@Warma-Sheen said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

How much worse would it be to have to experience harassment and also be swiftly booted from the game because the harasser false reported you first and was believed without question so that you got banned and couldn’t report him? No thanks.

oh my god, what a horrible hypothetical situation to imagine, surely it must happen all the time since we hear about it so often

Like. Dude. Even in just the ten years I’ve been on the various incarnations of this board, I could only count on one fucking hand the number of times we saw someone report a false report that wasn’t almost immediately dismissed with ridiculous ease because it was just the dumbass abuser themselves trying to cover their tracks.

This is such a non-problem versus the enormous issue of harassment in the community that it makes me actually angry people push so hard like this to make reporting and being believed so difficult. This is not a court of law and collecting this irrefutable body of evidence y’all always seem to want is literally the last thing on the mind of someone being stalked, abused, harassed, etc. It’s an enormously stressful and honestly embarrassing experience that can leave you too scattered, not to mention staffers like Cujo and the flying monkeys the abusers surround themselves with magically always seem to decide that it’s never enough anyway.

My son’s teacher reached out to me on a conference call with his principal today very concerned. There were some legitimate reasons, but one of their items of evidence of inappropriate behavior was a “drawing of Satan.”

His class was tasked with drawing Nutcrackers after seeing the play, and…

This is the picture, loooooooool.

It’s a goddamn Super Saiyan from Dragon Ball.

Never change, Utah. I am honestly annoyed that they escalated this in particular BUT ALSO I have been cackling like a swamp witch for a good fifteen minutes since she sent it to me. I needed that laugh so bad.

When I was a teenager playing a Final Fantasy game, instead of simply OOC fading to black during romantic scenes where sex was heavily implied, I would write these elaborate little…intermission paragraphs (???) where a “chibi” version of my character would drag a protective curtain/screen/etc across the fourth wall, and then take a little smoke break or whatever before pushing it back off stage for the post-coital pillow talk. Every time.

I HAVE NO IDEA WHY I DID THIS, I AM SO SORRY

@kalakh said in Bannings:

derp, this thread’s anger summed up in two words:

we are not a community.

We were.

Not to dismiss that anger at all, but just to speak for myself, I always considered complete and utter dipshits like Derp and Ghost to be the narcissistic and annoying outliers in an otherwise pretty decent and engaging group of people that they just happened to desperately seek to belong to. To be frank everyone who kept me coming back to the boards for five years or whatever are more or less here now.

Y’all didn’t lose the community, you lost a website and a few bad apples. Personally that’s just one big ¯_(ツ)_/¯ to me, even if it was one of the shittier ways it could have happened.

I am bummed Gany made the decisions she made, that’s certainly disappointing from someone I have had a lot of respect for, but hopefully she sees the light someday. As for the other pigs wallowing in the mud back there…I mean, nothing of value was lost imho and I always figured they were bound to drop off under the weight of their own toxicity eventually.

Hope you all can find some healing in getting away from all that.

Alucard is very camera shy and always tries to scoot off when I’m taking pictures, but I finally managed to capture this beautiful portrait featuring his magnificent whiskers, lol:

@hellfrog

The “oh I gotta do some MANLY LIFTING from my TRUCK for my WIFE” is really what makes it for me. It wasn’t enough to lie, it had to be some macho shit too.

They all just randomly came and piled on top of me.

Guess I just…live here forever now.

@KarmaBum

Seriously, though. I don’t think I have seen a more fucking weaselly response in…ever?

@RedShoes said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

All sexual harassment claims are taken seriously though, and if deemed valid, and actively a serious burden, then expect that player to get banned.

Oh, it’s not enough that it is “valid,” a claim also has the mountain to climb of proving that is actively a serious burden.

I just…what. Actively a “serious” burden. So, what, people who aren’t harassing…enough(???) just skate on by, according to that standard.

It can’t be said often enough, fuck that dude.

@Rinel said in Predators and Roleplaying Communities:

Very few people who did not grow up as girls are fully aware of this problem.

I am not going to go into a lot of detail as I find it honestly upsetting to remember, but I did want to say that both my own experiences with older players who knew sexually explicit discussion/roleplaying with me was not appropriate given my age – which I openly admitted to anyone I regularly RPed with – were with women, or at least players that presented as women.

I am not trying to dispute ratios or anything like that, but I did feel like I should represent the fact that men typically vastly underreport sexual abuse in RL and it’s likely the case in the hobby as well.

my big guy loves to just come flop back and nap like this on my tum, it’s such a bright spot in my life

@Lemon-Fox said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

@dvoraen You could app a character in? 2000 bonus xp right now.

it does line up with my own anecdotal experience to a degree, though I do need to qualify that with, it’s pretty split along political lines in my family and their homeschooling communities. because of course it is.

@somasatori said in Tough Calls:

To me, it seemed like this particular person was really focused on playing a comic relief character as his whole shtick.

“comic relief” stemming from a grossly inaccurate caricature of a severe impairment. they were basically asking for staffer permission/endorsement to mock a person with disabilities. the yikes factor is pretty high on this one for me.

@somasatori said in Tough Calls:

ah yes, brain damage. what a laugh riot

I gotta be honest, that alone would probably be enough for me to tell someone to take a while to reflect and grow somewhere else before trying to play a game I ran again.

I knew someone personally before and after a traumatic head injury and how it changed their entire life is still one of the most tragic and depressing things I’ve ever seen.

@Jumpscare said in Tough Calls:

PEOPHIN
It feels like the only true option I’ve been given is “make a new character”. When I keep asking about being less disruptive, I’m not getting a definitive answer on what exactly that means, so I am confused, admittingly.

I would prefer to play a dumb (likely brain damaged) and loud character who rushes headfirst into things, who is obnoxious and meant from a OOC perspective to be taken as a joke, while still having serious moments as it happens in rp. Is there a way for that to be okay?

@Cobalt said in Empty Night - A Dresdenverse Game:

How difficult would it be to get into the game without having read them?

Dresdenverse is generic urban fantasy with a very light veil that is self-enforcing. there are some very specific setting things that are important to know (vampires come in a bunch of different varieties, magic users are policed by a ruling council, etc) but glancing at the website they seem to cover the basics pretty well.

since the game does away with the characters and most of the plots from the books I’d say you could jump right in.

@hellfrog said in Warma-Sheen:

this guy has more than once joined a game just to cheat, right out of the gate, with a side of negging the game runner from the fake alt for absolutely no reason. ‘your game sux, no one has reached out or been nice to me except Me’

not to mention some of his absolutely rancid takes here and back on MSB, most of which was consistently dismissing victims of harassment and insulting people trying to support them.

sincerely sorry to the people who came to his defense over the Empire thing, I don’t think it makes anything y’all were saying in general less valid, but the dude is a tool and didn’t deserve the benefit of the doubt.

@MisterBoring said in Warma-Sheen:

(Referring to the character list where Saulot claims to have been the same PC on TR as Warma.)

the Reach was open for a long time and names got recycled a lot, so…not to speak out for someone I know nothing about and doesn’t sound worth defending anyway, but I’m gonna guess no.

ask me about the nightmare experience that was apping in as a “Connor” there once and enduring a week of harassment from people who thought the last one was coming back, lol.

@Pavel

I reFUSE. it’s made from nuts!!! come on

@Jihgfed said in Intro to MU*ing Event:

And it looks like we have more votes for “mooing” than against, so there we go, now I’ll be able to feel a little less silly saying it onstage (though still silly). Thanks!

I feel like such a yokel for it but I’d always said “Muh.”

it made sense to me! there was only one “oo” codebase, but now I’m questioning everything. do y’all say “moods” and “mooshes”?!