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  • RE: RL Peeves

    @RightMeow said:

    HR circles back to let me know the photo has been deleted. However, the male co-worker said he’s reaching out to his therapist about it and my female HR thinks that’s really good enough. As the photo was deleted and there was no harm.

    Why are they centring his feelings. Wtf is this pickme ass logic. I assume he’s a grown adult?? Oh wow so sad he’s still working through his issues to not take an inappropriate picture of a colleague without consent. Poor him, hope he can make it through this tough time???

  • RE: RL Peeves

    There’s no escalation at this point and not really one to go to. It’s just very frustrating as he’s had to be coached about making comments about people. I just keep thinking what if this was the minor child I have in my employ.

    Then I was like, am I being weird? I logically know I’m not but well thanks. It helps to hear that my reaction is probably the more sane one.

  • RE: RL Peeves

    @RightMeow said:

    As the photo was deleted and there was no harm.

    The harm was that it was taken at all, wtf

  • RE: RL Peeves

    @RightMeow said:

    As the photo was deleted and there was no harm.

    any HR rep worth anything would acknowledge it was the act that was the harm, and that it really didn’t matter if there wasn’t anything physical you could point to.

    that is super shitty, I’m sorry. is escalating not really on the table?

  • RE: RL Peeves

    @RightMeow said:
    Again, I don’t feel unsafe. I think he’s a creep, but I already thought that. It just… doesn’t sit well with me and I’m not fully sure why since again, I’m not having a reaction personally.

    Because there have been zero actual consequences. He behaved badly, in a way that was personally violating even if “iT wAsN’t AcTuAlLy DaNgErOuS!!!” and isn’t receiving so much as a reprimand as long as he talks to someone about his feelings. I’d literally bet money that your brain is sitting there going, “Ohh, so shitty men get to be shitty again without anything that even vaguely resembles accountability. Cool cool cool.” and just, like, hasn’t articulated that clearly to you yet.

  • RE: Non-Boring RP

    Florid Answer: I try to see if someone else is trying to push a specific storyline, and fall into that as best I can. If nobody’s pushing their stories or one of the game’s plots, then I’ll try and drive things around what my character has going on. Ultimately, I play “yes and” and try and have fun with it.

    Actual Truthful Answer: If I don’t hyperfocus on something in the RP, I’m basically a walk-on extra.

  • RE: Non-Boring RP

    I just show up. You’re welcome.

    Okay, really though a lot that has been said here. I check out their hooks and connections we might have. I try to pull something that I might know about them to loop them into something.

    I fall on their table. I engage directly with them. I swoon across their lap on a dare and make them carry me everywhere… that one might be too specific. I can’t guarantee I’m boring because I have horrible imposter syndrome most the time and think I’m the problem, but I do at least try to include them. Ask questions. Then I go off the vibe because my RP doesn’t fit all RP.

  • RE: RL Peeves

    About a week ago, a male co-worker took a picture on his phone of me bending over while I was cleaning and rearranging for work. We pulled cameras and it was clear as day Love that journey for us.

    I’m not too in my feels about it. Stupid men (no offense to the good ones) doing stupid men shit. I normally have the ‘talks’ around this but couldn’t as I was involved.

    HR circles back to let me know the photo has been deleted. However, the male co-worker said he’s reaching out to his therapist about it and my female HR thinks that’s really good enough. As the photo was deleted and there was no harm.

    Again, I don’t feel unsafe. I think he’s a creep, but I already thought that. It just… doesn’t sit well with me and I’m not fully sure why since again, I’m not having a reaction personally.

  • RE: Non-Boring RP

    I try to find some reason for why my character is specifically interested in their character. I try to approach scenes with some IC goal in mind, so we’re not just standing around, we’re trying to move to a specific point.

    For example, all things I’ve done:

    • If I’m playing a bard, I might compose a song about their character
    • If I’m playing a journalist, I might interview them for an article
    • If I’m playing a bartender, I might name a dish or cocktail after them
    • If I’m playing a private eye, I might interrogate them about their whereabouts during a recent crime
    • If I’m playing an evil scientist, I might contrive a reason for why they’re uniquely important for the purpose of my experiments.

    With varying degrees of success, I also try to make people laugh, most often at the expense of my own character’s flaws. I think this also has the double effect of signalling to the other player that I’m aware of these flaws and not gonna take it too seriously OOC if they wanna rib or even just disagree with my character. Which is also a signal I seek out in other preferred scene partners. For example, in a single pose my character might brag about how they can totally clear a hurdle, fail spectacularly, and then get embarrassed. And that way, hopefully you the player know that I’m not expecting you to glaze how cool and perfect my character is, which I think nobody really enjoys doing.

  • RE: Non-Boring RP

    @Ashkuri It’s hard to put a finger sometimes on what makes rp feel flat. There needs to be something in the poses that I can stick into and respond. Humor is great, not required but great. Active verbs help. Taking an interest in what is happening / the setting / the other characters help. Buy-in – don’t no-sell the threat, let other characters matter to your rp.

    Be… interesting… this is not helpful to anyone.

    It helps if you become bird.