Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent
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My husband started to have anxiety attacks in the last year, and he is having a really hard time with what has basically been my entire life. I feel so much for him. I’ve had years to learn how to cope, go to therapy at least twice a month (Better Help isn’t cheap, but the ability to go more often than every two months like when I used my insurance is golden.), and have medication to keep me more on an even keel.
Getting him to agree to go back to therapy has been really hard though. He doesn’t want to admit that this is going to be a persist problem. But it is going to he. Between his high stress job and us starting fostering there isn’t a single chance that this will just “fix” itself.
The brain makes pathways though. Having a panic attack is way easier of a pathway then rationally thinking through the problem and finding reasonable solutions in a stressful moment. Healthy? Nah. But easier.
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@Rinel said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
Firstly, huge hugs/good vibes/prayers/whatever you like best sent your way. I’ve been in the ER for anxiety… a lot. Probably over ten times at this point.
Secondly, it sounds like this isn’t your first rodeo with anxiety, but if it is, here’s what you do. First, do everything in your power to curb avoidance of what is making you anxious. Avoidant behavior makes anxiety really, really bad (source: in recovery for severe agoraphobia). Second, see a psychatrist asap. If you can’t see a psychiatrist, see your primary care doctor. Be open to them about what’s happening and ask for medicine. If you have an addictive personality or a history of substance abuse, make sure they’re aware of that before they prescribe you any benzodiazepenes. Having anti-anxiety meds will help you stabilize so you can move on to the third and most important step–therapy.
You’re probably gonna have to do therapy. It sounds like you may need to do some intensive therapy. Find a specialist in cognitive behavioral therapy. Cognitive behavioral therapy, along with exposure therapy, is an extremely effective method of treating anxiety and depression, which it sounds like you also have.
None of this is easy. If it were, I wouldn’t be a half-employed lawyer who struggles to bill 15 hours a week and who needs her parents to drive her places at 33 years of age. It frequently REALLY SUCKS. But it’s doable. I’m making huge strides in my recovery.
You’ve got this. If you need to DM someone who has been through this shit, whether to ask for advice, chat about it, or just scream directly into a sympathetic ear, I’m here.
I’m rooting for you.
As someone who has had a bit of a mental health fun myself (anxiety, depression), I want to fully endorse what @Rinel has said here, particularly the parts about stability, the likely need for substance support (this doesn’t have to be permanent), and therapy.
I myself need medication because my mind will not stay stable without it. I’m not saying this will be the case for you as well, @Testament, but I tried without and it just would not work for me. But I wouldn’t be where I am now if action hadn’t been taken.
One important thing I want to add: this will take time. It will not be overnight, though you may experience relief. Don’t let that relief lull you into a false sense of security. You need to go see a psychiatrist or your primary care about triage while working toward a lasting solution (the therapy treatment).
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Calorie counting sucks. Why does food have to have so many calories.
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@Cobalt said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
Calorie counting sucks. Why does food have to have so many calories.
It is THE WORST.
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Finally got covid from my youngest after 3 years of dodging it as first an essential public facing worker and then in returning to ECE. I feel really shitty but at least I have paxlovid. And no bleach cocktails for me.
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T Tez forked this topic on 15 Aug 2023, 06:56
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I wanna vent about something but it involves weight and diet and I don’t know how to spoiler stuff here
So my vent is that I’m dumb
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@Rinel said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
I wanna vent about something but it involves weight and diet and I don’t know how to spoiler stuff here
So my vent is that I’m dumb
When you’re typing up your post, look up under the thread title, there’s a bunch of icons for text formatting. You want the third icon from the right. You just highlight everything you want to put under the spoiler tag and hit the button. Or you can click the button and replace the word ‘spoiler’ with your text.
You can also put things in between two (2) | on each side.
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I forked some posts for hopefully obvious reasons. I’m sorry, Rinel. We definitely have spoiler functionality but I’m too deep into sleep dep to remember how to do it right now. BG3 is a brain eater.
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@Roz You’re a hero, particularly since I know for a fact you were up later than me.
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@Tez said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
@Roz You’re a hero, particularly since I know for a fact you were up later than me.
Wow. Wow, guys. Lol.
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@Coin said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
@Tez said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
@Roz You’re a hero, particularly since I know for a fact you were up later than me.
Wow. Wow, guys. Lol.
Wow we’ve both been playing the same video game??? What??
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@Roz Nah, I don’t play BG3.
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@Coin That’s not what I was asking, I was confused at your wows.
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@Roz Coin helpfully pointed out where to find the spoiler tags upthread and someone else was called a hero later on.
It did make me chuckle.
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@YetiBeard said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
@Roz Coin helpfully pointed out where to find the spoiler tags upthread and someone else was called a hero later on.
It did make me chuckle.
[giggle]
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Oh my GOD im so tired
The button doesn’t work tho!!!
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@Roz said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
Oh my GOD im so tired
The button doesn’t work tho!!!
Does too.
See?
