If you’ve been turned away from a game, or know that you’re probably not welcome on a game-- DON’T SNEAK ONTO THEM.

When people don’t understand basic thematic elements, can’t handle any kind of pushback, and spend all their time bitching about a person putting up so much as a shred of ‘no, thanks’.

I left my job of many years for a much better job but holy shit am I tired all of the time now. I just want to not be tired. I want to feel like I’m not scraping the bottom of the barrel for my creativity. I want to feel like I’m not falling into the FOMO pit.

I know it’s temporary and that by September I’ll probably be in a good groove and things won’t be as draining, but GD. I have so few hobbies and this is one of them, lol.

All I could do was laugh at seeing that my ban was permenant. I’ve never been banned anywhere in 20 years of MUing. I never even had a “serious” conversation about my behavior. No warnings. I’m as interesting or scandalous as toasted white bread with nothing on it.

But I’m banned for asking why Gany didn’t just lock some threads or step away. Makes sense.

Now and again just slammed full force with how deeply you just can’t and it’s not anything specific. Just. A. Big. Mental. Nope.

@Gashlycrumb said in MU Peeves Thread:

ie, having a life.

not just specific to this but lol can we stop using this as something to bludgeon one another with

everyone has a life

unless you are not alive

even then you have an afterlife!!

I had surgery about a month ago now that has really just jacked my whole life up as I recover. But this weekend I met up with a pair of MU friends and it was a really nice reminder that things are OKAY and fun and enjoyable.

Shoutouts to:

@Tat For being consistently impressive with worldbuilding. I watch the way you put pieces together and then tear them out and then put them back in and it’s something that I wish I could do with anything nearing your quality level. Being able to work with, alongside, partial adjacent to you has really helped fuel a lot of my own growth, especially when it comes to constructively receiving feedback.

@Herja For being a terrific GM that comes up with excellent plot hooks and twists. For being a person constantly on the look out for new ways to catherd RPers and forward direction. For being a person willing to say “the line is here” which is frighteningly hard to do.

@Apos Someday we will let you out of the char gen mines.

But seriously thank you for all the jumping into the deep end on code you’re doing. It sounds terrifying.

@KarmaBum and also @bear_necessities For creating a series of fun games and being plain and straight forward about the type of weirdness they won’t tolerate on them (but for some reason continuing to let me in the door despite endless threats to RP watching Lord of the Rings ICly btw is that available to stream on Glitch asking for a friend).

I’m a working person with a full time job that just took on a side gig so I can get ahead, a parent, a spouse. Idk who has time to worry about other people’s friendships.

My internet friends are my friends. If I stopped being friends with them, I’d have a whole hell of a lot less friends and that just seems silly when you’re an adult and making friends is hard as hell???

I didn’t get a promotion at work despite being more prepared for the role because a man existed who was older than me.

Who had applied for a lower position? Not even the one I was applying for.

An external candidate.

@Pacha said in MU Peeves Thread:

Honestly, I have not spent the intervening time stressing about it or plotting heinous acts of revenge,

lol oh thank god, what a relief.

TBH me finding out at all was a total fluke of someone mentioning it in my presence and I was like what?

And yeah, you’re totally okay using this forum for its purposes. I can completely understand logging onto places and feeling like the other players don’t really notice that I’m there or I’m just existing around the outskirts. I think it happens to pretty much everyone at some point, and it almost always sucks.

If you see me out in the wild sometime, drop me a page! Maybe we can get a scene in!

@Pacha said in MU Peeves Thread:

There is a game I am on where I signed up for an event. At the event, was a particular person.

This person, for want of a better word, has a bit of a fan club on this game. People talk about this person a lot; they seem to have a lot of close friends, and people respond super enthusiastically when they do things, log on etc. etc.

I do not begrudge this person any of this, and to be honest, they do not seem to do anything to encourage it. From my point of view they do not do anything to -warrant- it, either. But, I am prepared to accept that is very subjective.

In this event, which was just a one-shot adventure-type thing with some light combat, I ended up nearly walking out part way through because this person’s fan club was so busy gushing over this person and trying to interact with this person that my character was totally ignored.

This happened multiple times, where the rest of the group just played as though my character was not there. As an example, my character did X thing on their turn. I checked it with the GM, rolled for it, it was in my pose. Nobody referenced it in their pose, acknowledged it had happened, or anything like that.

In the next round, this person does a very similar thing (similar enough to the point of being redundant in the circumstances). The rest of the group are falling over themselves to (ic and ooc) tell this person how clever they are, how cool and badass their idea was. Even the GM referenced them doing this thing in their pose, ignoring that my character had already done it.

It’s not a major thing, but man is it irritating. I wasn’t going to mention it, but the talk of cliquey groups brought it all rushing back! I have been kind of light on the details as I don’t dislike any of these people or want them to feel bad. However, if the purpose of the scene is a self-congratulatory, feel-good session with your in-group, maybe don’t paste it as a public event and invite people you’re not really interested in including.

I JUST FOUND OUT THIS WAS ABOUT ME.

Man. At first I thought I just didn’t remember this happening, but I think I just never read this post to realize it was about me. I’m sorry to have been in a position to make someone feel ignored, I’m also baffled at the idea that I don’t warrant people being excited to see me, lol. Not even in an offended way just an oh man, I had no idea someone was sitting there feeling this way. Like, I assume I’m just a blip on other people’s radar!

Anyway, I hope the OP is feeling better these days.

@Cobalt said in MU Peeves Thread:

@tsar I promise it wasn’t me.

lol you aren’t banned

@Melichor said in Melichor’s Playlist:

@tsar OH OH I just saw your playlist — I knew you as Nenita!! Iirc A’nas had a big giant teenaged boy crush on her He developed as my coping strategy for teaching an unruly class of teenage boys that year, channeling all my frustration into a character.

Your game has come across my radar. I’m staffing on the Ares Pern game right now (On Dragon Wings) and enjoying coming back to the genre after so long away—taking the best bits of the world and scrapping the rest. It’s been a blast.

I’m happy to run across you again! Glad you found me!

OH MY GOD YES, at Ista! That makes so much sense. God, I loved playing her, lol. It’s nice to see you back around in the community again!!

@Melichor said in Melichor’s Playlist:

I don’t suppose you feel like playing Pern again—

I think about it sometimes, maybe, IDK. I’ve been running a pirate game for the last few months!

If you’ve been turned away from a game, or know that you’re probably not welcome on a game-- DON’T SNEAK ONTO THEM.

@Melichor said in Melichor’s Playlist:

NorCon: Riorde, A’nas

Damn, that sounds familiar. I played A’son and Z’ian!

This is Oreo.

I first started RPing by joining PernMUSH and posing into empty rooms.

“Banain sat down at the table and watched the other people eat.”

Eventually someone saw me on +watch and joined me, lol. That person introduced me to RP, explained how the commands worked, and is the reason I’m still bothering all of you today~

The couple of times I’ve run into someone using it, and was really convinced they were using it, it was done to make their writing longer and filled in.

But it was longer and full of fluff.

Just write the short pose. I beg. I’m tired. Don’t make me read all that, lol.