MU Peeves Thread
-
@Pacha said in MU Peeves Thread:
There is a game I am on where I signed up for an event. At the event, was a particular person.
This person, for want of a better word, has a bit of a fan club on this game. People talk about this person a lot; they seem to have a lot of close friends, and people respond super enthusiastically when they do things, log on etc. etc.
I do not begrudge this person any of this, and to be honest, they do not seem to do anything to encourage it. From my point of view they do not do anything to -warrant- it, either. But, I am prepared to accept that is very subjective.
In this event, which was just a one-shot adventure-type thing with some light combat, I ended up nearly walking out part way through because this person’s fan club was so busy gushing over this person and trying to interact with this person that my character was totally ignored.
This happened multiple times, where the rest of the group just played as though my character was not there. As an example, my character did X thing on their turn. I checked it with the GM, rolled for it, it was in my pose. Nobody referenced it in their pose, acknowledged it had happened, or anything like that.
In the next round, this person does a very similar thing (similar enough to the point of being redundant in the circumstances). The rest of the group are falling over themselves to (ic and ooc) tell this person how clever they are, how cool and badass their idea was. Even the GM referenced them doing this thing in their pose, ignoring that my character had already done it.
It’s not a major thing, but man is it irritating. I wasn’t going to mention it, but the talk of cliquey groups brought it all rushing back! I have been kind of light on the details as I don’t dislike any of these people or want them to feel bad. However, if the purpose of the scene is a self-congratulatory, feel-good session with your in-group, maybe don’t paste it as a public event and invite people you’re not really interested in including.
I JUST FOUND OUT THIS WAS ABOUT ME.
Man. At first I thought I just didn’t remember this happening, but I think I just never read this post to realize it was about me. I’m sorry to have been in a position to make someone feel ignored, I’m also baffled at the idea that I don’t warrant people being excited to see me, lol. Not even in an offended way just an oh man, I had no idea someone was sitting there feeling this way. Like, I assume I’m just a blip on other people’s radar!
Anyway, I hope the OP is feeling better these days.
-
Hey there!
I am slightly amazed you figured this out at all, let alone after so much time! But upon referring to this post:
https://brandmuday.mythicus.net/topic/121/tsar-s-playlist?_=1761253660522
I think you are actually spot on, so great detective work!
As I mentioned in the post, I don’t dislike you (or anyone else from that scene) in any way. I was just using this thread for its purpose, which was to vent about some irritation I had about it on the day.
Honestly, I have not spent the intervening time stressing about it or plotting heinous acts of revenge, so we are all good as far as I am concerned! In fact, I would go so far as to say that my gripe was not with you at all, so much as how the others in that scene responded to your character vs how they responded to mine.
TO CLARIFY! (since I now remember this!) I think you absolutely warrant people being happy to see you. But despite my being as nice as I knew how to be on that game, what I remember I would often see was…
Pacha logs on
Pacha greets folks
crickets
Tsar logs on, a short or a long time after
It is one minute after midnight on January first
Which I completely appreciate is an unreasonable thing to be grumpy about, especially given that this is mostly down to random chance, people can say hi to whom they like, I don’t know who was awake and at their screens yada yada…so it could absolutely have been an “all in my head” thing.
But in my defence, this is a peeves thread, not a fully justified and reasonable grievances thread!
In any case, yes, I am all good, and I hope you are too.
-
@Pacha said in MU Peeves Thread:
Honestly, I have not spent the intervening time stressing about it or plotting heinous acts of revenge,
lol oh thank god, what a relief.
TBH me finding out at all was a total fluke of someone mentioning it in my presence and I was like what?
And yeah, you’re totally okay using this forum for its purposes. I can completely understand logging onto places and feeling like the other players don’t really notice that I’m there or I’m just existing around the outskirts. I think it happens to pretty much everyone at some point, and it almost always sucks.
If you see me out in the wild sometime, drop me a page! Maybe we can get a scene in!
-
Enemies to besties, 40,000 words, slow burn…
ETA: After seeing the date of the original post is 2023… very slow burn.
-
@tsar This whole entire development has just been encouraging. I think it says a lot that you were willing to acknowledge Pacha’s emotions and experience even though you were unaware of it happening and also that it wasn’t the motivation of your actions.
It also says a lot about @Pacha for being able to acknowledge your position in the situation. While also not allowing these interactions to create a negative viewpoint.
So kudos to both of you!
At the end of the day we’re all human with our own lives and struggles. We don’t know how our actions (or the actions of those associated with us too) can be interpreted by others. We also can’t know the motive of others actions who we interact with. MUSH is behind a screen and most times we don’t know the person on the other side.
We may become friends over time and we may meet some of these people, but for the most part we remain strangers who share a love of escaping our reality through adventure. Yet, somehow our interactions with these people can still impact us and others in ways we can’t anticipate.
I’ve viewed others as being part of a ‘clique’ before. Either shutting out people or monopolizing rp and I admit I’ve let myself either be offended or get self conscious about it. Likewise, I’ve found out down the road that I have been viewed as part of a clique, monopolizing rp, or having some sort of fan following.
I know on my end none of that was my intention. Which made me realize. If I know it wasn’t my intention isn’t it possible that I’m misreading others actions the same mine were misread? I’ve given a lot more grace to myself and others as a result and overall it’s made rp a lot more fun. It’s also ironically helped me create healthier boundaries as well.
Sorry for the long ramble, but this took me down an encouraging thought trail and yeah tl;dr basically:
-
Effort is required to make any hobby fun. Art, music, dog training, knitting, being good at Call of Duty, gardening…
And building a MUSH
And being a player on a MUSHYou get out of it what you put into it. Effort.
-
@Ashkuri I definitely agree, and I’d like to expand upon your thought without overriding or “correcting” you.
I want to add that while it takes work to make any hobby fun, if it’s consistently more work than fun, then it might be time to reassess. Obviously, there are going to be instances where you’re doing a lot of work, particularly in the setup phase, but you should eventually get more fun out of it than a feeling of work.
-
@Pavel said in MU Peeves Thread:
I want to add that while it takes work to make any hobby fun, if it’s consistently more work than fun, then it might be time to reassess.
Agreed. The moment it becomes more work than fun is the moment it’s an unpaid internship, and those are largely gross.
-
-
@Yam If we all had a dollar for every time this happened, we’d all be oligarchs.
-
Self peeve: Find fun game I enjoy. Immediately hit with fatigue that makes thinking hard.
