Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent
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@Jenn Quite the opposite of making it worse - this resonated really well with the sort of feelings I’ve been having, and I’m not even going to pretend that you didn’t make me have a good, productive cry.
Thanks so much for sharing your experience. You laid it all out so beautifully.
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@Solstice I’m really, really sorry that it resonates. But I’m really grateful it could help.
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2023 is going out with a literal bang for our family:
Spoilers for gun violence content.
(All immediate family is ok, but uncle in law is not.)Mother in laws little brother got shot in the chest and is still in critical condition, can’t breathe on his own.And while she was up at the hospital she got a call that she’s got some sort of skin cancer they need her to have surgery to remove.
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@Cobalt Jesus. All the best to your family. I wish I could think of something more useful to say.
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Oh my God my aunt is insane. I just need her to calm the fuck down.
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As a teacher it is physically impossible to make sure everyone has their coat and water bottles.
- There are 24+ of them and 1 of me.
- Not all of them CAME with coats. For some kids they refuse to wear a coat and only come with a hoodie (or two). Keeping track of which kids have coats and which have just not gonna happen.
- Same for water bottles. Some kids bring two. Some bring none. Often two of them look exactly the same!
- Your kid DOES go to other classes during the day. This room is not the only one which means there are MULTIPLE places the coat and/or water bottle can be.
- Don’t get me started on hats and gloves.
To the adult that ranted at us to be “adults” and “take care of it” because her grandson can’t remember where he left his coat? Yeah. No. That isn’t on us, sorry.
This class especially because they are a sad train wreck that gets physically violent with one another any time the teacher turns her back.
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@junipersky Don’t you know you’re required to stop each student as they enter the class, take a complete written inventory of their personal possessions, and then stop each student as they leave the class while ticking off each item on the inventory? How can you expect a student to do a thing like “remember to wear a coat home in winter,” you heartless monster?
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I’m collecting phobias like they’re pokémon, and I would like to fucking release a few into the wild, thanks.
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Randomly this made me remember:
The Jedi Survivor PS5 game has an arachnophobia mode that will make all the spiders not spiders.
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@junipersky said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
The Jedi Survivor PS5 game has an arachnophobia mode that will make all the spiders not spiders.
Grounded has that too, which I appreciate. (Though they’re still all named spiders so it’s of middling benefit.)
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Just pretend they’re all Spider Robinson clones.
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Came home, water dripping from what we have since is learned is called a scuttlehole.
Hoping it is a roof leak because the HOA is in charge of paying that. If it is a pipe we are fucked. X.x
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I’m too young to get disability according to my doctor, but too broken to work according to my employer so fuck me I guess.
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@Cobalt Do you have resources to access a different doctor? It’s hard as hell in the US if you’re under 55. It took 4 years and two attorneys, but I qualified at thirty. If there’s anything I can do to help or support you while you try to navigate a walking talking nightmare designed to make everyone fail, I’ll do my best. I’m so, so sorry you’re stuck in that loop. It’s awful.
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Disability is hard in the US to get. A lot of people get denied and then have to get a disability lawyer. You can sometimes get help at legal aid. Sometimes.
I’m more curious - how does your work determine you are too broken? They can’t/don’t want to make accommodations?
Mind you, this is all your private information so you don’t have to share, I’m just curious.
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@Cobalt said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
I’m too young to get disability according to my doctor
I don’t know your specific situation, but this smells fishy. Even children can receive disability benefits in certain situations, and anyone over 18 can qualify (though as others have said, it is tougher when you’re younger). If a lawyer is not an option, there are disability advocacy organizations that can offer advice/support. Good luck!
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@Jenn you’re a doll. Right now I’m in the first stages of applying, so I’ll reach out.
@RightMeow My job wouldn’t give me disability accommodations until after I passed a mandatory 5-week training, despite passing twice the necessary testing with flying colors (like top 1% scores) and having 100% metrics in customer service. And cut me because the first time through training a medical procedure (nerve block on my spine) had me in agony for a week, and then the second time I got bronchitis but that’s “temporary” so they won’t cover that time. I can’t go back to my usual fall back of pizza delivery because I can’t stand, walk, bend, or lift enough to be able to function and do the job. But I also can’t find a work at home or desk job that will accommodate the autoimmune arthritis and degenerative disc on my back flare ups.
@Faraday My rheumatologist told me I was “too young” and basically accused me of trying to get onto disability so I could use it as early retirement. That she saw people who were supposed to be housebound but would be out going on vacations and stuff.
This was said directly in front of my mother in law who was furious about it.
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@Cobalt said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
That she saw people who were supposed to be housebound but would be out going on vacations and stuff.
omg, how dare someone on disability ever enjoy life for a few days, the nerve
that mentality is so goddamn prevalent and exhausting here.
