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@icanbeyourmuse I poked at this, but i was pretty turned off by the fact that I filled out some preferences when I signed up and they matched me with a therapist that fit none of the preferences I’d set.
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Before giving any data to BetterHelp, it’s important to know that they were recently fined something like 8 million dollars for selling patient data to companies like Facebook and SnapChat. They promised not to do it again… but they kinda promised not to do it when you sign up, so I’d take that with a whole shaker of salt.
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Cost benefit is always important to weigh. For me the fact that I can have almost weekly therapy is worth all the data they can sell on me. Is it a great cost? Nah. But this is AMERICA where health care is almost always choosing the lesser of shitty options.
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@sao Maybe it changed since you last tried (that sounds snarky in my head rreading it back but it isn’t meant to be). I don’t know how long it is since you did, obviously. Hopefully you can get what you need soon.
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I have a lot of complaints about BetterHelp, but most of them are related to their contracting practices and wouldn’t offer much insight into how they work from a consumer perspective. One positive thing I will say about BetterHelp is that has been useful is that there are many places in the US – and Canada, I would presume – that have no access to mental health resources whatsoever. When I lived in Oklahoma, for example, most mental health resources were available in the two major cities (OKC and Tulsa) but those cities are within about an hour and a half drive of each other with many small towns beyond that range. There are other services that could help you if you have bad luck with BetterHelp though. ReGain is one of them, there’s no matching algorithm that I recall with that.
TalkSpace has you do a short assessment with someone who will match you with a therapist, so it’s a little more hands-on. They also will work with insurance. I can’t remember if BetterHelp works with insurance or not. TimelyCare is something my university offers to undergrads through post-docs, but I think they have an alumni program, so if you went to college and still have your .edu email address, you might be able to find some resources through your alma mater. A lot of therapy apps are doing work with corporations as well, which gets a little dicey in terms of what you might feel comfortable sharing (technically in industrial psychology the company is the client and the workers are child clients of the company).
Anyway, all that to say that there is a lot of help out there. Despite that it is hard to find someone, especially someone with whom you really connect. And sometimes if you do, it’s often prohibitively expensive. In any case, I hope you find someone!
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@somasatori said in Predators and Roleplaying Communities:
technically in industrial psychology the company is the client and the workers are child clients of the company
The ethics organ in my brain (probably the amygdala) just squirmed at that…
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@Pavel said in Predators and Roleplaying Communities:
@somasatori said in Predators and Roleplaying Communities:
technically in industrial psychology the company is the client and the workers are child clients of the company
The ethics organ in my brain (probably the amygdala) just squirmed at that…
YEAH! I remember when I first learned that. Also, in forensic psychology the employer (prison or district) is the client, not the prisoner/parolee, so there is no ethical requirement to privacy for prisoners. It’s why I did a trauma emphasis instead of a forensic emphasis.
(Also I veered us wildly off topic, sorry about that!)
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Thank you for sharing this, Cobalt. LAMush was the first World of Darkness game I ever played, and the first MUSH. I was 17 when I first signed in. There were bad things that happened there which I have heard about over the years, including the infamous meetup. I experienced a few borderline things myself in pages and scenes. I thought it was just how things were, like hazing or I was just new to the MU* scene, and since I was too young and didn’t want people to know I was too young I made the mistake of not speaking up.
I’ve often had an overly rosy view of that place which I may have shared with you on occasion later on other games, and now that I realize how oblivious I was, I feel awful. I’ve been out of the hobby a long time, but I’ve always liked roleplaying with you when we’ve come across each other over the years. So, I felt compelled to say thank you for your courage and screw LAMush. And thanks for making the scene a safer place.
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A reminder to everyone:
Just because you’re an adult doesn’t mean you can’t be victimized. Just because you think you know better doesn’t mean you’ll always listen to the red flags. Just because you’ve handled shit before with grace doesn’t mean you always will. Just because everyone in a community says ‘oh man, so-and-so is such a good dude, you should ask him for advice/insight/resources/whatever’ doesn’t mean he can be trusted or he’s without flaws, or that if he sends you an unsolicited dick video that ‘you should be flattered’. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t speak up or no one will believe you. And just because you flirted back because ‘really, everyone says he’s such a great guy/leader/whatever, the problem has to be me’, doesn’t mean you were not victimized, or that your feelings about being victimized are not valid.
I don’t know if this is the right place to put this, but I hope it reaches the people that need to see it. We have got to stop blaming ourselves for other people’s shitty behavior.
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@crawfish said in Predators and Roleplaying Communities:
Just because you think you know better doesn’t mean you’ll always listen to the red flags.
If I make a little light fun of the idea of listening to a flag, it’s only because your post made me feel things that I needed to find a way to laugh at. Thank you for these reminders, though, seriously.
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@GF I mean I get it. If we don’t laugh sometimes, we’d cry. Right?
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@crawfish Or you can be an overachiever and do both!
Seriously though. Thank you for that reminder. It is very much appreciated.
