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    • SmileS
      Smile @catzilla
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      @catzilla I almost felt a self conscious ping using her for one of my chars. But that char is definitely presented as white. Damn anxiety.

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        GF @Rinel
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        @Rinel If it makes you feel better about it, I still grapple with my reflex to police how people are allowed to play certain political minorities; and I do it in ways that, if someone outside the group did it to me, I’d be correctly disgusted at them for doing because it presents us (whichever “us” is in question) as a monolith.

        It sucks growing up a racist/sexist/classist/whatever-ist society. They really oughta pay our therapists’ bills to deprogram us.

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        • JumpscareJ
          Jumpscare
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          There was one person who joined Silent Heaven to play a Korean vtuber who spoke in broken English. And not the kind of English one would pick up naturally, but the stereotypically offensive caricature of broken English.

          I messaged her player, letting them know that being immersed in English for months should show an improvement in her language, and that she needs to have a better, less stereotypical grasp on English now, with improvements over the coming weeks. They agreed to that.

          They stopped logging in shortly after the talk.

          Game-runner of Silent Heaven, a small-town horror MU.
          https://silentheaven.org

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            Testament @Jumpscare
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            @Jumpscare I wonder if this was the same person who also played a stereotypical Asian character on LA2042 that was very off-putting. It sounds like the same vibe.

            I don't know what I'm doing. Poke at Seven Nations sevennations.aresmush.com port 2021

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            • RinelR
              Rinel
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              The issue has been addressed and is out of my hands!

              bird's still the word

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              • hellfrogH
                hellfrog
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                confetti

                fr fr
                (she/her)

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                • SnacknessS
                  Snackness
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                  I got bitched out 10 years ago for ‘unfairly’ greeting some people and not others on a public channel (because I’m not watching the channel 24/7!) and people are stiiiiill doing it.

                  I don’t mind that they do it. I mind that I got bitched out and they don’t.

                  eta: not saying I want them to get bitched out, I want me to NOT get bitched out.

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                    Roz @Snackness
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                    @Snackness hi snackness

                    she/her | playlist

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                      Rathenhope @Snackness
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                      @Snackness I’m just gonna say you posted this 4 minutes after I greeted some people on channel but not everyone so this is definitely about me 😄

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                        Snackness @Rathenhope
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                        @Rathenhope No, it’s about the people who bitched me out 10 years ago. I think everyone should be able to greet who they want without worrying about getting dinged for it. Maybe I’m the only one who ever got dinged, that would be nice.

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                        • hellfrogH
                          hellfrog @Snackness
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                          @Snackness i’m sorry but we had a meeting and you were the sacrificial lamb

                          thank you

                          you are braver than the troops

                          fr fr
                          (she/her)

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                            Roz @Snackness
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                            @Snackness said in MU Peeves Thread:

                            Maybe I’m the only one who ever got dinged, that would be nice.

                            oh don’t worry, you’re definitely not

                            she/her | playlist

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                            • tenT
                              ten
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                              everyone

                              they | them

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                              • SnacknessS
                                Snackness @Roz
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                                @Roz I do understand a gentle reprimand in terms of excessive celebration, but just hello’s and hi’s and waves? Most of us aren’t robots!

                                BUT I’M NOT BITTER OR ANYTHING.

                                bitter

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                                  GF
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                                  Also, who are these presumptuous buttholes who think you owe them greetings? Is it your job? Are you an official greeter?

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                                  • KestrelK
                                    Kestrel
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                                    I hope no one hates me for this, but sometimes I avoid greeting anyone on channels, because I feel obligated to greet everyone otherwise.

                                    And I’m not ASD, I swear, but this is one of those social norms I could live without. 😞 I would way prefer a frosty atmosphere where people skip greetings and just talk about whatever’s pertinent. (Maybe this is why most of my friends are ASD??) Idc if you’re weird and have no etiquette, just page me out of nowhere to game. That’s fine.

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                                      Selira
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                                      also, i’m not going to greet everyone, because i don’t like some people and it’s as simple as that.

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                                      • somasatoriS
                                        somasatori
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                                        If I greet people on channels, I greet everyone because I don’t want anyone to feel left out. Even if I don’t particularly like someone, I still often project that they’ll feel bad because no one responded. This impulse has definitely gotten me into trouble/attention by people I’d rather not have, so I try to stay quiet more often than not and jump into conversations in media res.

                                        they/them

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                                          mietze
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                                          now that i avoid using clients, i am super spacy on channels because I don’t see them pop up unless I look at a certain menu.

                                          on the one hand i don’t worry if people don’t say anything to me back, but i don’t want to make people feel bad either. hopefully they forgive me!

                                          sometimes this thing really trips me up, because it’s also the case i like pinging people to say hi or something dumb or whatever but i know that’s often seen as not okay or bothersome too (and i try to avoid it at all on my male pcs in particular because well, i had to deal with all those weird creeping mfers too).

                                          so i worry but also tend to slip up frequently when squirrel brain activates. i hope if anyone really feels like i hurt them or was ignoring them and it was really bothering them (vs just a little annoyance like we all get over stuff we don’t always super care about), it’s okay to tell me because i want to know and would try to do better (though honestly keeping up with channel might be too much so it’d be a hi in pages!)

                                          But someone snapping and trying to control my behavior to make me do some blanket thing to everyone or no one, that seems a bit controlling and gross, and I can see why that would feel super ick, I’d probably feel the same way with someone wagging finger/policing me like that!

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                                          • SnacknessS
                                            Snackness @mietze
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                                            @mietze said in MU Peeves Thread:

                                            now that i avoid using clients, i am super spacy on channels because I don’t see them pop up unless I look at a certain menu.

                                            This did happen to me waaay before Ares. I hope nowadays people can be even more forgiving because for the most part if I’m only on the portal I’m not monitoring channels AT ALL.

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