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    • PavelP
      Pavel @Coin
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      @Coin said in Real life happy:

      @Snackness said in Real life happy:

      @Testament I have this too, and I’m so glad you got a diagnoses from a good therapist. YMMV of course but mine has responded very well to medication.

      Dysthymia Club. We don’t get together but we wave, kinda, when we feel like it.

      You’re all welcome at Bipolar Club meetings, but only every second one.

      He/Him. Opinions and views are solely my own unless specifically stated otherwise.
      BE AN ADULT

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      • juniperskyJ
        junipersky Administrators @Pavel
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        @Pavel

        That was good.

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        • SolsticeS
          Solstice
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          After one of my colleagues departed and I got saddled with a lot of extra work, I sat my supervisor down and basically told him that I knew I was being undercompensated. He said he’d do his best, because he wanted to keep the team together, and because we kick ass together (True.)

          Four months went by. I started browsing Indeed and such on the regular. Pretty much resigned myself to a 5%ish increase, and it wasn’t going to cut it to stay. Last week, I finally got news from him.

          Promoted. New Title - better title than I suggested. 30% raise. 30. Percent.

          Remember how I said I wasn’t having panic attacks? This is the closest I’ve come to one, sitting through that meeting, because apparently my body has forgotten how to process extreme amounts of joy. Teared up in the meeting. I had to scamper away directly after the meeting and run into the bathroom and squeal into my hands.

          My life feels like it’s starting to come together, all of the sudden.

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          • BloodAngelB
            BloodAngel @Solstice
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            @Solstice That is amazing! I’m so happy for you!

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            • IoleRaeI
              IoleRae
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              It’s so weird, but I live in The City half time, now. I look out the window and there’s lights and people no matter the hour. My new schedule is solid, it’s every other week; I get my people time in at the office (in person, and omg I love these people SO much), and those other weeks…I never expected to live here, and I basically do. Looking out the window here is amazing. I can get off on my exit on the freeway and get right to my parking space without any trouble, and I don’t even feel any anxiety about it any more.

              Having stability is helpful; NewJob has me into a stricter rhythm than we had before. It’s nice. I get to see his kids, but they’re not here every time I am. My therapist has taken her week off between working for somebody else and opening her own practice, and she just emailed me saying she’s ready whenever I am. Things are…good.

              I gotta say, folks – if things get bad, just…hang in there. The only way out is through. I’ve had one hell of a fucking year, things could not have been worse – and things could also not have been better. It’s…been a year, lol. My partner passed away, my boss (The Dream Boss, folks) got fired, as did one part of my team; the rest of my team quit, except for me and one other person (plus a couple of new hires)…I got kicked out of the place I’d been staying pretty abruptly (family, sigh), ended up having to cut off some family (sigh)…

              …reunited with The One, the guy I’ve been in love with since I was an actual child (it’s okay, he’s the same age as me)…quit the job that turned terrible to go work for The Best Boss again doing the most INCREDIBLE work (shit we’d always talked about getting to do if we had the opportunity at our old place of work)…stuff that matters in the day to day lives of people who it makes a super huge difference for. It’s doing good on a daily, tangible level. Every day. I have stable housing, my kid is doing SO well, and we’re in a situation now that if something happens to me, he’s ultimately going to be okay. We have people.

              The feral kitten, the little bebe, the boyfriend agreed to take her, and she is the sweetest little housecat guys. She is forever inside now and she is so happy, she bonded with him, she was guarding his back tonight and everything. He loves her. 😄 WHEW. Vet appointments are a million years out, but they are had.

              Y’all who helped me get through this, @mietze and @Testament and @Pavel and @GF and @Selira and and everybody else…(I’m not sure of everyone’s BMD names, and y’all know I have holes in my brain, I’m sorry!! I love you, person I did not list here!), thank you.

              the entity previously known as Sunny

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              • PavelP
                Pavel @IoleRae
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                @IoleRae said in Real life happy:

                Y’all who helped me get through this, @mietze and @Testament and @Pavel and @GF and @Selira and and everybody else…

                Don’t blame me, I had nothing to do with this.

                He/Him. Opinions and views are solely my own unless specifically stated otherwise.
                BE AN ADULT

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                • juniperskyJ
                  junipersky Administrators
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                  I’m so relieved to have the financial stability to be able to have a dental emergency and it ISN’T a huge stressor. Of course, I’m not happy about the unexpected cost, but I have a comfortable emergency fund that will easily cover it.

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                    Selira
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                    New job starts on Monday. It is a huge step up for me but I think I’m excited for it.

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                      mietze
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                      One of my college kids texted me this morning saying he was going to try to finish a paper that’s due on monday today and if i was available he’d like to come home tomorrow afternoon so that he can surprise his littlest bro for for his birthday. He finished the paper, we worked out when I can go get him, and he’s already planning stuff to do with just him and little bro. I have one that works on the weekends so can’t (but texted me excited about a package he’d just sent off for little bro) and the last big bro is coming home as a surprise next weekend. And I didn’t text or remind them of youngest’s birthday coming up either.

                      Honestly I think my youngest is the luckiest kid in the world when it comes to his sibs. I worried about the spacing a bit, since they’re so significantly older. But it’s amazing to me how they each individually cultivate a close bond/relationship with him even though they’re launching into their adult lives now. And I’m thrilled at the timing too because youngest has been having some really tough weeks at school and I think this will be a really nice boost.

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                        Gasboy @mietze
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                        @mietze You should be congratulated for raising proper adults, and this is the proof right here.

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                        • juniperskyJ
                          junipersky Administrators
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                          This is super mixed. I for sure have a job next year!!

                          But it isn’t either of the jobs I expected. The ones I thought:

                          Job a) Same I have now, K-8 intervention. Work with small groups to fill gaps.

                          Job b) Classroom teacher, likely 2-4 grade, probably mixed level.

                          What was just offered:

                          JOB c) K-5 intervention .75, and k-1 technology. .25

                          I told my boss sure, whatever, but TBH I hadn’t considered job c. I wouldn’t call myself a technology expert, though k-1 tech is mostly problem solving, engineering, and basics of computer use.

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                          • CobaltC
                            Cobalt
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                            The lady who we bought our new home from is amazing. She’s still moving out while we are moving in and she is the nicest person. She’s an empty nester who is downsizing and she’s leaving us:

                            Coffee bar and shelf
                            Giant kitchen hutch
                            Bakers rack
                            Bar stools
                            Like four couches, including an awesome high back one in my room
                            At least three tables
                            Some shoe racks
                            And idk what else.

                            Here’s our boxes in our new basement, and we’re not done for today 😐

                            alt text

                            Cobalt@Under the Stars
                            cob.alt@Discord
                            Cobalt#[email protected]

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                              Gasboy @Cobalt
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                              @Cobalt Mr Rogers always said to look for the helpers. That lady’s a helper.

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                              • CobaltC
                                Cobalt @Gasboy
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                                @Gasboy she’s amazing!!!

                                Cobalt@Under the Stars
                                cob.alt@Discord
                                Cobalt#[email protected]

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                                  Gasboy @Cobalt
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                                  @Cobalt As someone who had to move recently and it was… traumatic, I am happy that yours is going well.

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                                  • CobaltC
                                    Cobalt @Gasboy
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                                    @Gasboy I’m sorry to hear that. I’ve had traumatic moves as well. Nothing as fun as packing up as much as you can find in a two door coop and driving across the country.

                                    This move is very stressful but also happy.

                                    Cobalt@Under the Stars
                                    cob.alt@Discord
                                    Cobalt#[email protected]

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                                    • HerjaH
                                      Herja
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                                      In contrast to all my frustrated ranting on the Peeves board, my therapist gave my some resources about Rejection Sensitivity Disorder, how it works, and how it is a very common in women with ADHD and it has been so freaking validating. All my life, I have thought myself over sensitive and a lot of other really bad thoughts because I have hurt my own feelings over someone inflecting on a different word in a sentence than I expected.

                                      I have spent years masking and beating myself up for these types of reactions and feeling very ashamed over crying over dumb rejections or reading too much into conversations. I thought this was something intrinsically wrong with me as a person and to find out that, actually, my gift for pattern recognition also means that I look for patterns where they don’t exist.

                                      My brain is still fucked up but at least it’s not because I am at my core a terrible person? rofl

                                      lol lmao

                                      It's me, hi, I'm the problem it's me

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                                        Testament @Herja
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                                        @Herja You may not need to hear it, but I’ll just go ahead and say that you’re not a terrible person.

                                        As someone who tells himself constantly that he is a terrible and worthless person because of his own mental weight, it helps when someone else tells you otherwise.

                                        I don’t always believe it, but it helps.

                                        I don't know what I'm doing. Poke at Seven Nations sevennations.aresmush.com port 2021

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                                          Gasboy @Cobalt
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                                          @Cobalt For me, the only positive thing that came from it, is that I filled up a clothing donation bin. To the top. xD Old clothes, but stuffed animals and other similar things.

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                                          • CobaltC
                                            Cobalt
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                                            I got a text at almost 1am from the lady we bought our house from telling me that she was leaving us another fridge and an upright freezer…. @.@

                                            Cobalt@Under the Stars
                                            cob.alt@Discord
                                            Cobalt#[email protected]

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