MU Peeves Thread
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This may make me seem like a heartless Bitch, but boy it would be nice if people would stop telling me they are going to go cry because of MUSH drama.
It evokes more of a desire to back away from the person telling me than sympathy. And I try to be kind to people OOCly.
But for fucks sake…
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@Cobalt I might be a cruel little fucker, but at that point I’d say “Well, I think you need to take time away to recentre yourself and reflect on how you’re feeling and why.” Which is just code for fuck all the way off, and when you get there fuck off some more.
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@Cobalt it’s only crying over mush drama if it’s from the champagne region of France, otherwise it’s sparkling emotional manipulation.
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@Gashlycrumb said in MU Peeves Thread:
My undesirable but unfading urge to tell people that diurnal birds like pigeons and crows are diurnal, really.
I understand. I will never not be triggered by the way poison dart frogs are portrayed in pop culture.
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Reminds me of the time someone accused me of causing their husband to threaten divorce (because the player spent too much time MU*ing, I think?) because I had to quit a scene before we started due to rl on my side.
I was like, well, that’s an unfortunate situation but that is not on me.
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@oknow said in MU Peeves Thread:
Reminds me of the time someone accused me of causing their husband to threaten divorce (because the player spent too much time MU*ing, I think?) because I had to quit a scene before we started due to rl on my side.
You too? Wonder if it was the same person. Got accused a couple of times of ruining their marriage because they were mushing too much. Was like, well, go offline and fix your marriage, then. They never did.
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@L-B-Heuschkel I’m not surprised I’m not the only one they said this to if it is the same person.
This took place some time between 2006-2008 so, honestly, all I can say is I hoped they worked on their marriage or they both found spouses they were more compatible with.
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@oknow We can but hope. It’s probably not the same person, though – this was 2021-22 for me.
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@farfalla said in MU Peeves Thread:
When you know it’s time to retire a character, but you can’t make yourself let go.
Finally giving up a beloved character and knowing it was the right choice doesn’t make you less sad about it.
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@Cobalt I have told some that it’s okay to go have a good cry. Get it all out. They’ll feel better. And if they aren’t feeling better afterwards, perhaps they should reconsider playing on that particular text-based game.
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I just want to write fun stories with people. My mu peeve for the month is me…
I don’t like the timing, stupid awkward to get an ic position then be dragged off by rl. :C The brain weasles are having a field day thinking staff and players are annoyed/inconvenienced.It bothers me that I may have forgot to do necessary steps for plots and/or actions or if I’d promised things to people and I’m keeping them waiting.
I know I have a few descriptions I owe a few people… but damned if the memory muncher hasn’t eaten the names and descriptions…
Me… get with the program…
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@Gasboy said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Cobalt I have told some that it’s okay to go have a good cry. Get it all out. They’ll feel better. And if they aren’t feeling better afterwards, perhaps they should reconsider playing on that particular text-based game.
I’m pretty sure most of us have cried, or felt like it, over MUSH crap.
But if we tell people about it, it’s “you’re my friend and I wanna talk about my feels” and not “Cobalt, you’re makin’ me cry by not making the game do what I want” stuff.
I’m peeved over past experiences where people thought I was really upset when I was just like, “Y’know, this is kinda a drag.”
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The inevitable paranoia I constantly feel when friends talk shit about our other friends, and then I can’t help but wonder what they’re probably also saying about me.
Part RL peeve I suppose, but we are a gossipy hobby.
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Watching your friends depart a game, but not yet wanting to finish your own stories, but also not knowing if you have a game left in you after this so whether you’ll get to RP with them again.
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Hi.
I’ve cried over MU* stuff. I’ve cried because I was OOCly mistreated (see previous threads it can stay there) by people knowing how to hit the trigger. I left the game btw when that happened.
More I’ve cried over the story. I’ve had breakup scenes IC that were heart-wretching. Not because I felt OOCly like I was breaking up but because we were both writing so beautifully in the scene that it hurt. Just like watching a movie or reading a good book.
I’m not sure I ever told the other person I cried though - in either of those moments.
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@RightMeow Nothing wrong with that. I think the issue is when people are using it as a way to make a person feel guilty for whatever ‘sad’ scene that is happening. I’m a firm-believer in the idea there are ‘good sad cries’ and not so good. From what you’re saying you’re not trying to manipulate the other players or purposefully give them bad feels.
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@RightMeow Yep. I’ve been deeply unhappy over OOC mistreatment. Sometimes calculated to trigger, other times just me hitting the wall of frustration. Also over not-mistreatment of the type where I thought somebody cared about me and my emotional well-being but they wouldn’t stop TSing that night when I asked and said how I was feeling like crap and really really needed some RP to distract me from RL hellishness.
Sad story or beautiful writing cries just don’t count. That’s usually awesome.
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@RightMeow I love a good cry IRL, and am absolutely the sort of person who tears up at Folgers commercials. RP makes me cry in a good way sometimes, where I’m just really invested and something sad is happening. I always come away from those scenes loving it. (And always tell my scene partners, who always laugh at me.)
If something OOC is making me cry though? It’s usually a sign that I need to step away from someone/something, because it’s no longer fun. I don’t do RP that’s not fun, ideally for everyone involved. And I don’t tell people about these times, because what’s the point? Either the person is being shitty anyway, or maybe they’re not being shitty and it’s a me-problem so I don’t want to make them feel guilty for perfectly okay behavior.
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@Kestrel said in MU Peeves Thread:
The inevitable paranoia I constantly feel when friends talk shit about our other friends, and then I can’t help but wonder what they’re probably also saying about me.
Part RL peeve I suppose, but we are a gossipy hobby.
My un-favorite part of this whole thing is the “shark pond” aspect where we’re all swimming together with cases of subtle or blatant avoidance. And hey, sometimes there are good reasons for doing so. I do it too.
In any case yeah, it’s difficult for me to form cohesive playgroups with things being like this so I just pick at the margins and I’m not good at just busting into someone else’s pre-existing friend circles. The whole “I appreciate you but goddamn I can’t stand your buddy” vibe is a real thing for me. But at least if I’m talking to you in the first place, I’m almost certainly not going to be shit-talking you elsewhere.
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K KarmaBum referenced this topic on 18 Mar 2023, 14:53
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If a handful of people are RPing in public and the scene comes to a natural close it happens just when somebody new walks in. Disproportionately frequently.