Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent

Roadspike

Many school boards do have policies for how to comport themselves on social media, or at the very least agreements on how they will do so. Unfortunately, school board challengers aren’t held to the same standards because they aren’t school board members yet – and because the alt-right whackjobs running for school boards don’t care about policies, rules, laws, or societal norms unless they’re screeching about how being welcoming to minorities of any sort (besides themselves) impinges on their “religious freedoms.”

Source: Am school board member.

@mietze – I would love to have a community discussion group like that in our district, even if 5-figures would be the entire voter base of our district (or more). Getting people to engage with what’s going on with schools when they don’t have a problem is super-hard.

Wizz

having a suspicion for a long while that people have been very dishonest with you/have been trying to make you feel bad in really underhanded, shitty ways.

even if it turns out not to be wholly true, it’s a lousy, exhausting feeling to have. I have had plenty of legitimate reasons to worry about my physical/mental safety from some truly awful monsters in my life and I’m just tired of dealing with petty people who can’t grow up who try the same tactics for astonishingly childish reasons.

Cobalt

I can’t go into details b/c it’s personal family stuff, but by god today was an absolute shit-show. Just a complete and utter shit show. I am so tired. My head hurts. I wish I could just go sleep for a month.

Gashlycrumb

For the love of god and all that is holy will people please do their own damn work and not ‘help’ me by doing random bits of mine, putting the tools and/or materials I need to do mine in new and undisclosed locations, and clogging up every work-space with their own shit, which I don’t mess with because it’s not mine, and which they don’t deal with because they are too busy fucking with my shit which I have repeatedly asked them to leave the fuck alone?

Come on, ffs, why the fuck can my dog learn “leave it” at 14 weeks old but I go over this weekly with adult humans for years on end to no avail?

sao

My job is killing me with stress and eating my time and energy while numerous mediocre white dudes are leaving several minute voicemails on my phone daily about how I’m not doing enough to help them. The reason I’m not doing enough to help them is not that I am slacking off mostly but that my time is occupied helping other people who it is also my job to help and there are a limit to the number of hours in the working day. I do work longer than scheduled sometimes but I’m playing catchup from 10 days out with covid and while each individual I speak to claims to empathize with this, in aggregate they all continue to be explosive bundles of whining about why their case is not magically over already.

P.S. you would not want your case to be over because the things that it is taking me time to do are things like locate YOUR witnesses.

While typing this rant I just got another voicemail from a client I have not yet met, asking me to do a legal task for him that is not part of my job, which would require me to be or have a notary public (which I’m not).

I’m tired.

Cobalt

I’m being melodramatic but I feel like I’m dying and honestly debating just saying fuck it and ordering an Uber to the ER. -.-

hellfrog

@Cobalt hey, you doing okay?

Cobalt

@hellfrog I have been throwing up for days now which means I’m not keeping my anxiety meds down so my brain is screaming at me that I’m dying. The ER says it was just a kidney stone tho.

Wuff

@Cobalt

That’s still gonna suck till it passes. So do what ya can to feel better!

Faraday

Hope you feel better @Cobalt. Kidney stones are awful.

Testament

Take care of yourself out there. My SO got the new strain of Covid and it’s pretty awful. She’s been bedridden since Saturday. Definitely worse than the first time she got it a couple years ago.

Tez

@Testament My boss got fucking clobbered by it and had a similar experience. I’m hearing a lot that this strand is worse. I went and bullied the whole house into hurrying our boosters as a result.

Testament

@Tez I just got a verbal offer for a new job and I’m terrified of coming down with Covid too. So I may be getting another booster before getting the written contract. It’d look not the best starting new job and then calling out because of Covid.

sao

It knocked me on my ASS. Take care of yourselves.

mietze

I still have some of the pain and fatigue over 2 months later. Please please consider getting the booster if you’ve not already done so. I’m pretty sure had I not had the paxlovid access I would have had to go to the hospital.

Cobalt

My at home test said this wasn’t COVID, but after my ER visit I’ve developed a cough that hurts something fierce.

Faraday

PSA (but also relevant to @Cobalt’s comment):

The at-home covid tests have a fair number of false negatives, aka they report negative even when you’re positive (as much as 1 in 5). The FDA recommends serial testing - 2 tests, 48 hrs apart if you have symptoms or 3 tests (also 48 hrs apart) if you don’t. This gives more confidence that a negative test result is truly negative.

Think of it like a smoke alarm that only checks for smoke when you ask it. If it’s going off (positive test), you can be pretty confident there’s smoke. But if it’s not going off (negative test), you may want to check again in a bit. Could be the fire’s just getting started, or you didn’t get a good air sample.

Also FYI - each household can once again order 4 free covid tests.

Cobalt

@Faraday Yeah my doctor is making me take another one to be sure it’s safe for me to come in a get a chest X-ray.

Which is to say an update:

I feel like I’m breathing through cotton, I’m spitting up tiny amounts of blood (could be covid, could be throat irritation from coughing, could be flu, could be pneumonia).

I woke up with something imbedded in my eye this morning which was fun to deal with. And just in general I hate being sick.

I’ve turned into an absolute monster cause I haven’t been able to keep my lexapro down and I hate how mean im being to my family but at the same time if they would just STOP asking me stupid ducking questions….

ETA:second COVID test is negative.

mietze

There is a pretty nasty virus still making the rounds than jumps into pneumonia quickly thar isn’t covid. Both hubby and I got very ill with it this summer and something similar is decimating the adults at my workplace. I hope you are able to make it in to your xray and they can do something to alleviate some of the suffering.

Cobalt

@mietze My current working theory is the hospital gave me pneumonia when they shot me full of benadryl to do ct scans. Because fun fact: I’m allergic to CT contrast. And further fun fact, when I take IV benadryl (required to keep me from having a reaction to the contrast) it hits me straight in the chest and makes me not able to breathe for about 30-seconds.