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RL Peeves
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@eye8urcake THAT’S NOT A STUPID PEEVE YOU SHOULD MOVE
The Kitchen Kingdom has been fully annexed by the Spider Empire and Shelob Jrs #1-#8,000,000.
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Planning a wedding. They suck. Not the wedding itself, but…everything around and involved with it.
I used to thinking mushing or running a mush was stressful. Then I learned the kind of hell I deal with when looking at various quotes for a suit or flowers or why my mother changes her mind about what dress she wants to wear three times a week. I barely have bandwidth for anything else these days.
Weddings are dumb. Except not. No, I’ll rephrase; the price of weddings are dumb.
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@Testament said in RL Peeves:
Planning a wedding. They suck. Not the wedding itself, but…everything around and involved with it.
I used to thinking mushing or running a mush was stressful. Then I learned the kind of hell I deal with when looking at various quotes for a suit or flowers or why my mother changes her mind about what dress she wants to wear three times a week. I barely have bandwidth for anything else these days.
Weddings are dumb. Except not. No, I’ll rephrase; the price of weddings are dumb.
can i come. i am a wonderful wedding guest. just ask @Tat .
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@Testament I had a fantastic wedding. Budget was fine, the only incidents were funny in hindsight, great party, everyone seemed to have a good time, I still adore the guy…
And I STILL tell everyone to elope.
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@Meg It’s going to be gothy/witchy(her theme) and DnD(my theme) themed. You good with that?
There’s going to be a giant d20 involved during the reception.
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@Testament said in RL Peeves:
@Meg It’s going to be gothy/witchy(her theme) and DnD(my theme) themed. You good with that?
There’s going to be a giant d20 involved during the reception.
that sounds like fun! DnD and witchy pair really well together.
i’ll bring @hellfrog as my +1.
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@Snackness said in RL Peeves:
@Testament I had a fantastic wedding. Budget was fine, the only incidents were funny in hindsight, great party, everyone seemed to have a good time, I still adore the guy…
it’s sweet that you still talk about @tsar like that years later
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Everything about it is soooo fucking draining. I’m going to project: Getting the things you want. Getting the things your partner wants. Accommodating for what other people want. Hearing the fucking phrase ‘A wedding isn’t for you, it’s for your guests!’
Being guilt tripped into compromises by parents and in-laws, and oh hey could you invite great uncle Barry who you’ve never met in your life?
Keep it as You and Your Partner as you can.
Make your memory the priority. No one gives a fuck if Great Uncle Barry shows up, at the end of the day.
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@Solstice OH we’ve already had a conversation about family I’m not inviting (she had a very small family that is just her mom and half brother). I don’t want my entire family there for reasons that are too long winded and nobody needs to know my internal family drama.
With prices the way they are, it’s just been…difficult to afford everything.
I’m also expecting…opinions that I have a best woman as opposed to a best man with flamboyant hot pink hair and doesn’t hide her thoughts on anything. I just know my brother and I are going to have a conversation.
When I think on it, we really should’ve eloped. But I know why we didn’t. It’s important to my fiancé, as she never really had a family. So that’s really why I’m going through all of this. It’s important to her. That makes it worth it.
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@Testament Elope and half the money you save on the wedding can be used for a fantastic honeymoon.
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@Testament said in RL Peeves:
When I think on it, we really should’ve eloped. But I know why we didn’t. It’s important to my fiancé, as she never really had a family. So that’s really why I’m going through all of this. It’s important to her. That makes it worth it.
This makes me happy to read.
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@IoleRae She really just wants this one day. For the father that bailed when she was 2. For the nights she and her mom lived in a woman’s shelter. For the NA meetings she had to sit at because she was too young to be at home. For the older half brother that she still looks up to as her hero. She just wants this one time. And she knows how silly it all is.
I may never understand that, how hard her upbringing was, but I don’t need to understand it to know how important it is to her. So, she’ll have her day.
And hey, apparently I still look good in a suit, so there’s that.
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You guys are gonna be so happy. So happy for you. Good luck coping with the stress in the meantime though, it’s definitely rough.
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@IoleRae The biggest controversy thus far is we having pie instead of cake, because I hate cake and love pie.
It’s created fun, heated debate. Stressful? Yeah it all is, but it will create good memories. The stress is worth it. Or well, I say that now.
The countdown to October 8th continues.
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@Testament I don’t think we’ve ever directly interacted (I could be wrong, my memory is shit in general and this past year isn’t one I’m fighting to keep hold of, in all honesty) but I’ve paid attention when you post because you seem like a pretty cool person who has seen some shit, as they say, and I always find myself rooting for you when you open up.
Good luck with all the planning, I’m really hoping your spouse-to-be gets that one special perfect (for her, whatever form that takes) day, and that you get to eat all the glorious pie you want without shame or recrimination.
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@Testament said in RL Peeves:
The price of weddings are dumb.
Yes. The price goes up exponentially when you mention stuff is for a wedding. I started saying it was a family reunion in some spots when I got married.
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@eye8urcake said in RL Peeves:
@Testament I don’t think we’ve ever directly interacted (I could be wrong, my memory is shit in general and this past year isn’t one I’m fighting to keep hold of, in all honesty) but I’ve paid attention when you post because you seem like a pretty cool person who has seen some shit, as they say, and I always find myself rooting for you when you open up.
Good luck with all the planning, I’m really hoping your spouse-to-be gets that one special perfect (for her, whatever form that takes) day, and that you get to eat all the glorious pie you want without shame or recrimination.
I wish I knew how to respond to this with something that wasn’t awkward humility… As I don’t consider myself much realistically. I’ve done some pretty shitty things in past when it comes to how I’ve treated other people in the mush-sphere. I understand the things I’ve done, the people I’ve hurt, and the guilt associated with it as a constant thing I must live with.
I like to think I’ve grown and matured as a person who is fallible. I will never make all the right choices at the right times. I’ve tried to right my wrong, make penance for the hurt I’ve caused. I will likely not be forgiven for some of them. I’ve accepted that. What it has done has made reevaluate my life for who I am and how I treat people. My own untreated depression fueled my indifference in years past, which I have since tried to use that as a point of power to create empathy. So that very depression is no longer used as a weapon to hurt others, but as a vehicle to understand and try to help.
Also my fiancé plays a large part in that, as she played a large part in showing me that what I was doing wrong and admitting that I needed to turn things around. Her and a few others who saw it for what it was; a desperate plea for help.
But, thank you for saying all that. I am neither interesting or cool, but I appreciate the compliment.
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Sorry, you are BOTH interesting AND cool. All that’s required for that is for people to find you so, and we do. HA HA.
More seriously, we’ve all fucked up. Well, almost all of us. Some of us in bigger ways than others. I hope you can forgive yourself sooner, rather than later.
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Sorry, you are BOTH interesting AND cool. All that’s required for that is for people to find you so, and we do. HA HA.
More seriously, we’ve all fucked up. Well, almost all of us. Some of us in bigger ways than others. I hope you can forgive yourself sooner, rather than later.
The higher you are, the farther you fall. The longer the walk, the farther you crawl. My mind, my temple. And this temple, it tilts. To err is human, to forgive is divine.
My depression may be apart of why I’m unable to truly let go and forgive myself. But that too is an upward climb. And if talking about these things offers solace to others who may be suffering the same, this is why I talk about them. Because you are not alone in these things.
