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@Testament it sounds like it’s in @meg’s hotel room, if I’m reading this right?
if it has its own livingroom, it’s a suite
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On another note, if we are ever considering BMD to be someone’s living room, rather than the town square that I think a lot of us consider it to be (???), then I would very much like to be informed.
Sorry, I want to be in a living room with friends. I don’t want to be stuck in a living room with a bunch of randos. I’ll attend a MU* con, but I won’t have you all back to my hotel room.
The living room policy is something I will always associate with Firan so, you know, I think that is ALL I WILL SAY ON THAT.
If only some genius had already compared certain recent events to the last days of Firan. That person would be smug right now.
Was that person you? I just hadn’t made a Firan joke in ages, I felt like one was due.
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@Testament said in Bannings:
On another note, if we are ever considering BMD to be someone’s living room, rather than the town square that I think a lot of us consider it to be (???), then I would very much like to be informed.
Sorry, I want to be in a living room with friends. I don’t want to be stuck in a living room with a bunch of randos. I’ll attend a MU* con, but I won’t have you all back to my hotel room.
The living room policy is something I will always associate with Firan so, you know, I think that is ALL I WILL SAY ON THAT.
If only some genius had already compared certain recent events to the last days of Firan. That person would be smug right now.
Was that person you? I just hadn’t made a Firan joke in ages, I felt like one was due.
When someone shows you who they are, over and over again? Believe them.
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@Narson oh I’m sorry. I thought that was just your face
let it be a challenge to you
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On another note, if we are ever considering BMD to be someone’s living room, rather than the town square that I think a lot of us consider it to be (???), then I would very much like to be informed.
I will say that I liken it to a town square, but like a town square on market day. You’re free to act how you will, of course, but certain spaces are for certain things and it’s a real dick move to run counter to that intention.
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@sao Resting smug face is a thing.
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@hobos I’m a little late to this, but.
I saw what I saw. She lied to me. Repeatedly, and I thought we were on good terms. She’s definitely lying to you.
That’s all I’m going to say on this.
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My god what I’d give to never read about VK ever again. I was friends with her once and wish I never met her. There.
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@Smile I don’t think I know her and sick of hearing about her.
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She did gross stuff to me personally, directly, within recent memory. She also did the same thing to me before. She used the first time she did it as evidence that I deserved the second time she did it. I knew nobody would believe me so I didn’t fight it, didn’t offer her a target, and did everything I could to stay off of her radar. It worked. Eventually other people figured out what had happened and I got apologized to. I’m only a little bitter, and my ire is reserved these days for her. The position that she put me in with her lies and gaslighting – that people I liked and respected believed UNTRUE things about me – it was hurtful, and it was deliberate, and I never got an apology from her.
There’s no fucking "both sides’ here. She did NOT apologize. She has NEVER apologized. I DID NOT AND NEVER DID DESERVE WHAT IT IS SHE DID TO ME. NOT EVEN A LITTLE BIT. NO HUMAN BEING EVER DESERVES TO BE TREATED LIKE THAT.
And let me tell you, not being believed by people I respected and trusted SUCKED. It sucked on a fucking primal goddamned level.
It STILL makes me hurt and frustrates me on a fairly regular basis that thanks to her and one other DELIGHTFUL fucking individual, there are a number of people who genuinely believe some really terrible things about me, but don’t even really remember where it came from or why they think it. I long ago realized that the only way to get past that is just to keep showing up as myself, but it’s fucking rough sometimes. ESPECIALLY when people start howling that this sort of behavior, the person did nothing wrong. WTAF.
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It’s very easy to believe her when the tinted glasses are on. She seems lovely at first and then you -see- her pulling some bullshit and you’re like “well shit”. I kind of hope hobos snaps out of it soon but if he doesn’t, his problem.
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@IoleRae I think I’ve been lucky enough to dodge her on most places, but I’m sorry she tricked folks about you, and I’m glad you’re doing better!
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@IoleRae For what it’s worth Sunny, I think I had enough of a balance in the people I spoke to that I didn’t just take what one person said to me and run with it. I think a lot of people have more than one MU group (regardless of the clique suggestions), so we hear different things from different people and draw our own conclusions. It doesn’t mean our conclusions are right but it does stop us thinking of people as ‘bad’ or ‘good’ until we see evidence of the behavior.
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Thanks. It’s a particular sort of manipulation tactic that relies heavily on humans being humans – it’s really hard to think that somebody you enjoy so much is literally making things up wholecloth about somebody who can be super abrasive. It is what it is, you know?
But when it’s exposed, and open in the light, and everybody can SEE it, I have absolutely no comprehension as to how anyone can condone that behavior. It’s deliberately hurtful!
While I appreciate that, I was told directly that I was a liar, and I was also subject to a number of very drastic shifts in level of engagement in areas that were really predictable and clear to see from my perspective. It was also confirmed to me in the apologies I was tendered that I was not imagining that people were believing her shit and treating me differently because of it.
the entity previously known as Sunny
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I am so sorry about that. That’s fucking awful.
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But when it’s exposed, and open in the light, and everybody can SEE it, I have absolutely no comprehension as to how anyone can condone that behavior. It’s deliberately hurtful!
Again, not wading in on the debate here:
But this is actually a combination of two interesting psychological phenomena. The status quo effect, which makes it hard to change thought patterns, even if the new option is better for us in some way, and the anchoring bias, which is where we tend to stick with the first thing we learn on a subject (often seen in a person’s preferred version of something, like which is one’s favourite James Bond, for instance).
This isn’t an excuse for any of the aforementioned behaviours, but something one should keep in mind when encountering new information regardless of what it is. Your cognitive brain doesn’t assume new information is as important as reinforcing old information.
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@Pavel Yes. My fave bond was Pierce Brosnan because Die Another Day was the first Bond film I watched.
I then watched more. So.
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I am OK. But this is the behavior that’s being defended. It’s disgusting. People don’t forget this shit, no matter how many times you change your name.
I’ve done some shit in this hobby. I’ve made a lot of mistakes. I’m nowhere near a saint, and I completely understand when people don’t like me for honest reasons. I’m a lot to take, sometimes! But I am not deliberately cruel. I generally mean well. I care really hard about everybody involved here whether they care about ME or not.
My mistakes don’t justify what she did to me. Nobody else’s mistakes justifies what she did to them. She MAKES THINGS UP. Completely. Totally. Out of nothing. Again and again, it’s a pattern of behavior.
Why? Why me? Why do I get targeted for these campaigns? I don’t know, I don’t understand, but it’s happened enough times that a- I know mostly how to deal with it, and b- I can be pretty secure in knowing the truth will come out eventually. It has, EVERY time so far. Even Spider got caught eventually. Somebody might not believe me today, but they will eventually, and things will be OK.
That’s fucking fascinating, thank you.
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@Pavel I’d say it also plays into the blowback effect to some degree. That once we establish a certain bias that frames part of our worldview, it is very, very difficult to change that. As it means confronting the aspect that our worldview may be wrong.
To the degree that this part of our brain that rationalizes these things is also tied to our fight or flight response. So when we’re confronted with something as truth that disproves our already established bias, people sometimes have a physical response to it.
I’m not saying this is what’s happening here, but it does remind me of it.
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