MU Peeves Thread
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@Pavel This might be a M* culture thing.
It was very common on Pern games for all my alts to know (and probably plow) all your alts.
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@KarmaBum said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Pavel This might be a M* culture thing.
It was very common on Pern games for all my alts to know (and probably plow) all your alts.
You liar
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@tsar not for lack of trying
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@tsar said in MU Peeves Thread:
@KarmaBum said in MU Peeves Thread:
@tsar not for lack of trying
try harder
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I could not decide whether to put this on the “good things in MUSHing” thread or this one…
I’m peeved that I’m excited to see my family again after a long time apart! But that they’re coming right when I am lining up RPz that I want to have and now have to wait.
So, basically, I’m mad that good things are happening in real life and MUSHing.
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I want to destroy some stuff!
But it’s not time yet.
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@tsar said in MU Peeves Thread:
I want to destroy some stuff!
But it’s not time yet.
What did you do to merit having the CONE OF SHAME put on you?
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I am sorry that you feel that way…
is NOT a fucking apology.
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@Mourne said in MU Peeves Thread:
I am sorry that you feel that way…
is NOT a fucking apology.
I want this post on billboards across the planet, plz and ty.
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@Mourne said in MU Peeves Thread:
I am sorry that you feel that way…
is NOT a fucking apology.
It isn’t, but sometimes it’s just true. There’s a point where how someone takes something you’ve said becomes their problem, not yours.
He/Him. Opinions and views are solely my own unless specifically stated otherwise.
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@Pavel said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Mourne said in MU Peeves Thread:
I am sorry that you feel that way…
is NOT a fucking apology.
It isn’t, but sometimes it’s just true. There’s a point where how someone takes something you’ve said becomes their problem, not yours.
slow claps Way to miss the point.
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@Mourne said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Pavel said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Mourne said in MU Peeves Thread:
I am sorry that you feel that way…
is NOT a fucking apology.
It isn’t, but sometimes it’s just true. There’s a point where how someone takes something you’ve said becomes their problem, not yours.
slow claps Way to miss the point.
No, I’m raising an
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@Pavel said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Mourne said in MU Peeves Thread:
I am sorry that you feel that way…
is NOT a fucking apology.
It isn’t, but sometimes it’s just true. There’s a point where how someone takes something you’ve said becomes their problem, not yours.
Okay, but have you ever been in a situation where saying “I’m sorry you feel that way [because this is your problem]” has improved the quarrel you’re in?
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@GF said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Pavel said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Mourne said in MU Peeves Thread:
I am sorry that you feel that way…
is NOT a fucking apology.
It isn’t, but sometimes it’s just true. There’s a point where how someone takes something you’ve said becomes their problem, not yours.
Okay, but have you ever been in a situation where saying “I’m sorry you feel that way [because this is your problem]” has improved the quarrel you’re in?
Yes. Not necessarily immediately, but I’ve found it especially helpful in contexts where one has previously felt compelled to apologise to maintain relationship harmony, even though it begins to diminish oneself. “I’m sorry you feel that way, but I stand by what I said” is the usual formula.
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@Pavel said in MU Peeves Thread:
@GF said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Pavel said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Mourne said in MU Peeves Thread:
I am sorry that you feel that way…
is NOT a fucking apology.
It isn’t, but sometimes it’s just true. There’s a point where how someone takes something you’ve said becomes their problem, not yours.
Okay, but have you ever been in a situation where saying “I’m sorry you feel that way [because this is your problem]” has improved the quarrel you’re in?
Yes. Not necessarily immediately, but I’ve found it especially helpful in contexts where one has previously felt compelled to apologise to maintain relationship harmony, even though it begins to diminish oneself. “I’m sorry you feel that way, but I stand by what I said” is the usual formula.
Yeah, I’ve definitely been in scenarios where the other person was behaving really out of bounds and lashing out at me. I don’t typically like to say “I’m sorry you feel that way, but…” because I do think it’s often used inappropriately.
But sometimes I am sorry a person feels that way because I care for them as a person and them being in distresss sucks BUT I’m also beyond a point where I’m going capitulate to someone who is being unreasonable with me.
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I work in customer service. There are times when I have exhausted all my resources, my customer still feels like we came up short, and I am genuinely sorry they still feel that way.
So here is my pro-tip for telling someone you’re sorry they feel that way: Pair it when an empathy statement.
“I’m sorry you’re still upset that your roll went so badly. I’ve had times when it felt like my dice were cursed, too, but they are just RNG.”
“I’m sorry you feel like the Mean Girls won’t let you in the story. I know how it feels to want to break in and feel like the doors are closed. Let’s brainstorm…”
“I remember being disappointed when I wanted to play a Pokemon on a game about psychic humans, too. I’m sorry you feel our character guidelines are too strict. If you really have your heart set on a Pokemon, this probably isn’t the game for you.”
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@KarmaBum said in MU Peeves Thread:
“I remember being disappointed when I wanted to play a Pokemon on a game about psychic humans, too. I’m sorry you feel our character guidelines are too strict. If you really have your heart set on a Pokemon, this probably isn’t the game for you.”
I was with you until that one lol no empathy for Pokemon
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My point is that it’s not an apology, it is placing the fault on the other person and not owning up to your own part in the problem.
If your response is ‘I am sorry /you/ feel that way’ then you are no longer attempting to truly empathize, you have drawn your line in the sand, and by pairing it with an empathetic statement all you are doing is further trying to deflect the situation without resolving it.
Which is fine if you want to do that.
It’s still not a fucking apology and nobody is required to apologize for shit, but by doing that you’re changing the nature of the conversation, and the relationship, and if you /should/ be apologizing for what you’ve done to someone else and pulling this shit?
I am sure you can figure the rest out.
Post Script: You is the ‘royal you’ not aimed at anyone in particular directly.
