@Roz said in An Arx Peeve Thread:
@Roz said in An Arx Peeve Thread:
@Birdie said in An Arx Peeve Thread:
@Aria This was me today; Scanning through old clues, recalling scenes that happened 8 RL years ago and wondering “Is this even still in play?”
does anyone know if alaric ever woke up???
also this tolamar brand guy sounds like real trouble
Literally talked about Alaric’s coma and Tolamar Brand and Everard Telmar. Were you in my scene? 
@Aria This was me today; Scanning through old clues, recalling scenes that happened 8 RL years ago and wondering “Is this even still in play?”
@Duke-Whisky I also hope you don’t close. I’m just getting back to finding a smidge of time in my hectic RL. I truly think there’s a lot of potential even if I’ve had trouble with Ares games in the past.
Also I totally understand how becoming a game running and getting a glimpse behind the veil can make you feel jaded about how folks treat one another. There are more folks who aren’t creeps than there are creeps. 
@junipersky said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
The absolute assholes running for the school board just posted a picture from a family member who’s child doesn’t even GO to our high school shit talking specific admin and coaches by name.
And if I comment I become a target again AND amplify their message.
I’m so frustrated.
How is that professional? I can’t with school boards. I’m on the PTO board and we have this unspoken but common sense rule about how to conduct yourself/behave on social media. I’m always shocked when I see what other parents have to go through when dealing with school administrators and school boards.
@Lyanna hey there! I was Evangeline (Mandrake) on Marsilikos. I had some of my favorite scenes there. Good to see you around.
This is for all the folks who were writing about ADHD and depression (and I fully admit to skimming because, you know 
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This is something I have been working on in therapy (I fully support talk therapy + medicine, if needed). Be kind to yourself. Be gentle with yourself. If all the things didn’t get done, that’s ok. There’s always tomorrow or you know what, maybe it never gets finished. That’s ok, too. I have to often stop myself when I begin berating myself for not doing enough, being enough, having enough, not following through, not finishing what I started, etc., and take a breath and say either out loud or in my head “be kind to yourself.”
Just food for thought. It has helped me get through some tough moments. Doesn’t take the place of therapy but it’s a tool I use for myself and my kiddo who has been showing a lot of ADHD. Be kind to yourself. You are deserving of kindness.
@Pavel said in An Arx Peeve Thread:
@helvetica said in An Arx Peeve Thread:
@Pavel sorry if this PB is immersion-breaking for you
Please, I’m used to WoD PBs where every sixth one is a porn star I’ve seen doing things to vegetables. This is nothing.
Just needed to comment to say I legit spit my water out reading this. Excellent. I needed the laugh.
@farfalla said in MU Peeves Thread:
Actually new peeve:
Please let me mute/hide private Ares scenes.
This turned me off to Ares in general and triggered a response that was not always necessary. You should only be able to see your own private scenes when you look at the active scene list.
Funny enough, I will generally get too wrapped up into the scene and the story and forget about FI’s. I’m pretty sure this is what makes me bad at xp harvesting.
Mostly I do an initial greet on channel this way others can welcome new person too. If anyone has been feeling neglected by me recently, I apologize as I have a lot of RL right now that needs my attention.
I will always check in with folks to make sure they have what they need to get started, answer any questions they might have, etc. What I cannot do anymore is hand hold a player through every nitty gritty moment. I’m burned out in that arena, too. While I’ve enjoyed joining orgs that are full, I’ve always chosen a character I thought I would like to play regardless of whether or not their house/org was active. Until very recently my alt’s HoH was mega idle for almost a year, logging in then out every few weeks to avoid idle roster. It was quiet in the org but didn’t make playing my character any less fun. That is always my advice to new players to a roster character; make sure you have fun with your character.
I like @Roz 's idea of catch-up and time XP. Does t have to be tons of XP but something of incentive for existing within reason. Being active in a way that you’re not just logging in/logging out. Firan would give you a birthday bonus if you happened to roll well on your birthday.
My RP relationship peeve stems off this topic. While I surely cannot devote all my time to an IC relationship (definitely not 70%), I’ve recently been triggered by my need for monogamy and my settling for don’t ask don’t tell. My character mentioned this was such a great aspect of their relationship because she didn’t want to know of the other people, if there were other people, and the person my character was with literally replied with something like “you should meet them…” Only to then find out someone who triggered me on game earlier was still in the partner’s rotation of lovers.
I basically told the player I couldn’t do this even if I enjoyed the story, even if I still thought they were very nice and had fun while it lasted. I was just so triggered. Now I’m hesitant to involve any character that deeply because I will feel guilty for not being on enough to satisfy the IC relationship needs of the other player. I know this sounds super messed up and it’s a very low self-esteem thing. It’s just a bad trigger. I want to be ‘cool’ and all monogamy is for the birds, but I would be lying to myself and the other person.
@Herja @Jennkryst My favorite 2e wolfblood merit is second skin where you are born with this sentient fur blanket. You can’t really be away from it too long I think. I always liked the idea of freaking people out, leaving it on random furniture etc. “Oh that? It’s just her birth fur blanket. It breathes and has a heartbeat but don’t worry, it doesn’t bite.”
@bear_necessities something like that. I think it was like Milan After Dark or Italia after Dark. I don’t remember but I was so sucked into WoD even though those games were “free form” like, imagine there being a 3rd gen Vampire running around. Now imagine the kind of RP that comes from that lol.
This would literally be anything from AOL’s Conference Rooms “The Arena” I don’t even know what it was about to be honest. Someone randomly IMed me, I must have typed ((laughs)) and they said “Oh, do you RP?” I said “What’s RP?” and that was it. My intro to the world of online role play and then it developed into playing on AOL RP rooms that were all Tavern based or Vampire based. All of which the RP was horrible. No logs. You’ll just have to believe me.
@Whisky said in Liberation MUSH:
Went in as a mortal and didn’t know anyone there. Got 1 page from someone if I was up and dtf and caught 1 scene with someone else. That was it. Not played since.
I had something similar happen to me in the sense that I was in an IC scene. Scene was fine until the person was just like “So are we banging or do I need to take a cold shower?” I basically replied with na. They up and left the scene and found someone else. C’est la vie. Needless to say it just didn’t sit well with me. Now, I’m no prude but substance and story is important especially when I was new to game and really had a difficult time trying to get into the story and understand history and plot.
Aside from that, I eventually started to understand story and felt like I could be more useful to my core group. Sadly though, as soon as that happened, something else occurred that triggered me hard (had to do with the same person from previous) and I decided it was best to draw my line in the sand, set my boundaries and take a break.
I might try it again at another point, another sphere perhaps. The folks I came across who were helpful and drove story were good and I do miss the interaction with them. Hope that helps you out some @lordbelh. Good to see you about.
@mietze I feel this. My boys all tested positive in May. They went down like dominos one right after the other. My mom who came to watch my youngest for 20 minutes on day 0 also tested positive. I was the only one who didn’t test positive. We were very lucky everyone had a mild case with my youngest having it the worst since he was the only one not vaccinated. I took the approach that once it was here we all had it and tried to keep things as calm and peaceful as possible. The house also smelled of Vicks, lavender and eucalyptus for what seemed like ever Wishing everyone a speedy recovery ️🩹
@Snackness You’re doing the best you can with so much on your plate. You’ve got this. We’ve got your back here. You will get through this and weather this storm. You will be able to get on a couple of days without your medication because you are strong and capable. Be kind to yourself, give yourself love because you are doing enough; more than. You are above and beyond. I’m sending you positive vibes and love ️
I think context here is the indicator on how to use “I’m sorry you feel that way.” I actually use this ALL the time with my kids because it allows me to let them know that I empathize with their feelings, I validate that they feel a certain way, and then I follow this up with fulfilling a need or redirecting them to a more positive solution. But when I use “I am sorry you feel this way.” it is always followed up with something along the lines of “How can we make you feel better? What can I do to help you?”
If the person is just coming back at you and saying “I’m sorry you feel that way.” then is like peace out, or that’s your problem, etc., yeah, it’s a shitty use of something that could potentially be used to mend and not further cause divide or strife.
In the MU world, I would see this as a red flag and then stay very far away from anyone like this.
@Rucket I feel you here with regards to things needing to move a bit slower or needing time to mentally plan/plot things out. For me, I get very easily overwhelmed and when I am overwhelmed I cannot think clearly, my reading comprehension goes down, everything feels urgent and everything out of my control.
We went from not having a lot of story happening all at once to having all the story all at once and that seems overwhelming. I think you’re doing a great job with everything that’s come your way. I’m happy to help however I can, too.
