MU Peeves Thread
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@Yam If we all had a dollar for every time this happened, we’d all be oligarchs.
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Self peeve: Find fun game I enjoy. Immediately hit with fatigue that makes thinking hard.
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Once we all had anxiety, or we had emotional/mental fatigue from being the person who did the who-where-aboutwhat? scene-organising labour too often.
Now we can top those legit reasons off with the fact that some get away with treating asking for RP as a violation of boundaries and a bannable offense. So yeah, who’s asking these days?
"This is Liberty Hall; you can spit on the mat and call the cat a bastard!"
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@Gashlycrumb This sounds like you have stories about people getting banned for asking for RP.
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@Gashlycrumb yeah I’ve never really seen that happen as stated! What’s up?
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@hellfrog I am pretty sure the statement is that they’re harrassing people. I think it’s upthread, about me doing this. The other person I know who was banned seemingly for asking for RP wasn’t told why, just got blocked off the game shortly after asking for RP. Old news now, But anyway, the ‘what if I get in trouble for bothering people?’ fear is legit. Kinda like the ‘how often is too often to +request or poke about a request?’ anxieties.
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I don’t get very much time to play lately (even less as the holiday grief extravaganza amps up at my volunteer gig) but if any of you lot run into me out there in the wild, you are more than welcome to ask me for RP.
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@Cobalt This is what happened to me with The Becoming. I had ideas, and a great intro scene, then my brain flatlined about MUing in general.
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@Gashlycrumb said in MU Peeves Thread:
Once we all had anxiety, or we had emotional/mental fatigue from being the person who did the who-where-aboutwhat? scene-organising labour too often.
Now we can top those legit reasons off with the fact that some get away with treating asking for RP as a violation of boundaries and a bannable offense. So yeah, who’s asking these days?
I don’t think I’ve seen anyone banned for asking for RP unless it was someone they had a no contact with and were approaching on another alt.
That said, I have seen someone go to staff and complain that they were being harassed by someone who they were trying to avoid, but who frequently asked them for RP or who often popped into rooms they were in to try to catch a scene. The thing is, there wasn’t a no contact and place and they’d never expressed to this person that they didn’t want to interact with them for fear of being seen as rude or as a bully–which is totally legit and a reasonable concern!
But. A big ol’ but here.
At that point it’s not harassment, it’s just the other person being annoying by not taking the hint. And my dudes, dropping a hint is not clear communication. It’s deliberately vague communication, which is hard enough in person when there’s also body language and facial expressions and tone to pick up on. Text has none of those things. Don’t drop hints, cross your fingers, touch your toes, and hope the other person clues in to what you’re (not) saying. Say what you mean. You can be nice about it! But say what you mean. The internet is not going to burn to the ground if you tell someone “Oh! Thanks for the offer, but I’m not really up for that.” or even just “No, thank you.” the way we were all taught when we were, like, five.
