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@junipersky said in Bannings:
I was fine being a lurker and sharing my normal stuff cuz I couldn’t ever find over here - but someone posted the link and now I have and now I will come, and today’s stuff was just the last straw.
So, can I hang with y’all now please?
there you are lol
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Alls I’m saying is, since so much attention is being given to DMs over public statements, and everyone hand-wringing about how they are scared of bullies on the interwebs, if the lurkers who are bailing could also DM and/or post public notices about voting with their feet, that would just be neat.
… especially since they so rudely won’t remove my ban so I can edit that last post I made, rabble rabble.
Mummy Pun? MUMMY PUN!
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I’ve never really wanted to bring that kind of attention down on myself, so I just DMed the most reasonable sounding person, erased my browser history, and hope they process the request ban.
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@junipersky Fair. I’m sure anyone who actually does something like that will get a ‘wow, can you believe Rob Bobbertson was part of the Clique, too? They hid it so well!’… just casually put into the ‘problem person’ category while they continue to willfully deny even the chance that they could be wrong.
Still, the small part of me that embraces CHAOS would love to see it happen. I desperately need someone to quote them being bullies back at them whenever a thing happens.
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I guess that thread got nuked while I was catching up, which is, frankly, just rude. Rude, I say.
In any case, I’ve got Thoughts, which I suppose is some forum version of a subtweet. They boil down to this:
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Administrators/staff/moderators are human, they have bad days, and there are definitely bad actors, but if you’re going to react to any sort of criticism, pushback, or even plain confusion/asks for clarification with kneejerk suspicion that it’s all some veiled attempt at shit-stirring or attacking you, then you should not be an admin. You especially shouldn’t be an admin on a board that has just had a major drama blow-up and mass banning/departure of a giant chunk of its userbase and is trying to rebuild cred with the community. This should go without saying, but that team is aggro as fuck.
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Moderating on the spirit of the law rather than the letter still requires that there actually be a law. Refusing to set clear boundaries because it’s inevitable that some folks are going to push those boundaries is just the wildest take I’ve seen on this topic. It also really smells like an excuse to be more arbitrary with rulings, which I don’t think is deliberate, but definitely seems present.
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Don’t ask people for their honest opinions on how to fix something and then reject it all with an accusation that the person who answered is clearly just holding a personal vendetta and therefore it’s good people aren’t taking that person seriously. Especially don’t start with some weird shit about how light self deprecation is evidence of a poster having an agenda, I don’t even know what moon logic dimension that came from.
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If you don’t want to share internal discussions on various bans, don’t keep talking about all these in depth internal discussions that were totally fair and judged with utmost neutrality but they happened we swear. Just say some version of “sorry, we discussed it and our decision stands”. People are going to call bullshit because a bunch of those bans were total bullshit, so if you aren’t budging on them (and frankly it’s entirely too late anyway) then I guess tough shit? People are going to have opinions on the bad calls that were made, and further opinions when the bad calls were upheld.
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Speaking of, if you’re going to say mistakes were made and you’re trying to do better, doubling down forever on how, actually, everything that was done was entirely justified and all the people who left or were banned were just shit stirrers who wanted to be mean all day is really contradictory. Pick one, you can’t have both. And if you pick “mistakes were made”, then you need to try to rectify those mistakes. I just said it’s too late to reverse the bans, but reverse them anyway. Folks who left aren’t likely to return, but the folks who are still there can see you actually do mean it.
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Other than serving as the main platform where the blow-up happened, it had absolutely nothing to do with the Hog Pit. This history re-write where it was all the fault of the Hog Pit and frequent posters is gross and transparently a lie. It’s okay, you can nuke the Hog Pit and make it something else, that’s not actually a big deal. You can do that independently of everything else. Focusing on the whole thing being toxic mean clique bully bitches (which anyone who goes back to read those threads can see it was not), guarantees something like it can and probably will happen again. Your house didn’t catch fire because the neighbor’s dog wouldn’t stop barking.
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Speaking to the above, some of the most toxic posters who have ever been on MSB are the ones calling the shots or are friends with those who are. That doesn’t change by piling the blame on people who are no longer around. Unfortunately, they don’t really change either. It’s going to be a problem going forward, and it’s already a problem now, because the atmosphere over there is incredibly hostile for a forum that’s patting itself on the back for ditching their flame board. If I were a new poster taking a glance at that thread, I’d have turned around and walked right back out.
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Hella is VulgarKitten and lmao
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@kalakh Honestly, these thoughts are similar to those that @tez, @Pyrephox, @tsar and I had when we were coming up with how to moderate this place.
Naturally, we who remain ain’t perfect either, and we’re gonna fuck up, but we plan to keep these thoughts in mind as we go and we’ll do a decent enough job.
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@kalakh I checked because I was worried my posts got deleted, but for the record, the thread didn’t get nuked. Derp just moved it into a thread of its own and locked it.
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While excising my initial criticism which was entirely on topic.
Whatever, I just caught up on the rest of the stuff that I missed while I was asleep, and all I want to say is that we know you can read what’s over here.
I only posted here when I said I was done, and just like Selira, the content of my posts in this thread were materially no different then what I had already been saying.
This isn’t some spooky cabal.
And while you’re at it? Hella is the player of Monique, who lied to the entire fucking player base of Arx about her identity, pressured them to fuck her even when they had do not contact requests, and purported herself as someone brand new while asking about the old version of herself in order to try to get people to shit talk her.
Wonderful new fans you have over there.
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@Solstice i also only posted here when i noped out there.
the contents of my posts here are very different tho, because then they proceeded to flame me and call me a bully afterwards, so again, a big FUCK YOU to runescryer. you can’t gaslight me into thinking that i am a bully because as one of three people posting on the opposite side of an issue, i knew that DM was about me.
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Yes, that was pretty fucking clear.
I’m not naming names, but there are three of you making people uncomfortable…
Anyhow, I’ll stop bumping this thread about it. Because frankly as much as it pisses me off, it makes me more sad than anything.
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@Solstice Which, I don’t fucking get?
How was Hella or Macha or whoever feeling like I might BULLY and TURN ON THEM when the whole focus of my posts was about how I thought the bans were unfair and they should be reversed, or at least explained.
I literally did not address or touch anything else. I had one point. A very valid point. A point that even faraday shared. Do they now think FARADAY is a bully? Or was it literally just my name attached to the point that makes me a bully?
ETA: sorry, i’ll stop bumping too. i am sad, too. i had my RL blow up in sadness right after all this shit, and now that i am getting over that, i am processing my sadness over what happened months ago, and honestly, i’m gonna make like elsa. idk why i had a niggling thought that the months would have healed something and made derp reflect.
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And while you’re at it? Hella is the player of Monique, who lied to the entire fucking player base of Arx about her identity, pressured them to fuck her even when they had do not contact requests, and purported herself as someone brand new while asking about the old version of herself in order to try to get people to shit talk her.
Bolded and italics for emphasis.
Sorry, that bit I never heard so it’s jarring to read that for the first time.
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@Meg I’m sorry about your RL blow up. And that this wound keeps getting poked at, too.
This isn’t the last time anyone in the community or you probably revisits this split. The bans serve certain people and it’s just gonna make them uncomfortable every time someone disrupts or brings their validity into question. For people like Hella, I imagine a lot of their experience is uncomfortable because that’s what their special brand of repeated behavior reaps.
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Hey, mods? Can I add to consideration a sub-board for warning about problem players? I feel like one of the problems with how MSB was laid out was that having them in the hog pit it let those threads gradually fall away into the distance. Even if it’s just a board that’s fully locked and those threads get moved to when someone is deemed sufficiently threatening?
VASpider, etc.
Just an idea, and won’t be saddened either way.
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@Solstice We’ll discuss it in private and only tell you the result but none of the subsequent conversation. (This is a joke, but we will discuss it.)
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A’ight, we discussed it (yes, it was fast, we just happen to be all awake at the same time). We were pretty unanimously in the camp of “opposed but could be convinced if there’s a substantial need for it”.
Main concerns expressed included making a place specifically to shit-talk specific people, the temptation to spread doxing information (like IP addresses) which we naturally wouldn’t condone, and generally making us feel kind of icky for ineffable reasons.
If you do find yourselves/ourselves needing such a section, I’d recommend putting up a post in the Comments and Feedback section for proper user-staff conversation on the topic.
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Also, Rough and Rowdy section exists and can be used for that kind of stuff as well, so long as it doesn’t include doxing, etc.
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That logic makes total sense, and thanks!
