RL Peeves
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@Solstice OH we’ve already had a conversation about family I’m not inviting (she had a very small family that is just her mom and half brother). I don’t want my entire family there for reasons that are too long winded and nobody needs to know my internal family drama.
With prices the way they are, it’s just been…difficult to afford everything.
I’m also expecting…opinions that I have a best woman as opposed to a best man with flamboyant hot pink hair and doesn’t hide her thoughts on anything. I just know my brother and I are going to have a conversation.
When I think on it, we really should’ve eloped. But I know why we didn’t. It’s important to my fiancé, as she never really had a family. So that’s really why I’m going through all of this. It’s important to her. That makes it worth it.
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@Testament Elope and half the money you save on the wedding can be used for a fantastic honeymoon.
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@Testament said in RL Peeves:
When I think on it, we really should’ve eloped. But I know why we didn’t. It’s important to my fiancé, as she never really had a family. So that’s really why I’m going through all of this. It’s important to her. That makes it worth it.
This makes me happy to read.
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@IoleRae She really just wants this one day. For the father that bailed when she was 2. For the nights she and her mom lived in a woman’s shelter. For the NA meetings she had to sit at because she was too young to be at home. For the older half brother that she still looks up to as her hero. She just wants this one time. And she knows how silly it all is.
I may never understand that, how hard her upbringing was, but I don’t need to understand it to know how important it is to her. So, she’ll have her day.
And hey, apparently I still look good in a suit, so there’s that.
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You guys are gonna be so happy. So happy for you. Good luck coping with the stress in the meantime though, it’s definitely rough.
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@IoleRae The biggest controversy thus far is we having pie instead of cake, because I hate cake and love pie.
It’s created fun, heated debate. Stressful? Yeah it all is, but it will create good memories. The stress is worth it. Or well, I say that now.
The countdown to October 8th continues.
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@Testament I don’t think we’ve ever directly interacted (I could be wrong, my memory is shit in general and this past year isn’t one I’m fighting to keep hold of, in all honesty) but I’ve paid attention when you post because you seem like a pretty cool person who has seen some shit, as they say, and I always find myself rooting for you when you open up.
Good luck with all the planning, I’m really hoping your spouse-to-be gets that one special perfect (for her, whatever form that takes) day, and that you get to eat all the glorious pie you want without shame or recrimination.
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@Testament said in RL Peeves:
The price of weddings are dumb.
Yes. The price goes up exponentially when you mention stuff is for a wedding. I started saying it was a family reunion in some spots when I got married.
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@eye8urcake said in RL Peeves:
@Testament I don’t think we’ve ever directly interacted (I could be wrong, my memory is shit in general and this past year isn’t one I’m fighting to keep hold of, in all honesty) but I’ve paid attention when you post because you seem like a pretty cool person who has seen some shit, as they say, and I always find myself rooting for you when you open up.
Good luck with all the planning, I’m really hoping your spouse-to-be gets that one special perfect (for her, whatever form that takes) day, and that you get to eat all the glorious pie you want without shame or recrimination.
I wish I knew how to respond to this with something that wasn’t awkward humility… As I don’t consider myself much realistically. I’ve done some pretty shitty things in past when it comes to how I’ve treated other people in the mush-sphere. I understand the things I’ve done, the people I’ve hurt, and the guilt associated with it as a constant thing I must live with.
I like to think I’ve grown and matured as a person who is fallible. I will never make all the right choices at the right times. I’ve tried to right my wrong, make penance for the hurt I’ve caused. I will likely not be forgiven for some of them. I’ve accepted that. What it has done has made reevaluate my life for who I am and how I treat people. My own untreated depression fueled my indifference in years past, which I have since tried to use that as a point of power to create empathy. So that very depression is no longer used as a weapon to hurt others, but as a vehicle to understand and try to help.
Also my fiancé plays a large part in that, as she played a large part in showing me that what I was doing wrong and admitting that I needed to turn things around. Her and a few others who saw it for what it was; a desperate plea for help.
But, thank you for saying all that. I am neither interesting or cool, but I appreciate the compliment.
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Sorry, you are BOTH interesting AND cool. All that’s required for that is for people to find you so, and we do. HA HA.
More seriously, we’ve all fucked up. Well, almost all of us. Some of us in bigger ways than others. I hope you can forgive yourself sooner, rather than later.
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Sorry, you are BOTH interesting AND cool. All that’s required for that is for people to find you so, and we do. HA HA.
More seriously, we’ve all fucked up. Well, almost all of us. Some of us in bigger ways than others. I hope you can forgive yourself sooner, rather than later.
The higher you are, the farther you fall. The longer the walk, the farther you crawl. My mind, my temple. And this temple, it tilts. To err is human, to forgive is divine.
My depression may be apart of why I’m unable to truly let go and forgive myself. But that too is an upward climb. And if talking about these things offers solace to others who may be suffering the same, this is why I talk about them. Because you are not alone in these things.
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Sorry, you are BOTH interesting AND cool. All that’s required for that is for people to find you so, and we do. HA HA.
More seriously, we’ve all fucked up. Well, almost all of us. Some of us in bigger ways than others. I hope you can forgive yourself sooner, rather than later.
I AM COOL AND INTERESTING.
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My landlord just texted me to let me know I owe them a few hundred bucks in late fees that have been accumulating since November 2020 that they just hadn’t thought to mention before today. I must be driving past a farm, because I’m getting a whiff of the old bullshit.
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So. At my job – I hit my mental health oh they can only be a workhorse for so long limit. However, as I’m also a patient goblin, I also play one mean long-game that appears to be playing out in my favor. Otherwise, I was going to quit by singing during a zoom call. I really and truly was. I’ve made myself desperately needed by my job in a way that will allow me to keep my benefits but take time to breathe and it feels good.
Edit: OR - or I can coddle an interview and get a whole new job.
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Nextdoor is by far my LEAST favorite social media platform. That said, I do keep up with it because every once in a while I get something useful from it.
Even when some absolute sewer shit of a person posts “Anyone want a cat? I might have to give mine up.”
Don’t worry, I’m not jumping to judgement. Someone else asked, “What happened?” and this person replied, “I have a friend who has severe allergies who comes to visit once in a while.”
A) Screw you, that was your cat’s place first.
B) I did immediately send your name to the person in charge of our shelter and you are banned from ever adopting us.Kudos on you for not having done it, but SHAME SHAME SHAME for even CONSIDERING IT for that reason.
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Today I found out about the existence of onion rings “breaded” in hamburger and wrapped so completely in bacon that no beef shows through. Fuck off with that.
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@GF that sounds absolutely amazing, I’ll definitely take that peeve off your hands if you could tell me where I might find that lol
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@bear_necessities The only thing worse than not getting to eat that for health reasons is other people being healthy enough to eat them.
Also every child should be crippled with unpayable student loan debt because I was and I want everyone to suffer as much as me.
