many MU friends aren’t really friends but more like really active acquaintances.

              This is such a good way to put it. Friendly active acquaintances, even! But friendly isn’t the same as friends, and I personally find it really off-putting when a friendly active acquaintance starts dumping friend-level emotions, information, and expectations on me.

              I think I view other players on a game with me almost like co-workers. We’re friendly! I like you! We’re together a lot! I’m not going to tell you about my parents’ divorce.

              Amen. Additionally, I enjoy spending time with you, but I also enjoy spending time with these other people, and I am not going to prioritise you over them at this our work place.

              He/Him. Opinions and views are solely my own unless specifically stated otherwise.
              BE AN ADULT

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              • TatT
                Tat @Herja
                last edited by

                @Herja said in The Stupid Things We Do:

                I am like one of four extroverts in the hobby

                Fascinating. I didn’t know you existed. Tell me more.

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                • HerjaH
                  Herja @Tat
                  last edited by

                  @Tat I can’t reveal more of our secrets. I have already said too much.

                  lol lmao

                  It's me, hi, I'm the problem it's me

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                  • TatT
                    Tat @Herja
                    last edited by

                    @Herja said in The Stupid Things We Do:

                    @Tat I can’t reveal more of our secrets. I have already said too much.

                    Okay, but I’m watching you.

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                    • HerjaH
                      Herja @Tat
                      last edited by

                      @Tat don't threaten me with a good time

                      lol lmao

                      It's me, hi, I'm the problem it's me

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                      • J
                        Juniper
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                        When the scene finally slows down enough for me to finish an emote and I post it, feeling good about myself…

                        Only to realise my client was scrolled up and everyone has moved on and my emote now makes no sense. 😭

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