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Pavel

@hellfrog That’s a hard lesson to learn, especially for us nerds with wonky brains. “If not friend, why friend shaped” might be a meme but it definitely resonates in some of my previous interactions on MUs (and in RL as well, let’s be real).

I have thankfully had the privilege of building some OOC bonds, but 99.999999% of people are like… colleagues. We work at the same RP mine, we might have a group project together, but we’re not going to the pub after the RP is done and I’m not going to write you a Christmas card.

It’s a really hard distinction to draw, especially when young.

hellfrog

@Yam Nip what in the bud in strangers? Just the general…combo of sensitivity/insensitivity that is ‘being difficult’?

I used to get a lot of shit for telling people on arx: 'people you rp with are not your friends. treat them like friendly strangers and don’t presume getting along in rp scenes means you are building real ooc bonds"

I was just in a position where I could see so many problems were the result of ‘i thought X and i were on the same page, now they have done something off-script and I am feeling HURT so their actions were done on purpose to HURT ME’

Pavel

@hellfrog said in Warma-Sheen:

I just wanted to know what the mindset is that makes someone sock puppet on a new game instead of, idk, trying to rp.

While I obviously can’t speak to anyone’s inner world without having many a chat with them, I can speak to mine back when I did this kind of thing in my very, very, very younger days: I wanted to Be The Best. Probably from a lack of validation at home, I sought reinforcement and attention elsewhere, to that end I wanted to be the richest character, or the combattiest character, or the bestest starfighter pilot or whatever. (ETA: This also included MUCH… ‘creative storytelling’ in my real life. Nothing majorly harmful, but very “I have a girlfriend in Canada” kind of vibe.)

Admittedly, these were all on code-heavy, RP-required-but-lite MUDs… but I imagine the same holds true in many other circumstances. Lack of validation and an inability to intrinsically motivate.

hellfrog

@Warma-Sheen
can you be for real for once

No one is even bringing receipts to this thread, when there are absolutely receipts that prove you are still lying/were lying when you got banned. The audacity of crying off with some ‘people love to go for blood’ when YOU WERE THE ONE WHO TRIED TO GET PEOPLE TO GO FOR BLOOD.

This isn’t 2001, no one believes your girlfriend wife from Canada ‘had’ your password and logged you on to accidentally pose as you. No one believes someone you never rpd with on a new game told you in secret that no one but you had been nice to them so please take all their org’s resources.

I just wanted to know what the mindset is that makes someone sock puppet on a new game instead of, idk, trying to rp.

Roadspike

@Cobalt Appreciate the attention, because we definitely don’t know everything about the various cultures that live and have lived in the area.

Here are our descriptions of the local native languages (groups) that we’ve included in the game thus far:

Sahaptin: Native American language spoken in the Columbia Plateau area of the interior Pacific Northwest.
Coast Salish: Native American language spoken in areas across the Salish Sea area in the Pacific Northwest.

If those are inaccurate, we’re happy to make corrections, but I feel like that fits what you’re saying.

MisterBoring

In my case, I think I’d prefer a very short pre-made list combined with a behavior filter. 99% of people get the filter, but there are a handful of people that would be on my pre-banned list, and if I discovered they were actively on my game, I would remove them. Even barring the potential for them to have learned from their mistakes, there are a few people in the hobby that I would immediately remove from my game just on past experiences.

Pavel

I’d absolutely follow the advice lain herein, but I would add: The game is your space. You can certainly consider it a shared space, but nobody else is entitled to be there. So don’t hesitate to pull the trigger, even if you’re tempted to offer chances. You have a right to peace of mind, they have the privilege of joining you.

ETA: Double-agree with @Pyrephox’s suggestion to avoid crowdsourcing. Not only would you be likely getting woefully outdated information, but you’d be at the mercy of our collective memory and our collective grudges. If they’re still a problem, they’ll reveal that in due time, if they’re not, then bully for all involved.

Pavel

When I was young, I had an imaginary friend, as I imagine most of us did. I would blame that imaginary friend for things as I grew older – I knew this person didn’t exist, but I wanted to get out of trouble. My mother, eventually, came up with an ingenious solution to the problem: I would be punished for things that the imaginary friend did.

Suddenly, the imaginary friend disappeared.

That excuse didn’t work coughcoughcoUGH years ago, it doesn’t work now. Even if it’s true, it’s absolutely still your fault – so minor kudos for accepting those lumps.

Tez

@Warma-Sheen said in Warma-Sheen:

The only time there’s been an accusation of cheating that was even close to true was on City of Glass. Another player who I knew RL and was close with at the time had my password and logged on my character to a social scene.

This is embarrassing. Please take time to reflect on your actions. If that’s impossible, please take time to come up with better excuses.

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