Bannings
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@Dreampipe said in Bannings:
But the ‘internal review’ was also done by two people who went open season on people protesting as is, so I mean, I don’t know what I expected.
We have investigated our decisions and found that we were right. We have also investigated ourselves for bad behaviour and found that we were good.
Funny how that works.
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that makes me so sad.
The whole thing makes me sad, too. I 100% get it. And I was only really involved from the outside, as observer and lurker. I understand why it would LEGIT be hard for people who were more a part of the community. I’m sorry.
It is sad. Because it didn’t have to be this way. Conversations could’ve been had. Conversations in good faith. And I believe they weren’t simply because or pride and/or ego. And that’s my belief, that people, even when having conflicting views, don’t want to try and figure out. How to resolve it. It’s just “here’s my space, there’s your space”. To me, it smacks of tribalism. But that’s human behavior, moving along in groups where you agree and are like-minded.
The instigation of so many rules isn’t going to make a place ‘safer’. Give the illusion of safety perhaps. But it’s safety that’s crafted out of fear. Because now the precedent has been set and people will be far more trepidatious to speaking out simply because it sounds like an opposing viewpoint isn’t welcome or observed. If you want to make a place feel safer and welcoming, there has to be a certain level of buy-in. And if there isn’t, you’re going to continually have situations like we’ve all just witnessed.
But again, I think it comes down to pride or ego, or both. And the unwillingness to try and resolve conflicts.
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It’s ludicrous and my inability to keep my mouth shut gave that shitstain of a human Macha more platform to lie about Farfalla and I feel really bad about that.
I’m sorry.
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@Testament said in Bannings:
Conversations could’ve been had.
They were had. And we were each, individually, lied to. At least I certainly was.
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@Pavel I’m sure there was. It wasn’t something I had, but I also didn’t try, as I have enough mental and emotional bullshit to deal with. But that’s also why I said conversations in good faith.
Which clearly, there was not.
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Listen. They built themselves a community there that really fits the level of self-awareness and spite this whole thing demonstrated.
I, for one, wish them all the best building a more positive and constructive community with the likes of vulgarkitten, ghost, derp and macha.
Bless that mess.
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@Testament I think it’s also worth recognising the power relationships in play - in that one side in this had, and claimed, absolute power and authority. We are nerds, we should all be familiar with the idea that with great power comes great responsibility.
But, it is all over now. They’ve got the person convinced there is a giant conspiracy of Farfalla supporters stalking unspecified people making threats, and Ghost telling everyone how great it is to be nice while throwing insults around at people not on the board. So. They can enjoy that. We can enjoy constructive stuff. I’ve got more out of a few days of BMD so far than my time on MSB!
When someone shows you who they are, over and over again? Believe them.
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Preemptive congratulations to @BloodAngel on the MSB ban.
she/they
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Preemptive congratulations to @BloodAngel on the MSB ban.
Can we ban them here? Don’t want MSB getting all the fun.
He/Him. Opinions and views are solely my own unless specifically stated otherwise.
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Preemptive congratulations to @BloodAngel on the MSB ban.
Thank you. As a black man in KKK land, I HATE FASCIST FUCKS.
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@Pavel But I love you guys, I need to be here to fuck with ya’ll.
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@Tez I wonder if we’re gonna get a Review of Review of Bannings for whatever extra bans these conversations will trigger.
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Preemptive congratulations to @BloodAngel on the MSB ban.
Can we ban them here? Don’t want MSB getting all the fun.
The community has had a lifetime’s worth of bans that are a total joke in just the span of like a month. NO MORE JOKING ABOUT BANS.
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Listen. They built themselves a community there that really fits the level of self-awareness and spite this whole thing demonstrated.
I, for one, wish them all the best building a more positive and constructive community with the likes of vulgarkitten, ghost, derp and macha.
Bless that mess.
As true as that might be, and I’m by no means saying you’re wrong, but there has to come point where you simply decide to just stop. It’s not worth the fight, it’s not worth the insults, it’s not worth the instigation. The reality is, it’s not worth any of it. That there has to point where one just needs to wash their hands of it
I’d say that to anyone. I don’t know if any of it is worth it and the one thing I don’t want to suddenly see is a ‘A vs B’ or a ‘red vs blue’ thing here or whatever other analogy I’m not bothering to think of.
The only thing I care about is wherever I post to not be an echo chamber. I want to be disagreed with, because, speaking personally, I’m not going to improve as a person unless things I believe in are challenged to make me think seriously upon them.
@Narson It was an abuse of the power dynamic, I won’t bother arguing that. The only thing I’d point out is that I tend look upon it as a decision that was a poorly chosen, which was then followed by an inability to realize that decision was perhaps not the best due to the feedback it got. That is when I think the abuse of power became apparent, is when there was a decision to double-down instead of having a moment of self-reflection to think “Is this the right choice?”
In the end, it is what it is, as people for the most part have already made their choice on the matter.
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@Testament Yeah. I really regret posting on the thread at all. I shouldn’t have logged back in.
I should never post anywhere when I’m so mad I’m seeing red.
let it be a challenge to you
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@Testament said in Bannings:
As true as that might be, and I’m by no means saying you’re wrong, but there has to come point where you simply decide to just stop. It’s not worth the fight, it’s not worth the insults, it’s not worth the instigation. The reality is, it’s not worth any of it.
I mean, yeah! That’s kind of what I was saying. Good luck in your future endeavors, later gators, lol lmao etc
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@sao I don’t think you did anything wrong, and her response just made her look like an even shittier person IMO.
