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Real life happy
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I may have to try this.
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What kind of bread do y’all use for that?
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Hey. I got married.
My feet hurt.
I’m not hungover.
I realized that by using my experience from RPing on mushes, that apparently I write really good vows while under an extreme time-crunch. My family was surprised because they don’t hear my talk at length a lot.
My brother-in-law who is a stupidly gifted singer and guitarist played an acoustic version of Nine Inch Nails’ “We’re in this Together Now” because he and my wife knew how much of a NIN fan I am. That was the closest I came to absolutely losing my shit. He then played a Jimmy Eat World song for her.
It was all worth it. Even if the photographers couldn’t figure out which grandmother was on which side of the family. I’ll have more details later. I slept, but I’m still exhausted.
But…I’m happy. For the first time in a very long time, I’m truly happy. Not the kind of happy that say you are because you don’t want anyone to worry about you, but the honest kind. That’s as sappy as I’ll get here but, yeah.
For right now, in this moment. I’m good.
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In yet another entry in the saga that is my year, I got a flat tire. The whole thing was a harrowing experience, but that’s not what I’m here to talk about.
I’m here to talk about the tire guys I went to. So I thought my tire was REALLY dead, and I was prepared to have to replace. Found a place on google that had used tires and a bunch of glowing reviews, in a terrible, terrible part of the big city I am in (I am a rural girl, folks). Deep breath.
So I went (driving on my spare), and when I got there, the place looked dire. Like, REALLY dire. I wasn’t entirely sure I had made the right choice, but in for a penny, in for a pound, I pulled in between a couple of piles of garbage tires.
A helpful, helpful man stepped out of the dire little shack.
I explain to him what’s going on; my tire is dead, I need a replacement, I know I probably have to buy two. He looks at my tires and goes ‘nah, probably only one, but I see the old one there, can we fix it?’ I was all, 'I’m pretty sure it’s toast but you can look at it if you want."
Long story short, it was completely fixable. I expected several hundred dollars; my total was $15. They checked my other tires (everything was fine), put air in two of them. These guys could EASILY have sold me the tires I was there for originally – they didn’t.
When I started crying (relief), guy looks at me and is like, “It gets better. It really does.”
So. Yeah. That was my today.
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Rewatching Buffy is the ultimate comfort blanket.
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@Kestrel said in Real life happy:
Rewatching Buffy is the ultimate comfort blanket.
I think they’ve been mentioned here, but the Buffering the Vampire Slayer podcast just finished their recap/review of the entire series and it is awesome! Really thoughtful retrospectives, insight into behind the scenes stuff, and a surprising number of cast/crew interviews, all worth going out of the way for.
I just finished a rewatch while listening along and felt like I walked away with so much more this time around, it was great. Def recommend if you’re into that kinda thing!
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It’s raining. Finally like real, solid rain. And it’s washed all the smoke and dust away, and the air is so sweet and clean I can’t really describe it. But I am definitely following the advice of the smoke map notice.
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I am happy and eternally grateful to the wider MU* community for being the reason I went and got myself an ADHD diagnosis just over a year ago today, and the chain reaction this has set off to finally feeling like I’m able to pursue the dreams I’d given up a decade ago. I never had any idea that life could be as easy as it is now.
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The second toe of my left foot is involuntarily twitching. I could stop it by clenching, but I don’t want to because it’s funny watching it stay straight as an arrow while flicking up and down like an invisible elf thinks my toe is the light switch.
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I rarely to never at the shelter as late as I was today. Husband almost never wants Nepali food. We usually fill up the gas tank at 150 miles (the gage is broken, so we used the trip meter to know when to fill up) but accidentally pushed it to 170. I NEVER go to that particular gas station because it is in a BAD part of town. Finally, I never pay with cash, but had to this time because I left my wallet at school.
But all those things happened and it was a good thing. Walking in to pay I see a teenager sitting outside that looks familiar. I’m white and very open about the fact that I sometimes get people of color mixed up so I start Apologizing for being creepy and staring when the person says, “It’s me Ms.” And it WAS her. One of my former students who started high school. She had gotten lost trying to get to an aunt’s house. Her phone was dead and she was scared shitless. So I gave her my phone to call her mom, and then sat with her till her mom got there. I’m glad I did too because it is NOT a good area of town. Some men asked if we were there to buy (didn’t specify what, but we can all make a safe assumption it wasn’t legal) and some other creeps came to try to chat her up. They left when they realized I was there with her. Took her mom about 45 minutes to get there.
This is the kind of experience that makes me believe in the divine. Too many coincidences.
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The inordinate amount of time I’ve wasted obsessing over numbers going up in idle incremental games has started unexpectedly paying off, with all the pointless math it taught me suddenly relevant to the MSc I’m working on.
I wish I could say the same for the time I’ve spent on MU*, which has taught me the polar opposite of a useful writing style.
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Took a half day from work to help trap some ferals. Ended up with 4 of the 10 cats. Didn’t see any kittens alas, but we left some traps up and we’re hoping maybe some others pop up.
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The tiny little mirp a kitty makes when woken up.
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I was going to put this in my vent but I didn’t want it tainted, with that. The good things.
I worked a very stressful job for years. I set a standard with it. I ran a team of about 150-200 people. I fought ‘the boys club’ and held my own. However, this did not come without a cost. I LIVED my job. I was there 50-70 hours. It was toxic. I could never do it right. I had to work six times harder. My solutions were not solutions. My obstacles were excuses. Then I made the scary decision to quit my job (which I posted here) to give myself a ‘work/life’ balance. I took a pay cut to do this.
Well, I’ve been doing this new job almost 90 days now. So for my check-in. I’m good with this. The culture is very focused on mental health. I’m praised for my strengths. I’m encouraged to give my thoughts and feedback. They are great at saying I’m valued. I’ve been waiting for the shoe to drop, but there isn’t any shoes. This is how it is.
I’m traveling more. I have a few weekends off here and there. I’m going out and reconnecting with my friends and my family more. I just want to check in and say – it was a good choice.
If you are uncertain in something like this. Take the leap. Go on the trip. Do the thing. I’ve been able to decrease anxiety medications. I almost feel like myself again (more on that in other threads), but it was a GREAT decision and my finances have taken care of themselves too.
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Had a down morning and couldn’t get out of the rut but then:
@Tez smashed my brain weasels and made the sun come out.
Two people got their orders and were happy about their stuff.
My mom came over and had tea with me.
My son’s occupational therapist continues to advocate for my child and it’s so fucking humbling.
I cleaned my kitchen.
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In the midst of the chaos that is my life, I have received (and accepted) a job offer with a life changing salary, 3/4ths full time hours, with my old boss that got fired from my current job (and two of my other former coworkers I miss more than I would my arm if it got cut off). Doing the work I’m good at (that has been taken away from me at the tribe itself) with people that actively need MY specific brand of help, not just a warm body.
The start date is quite a ways off (I don’t want to leave the tribe out in the cold), but I have one. I’ve never made anywhere near this much money. I’m gonna be able to --even with my medical challenges-- get my white picket fences, a working car, and pay off all my years of medical bills.
It’s really hard to believe it’s gonna happen, but if it does…damn.
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LET’S GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!
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In Occam I trust.
