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RL Peeves
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@IoleRae Do you have the ones where the C stripe is for Control and not COVID? Those are my favorite.
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My package with my anxiety medication arrived early!
While I was out of town.
Naturally, someone stole it. Fuck package thieves.
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I needed to say the word “transitioned” today but a circuit in my brain went down so the only word I could come up with was “transmuted.”
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I wish to learn your alchemical ways all the same.
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Trying to talk to someone about the messages in a piece of media that they insist don’t exist because the only thing in the media is what is literally said. Themes and metaphors don’t exist, just the literal text.
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What are you talking about? Aslan is just a lion.
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Yeah, and Korra and Asami were just friends holding hands.
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@Jumpscare Just gals being pals
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Went in to the office yesterday physically. I love my work family VERY MUCH, but it takes anyone all of two seconds looking at my face to know I’m in hell right now, and trying to figure out how much people actually want to know when variations on the dreaded, “How are you?” comes up is like a field of landmines.
Even telling people the good stuff results in uncomfortable questions, and I’m at a point where my ‘fine’ or perky ‘doing good!’ isn’t fooling anybody. ‘Things are rough but I’m managing’ just prompts for details. It doesn’t help that my immediate team was very free with info initially (to ensure I got the space I need) so people like, know what to ask.
hate this. I hate wearing my heart on my sleeve and I hate having an expressive face and I hate being so easy to read. I just want everyone to be normal at me.
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@IoleRae Ugh I’m sorry. I find that “Hangin’ in there!” can be a decent one to kind of communicate – “I’m not trying to pretend I’m 100%” but maybe doesn’t invite questions as much?
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@IoleRae This is my usual go-to lately.
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Even telling people the good stuff results in uncomfortable questions, and I’m at a point where my ‘fine’ or perky ‘doing good!’ isn’t fooling anybody. ‘Things are rough but I’m managing’ just prompts for details.
When someone asks me how I am in a situation where I can’t be honest and I want to discourage them from asking more, I usually answer, “It doesn’t matter.” That doesn’t sound like quite the vibe you’re going for, though.
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@IoleRae I can relate. Im not in a good place right now at all and there is just no masking sentiments of joy. I do not have the energy. But, I’ve taken an approach where I’m not going to apologize for my feelings. A friend saw me today at school where I pick up my son, asked how I was doing, because I probably looked like I was hanging on by a thread, saw my younger son was injured (he took a spill down the front steps and scraped up the entire side of his neck/clavicle). I told her “Not good. It’s a lot right now.” I only shared what I felt comfortable sharing, she respected that and then kid got out of class and we said goodbye. I’ve told several people today I just don’t want to speak. Not even ‘talk’. I just didn’t have the energy to speak. I have to take care of me. You have to take care of you in whatever form brings you comfort.
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On Monday, I had noticed while eating dinner that there was a sudden jagged edge to one of my molars. This was mildly worrisome, believe one my filling had broken free. Turns out, that was indeed the case when I got to the dentist today. I’ve never had to get a crown before, but as my dentist described to me, because of how wide the original filling was, there was some small underlying decay that was missed during the original cavity removal and eventually that caused the filling to partially break off.
I’m not frustrated about this exactly, just more in the fact that I’ve struggled with dentistry for a lot of my life, going back to when I first had a cavity as a kid and nothing was given to me. Just went in with the drill. So I literally felt everything going on and was far too scared to note how I was feeling. Ever since then it’s been hard to go to a dentist, despite how much I work at keeping my teeth clean. I still get all anxiety-laden and nervous the moment I hear the drill. Even if I’m being rational and being wholly aware the procedure should be painless, besides the needle into the jaw(which really I’m fine with that, needles oddly, have never bothered me).
So next week Friday, get to sit with my mouth open for an hour and a half while they carve down that tooth and fit temporary crown on while the permeant one is being made, and then two weeks later, I get the final one put on.
I still hate dentistry.
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@Testament dental anxiety is so real
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@Testament said in RL Peeves:
I still hate dentistry.
So do I and I have no phobia about it at all. It’s just uncomfortable. I have one crown (and needed root canal on that tooth) so can say it’s not really a big deal. One suggestion though: ask for a bite block.
It’s basically a block of rubber they put between your upper and lower teeth on the other side you’re not having work done on. It holds your mouth open so you don’t have to. Saves your jaw muscles from cramping from holding your mouth open yourself.
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@TNP Okay, I’ve been wanting to ask this and I haven’t gotten around to it yet. When I was given the option to either have a root canal or just get the tooth pulled, I went for the latter because of the horror stories I’ve heard regarding root canals. Granted, my dentist suggested the surgery because of how jacked up that tooth was due to how it grew, so I suppose the point is moot, but the root canal was an option. I know that sounds a bit extreme, because you’d think getting a tooth pulled out of your head would be hella painful, the reality is you just feel an enormous amount of pressure on your skull.
So are root canals the hell on earth that I believe they are, or is just my anxiety telling me as much?
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@Testament I had a root canal and honestly it was fine. Not hell at all. Standard dentist unpleasantness like getting the numbing shots and the drilling noises, but that was it.