So today is my first day back in the office after PTO. When I was checking my calendar last night, I saw that my boss put a meeting on the books for first thing this morning with her and with her boss. I figured something went wrong with one of the projects I was working on with the boss’s boss while I was out and they needed to get me up to speed.

Uhh, no.

Turns out that when I found out how underpaid I am compared to my teammates last summer and lodged a complaint about that, initially got an ugly response, then they backpedaled hard and asked how much I wanted, only to get turned down? That request stuck around. My boss’s boss’s boss noted the complaint and when they did mid-year adjustments this year for people on the bottom end of salary bands, he personally lumped my name in with the ones that got sent to HR. Even though I was above the cut-off percentage for consideration.

My boss called a meeting to give me a 5% raise, on top of my end of year adjustment from 2023, because of something I bitched about a year ago.

In almost ten years at my company, I have only ever gotten one bad review – one! out of almost twenty! – from a person who was my manager for all of two months. It was from someone who not only didn’t understand what my job was, but who regularly gave conflicting instructions in the same day, would ignore when I pointed this out to her, and then wondered why I couldn’t do both of these things that were in direct opposition to one another. This manager then proceeded to be mean to me for the next two years straight, all the way up until I moved to a different subdivision, and still tries to pull my current boss into almost everything I work on that she’s involved in.

Today she was forced to acknowledge that my work is fast, thoughtful, and high quality despite being related to a request that is urgent, complex, and so confusing to convey to our audience that we need spreadsheets of who gets what messaging, when, and from whom.

And she had to say the nice thing in front of an entire committee.

Including my boss.

We got another dog back on Memorial Day weekend. He was a rescue out of a terrible situation on the Texas-Mexico border (multiple infections, inch deep cuts hidden under matting in his fur, fleas, ticks, you name it) and despite being surrendered by his previous owner, we’re honestly not sure he’s ever lived in a house before.

I cannot stop laughing at the crazy-eyed reaction he has to pup cups, like the sugar high hitting his bloodstream is just the dog equivalent of this child.

I am late to the party because naps, and I think I must have missed something someone said somewhere but…

Please do not doubt someone who claims they have been abused. Not even if you profoundly dislike them. Not even if they engage in shitty behavior themselves after the fact.

NGL, I got way too drawn into Ghost’s personal life and resulting well-being about a decade ago, but it was not in the Regina George “OMG, why are you so obsessed with me?!” kind of way that Dropkick tried to portray it as later. It was in the “As extremely unlikely as it is to be accepted, I feel like I need to (with my partner’s knowledge and agreement) at least offer to put this person up in my spare bedroom because they have repeatedly expressed to me that they feel unsafe in their own home” kind of way.

I’m not going to go into more than that because it’s absolutely not my story to share, and I’m not going to claim that it justifies terrible behavior on his part because it absolutely does not. Believe me, even after confirming there was no bad blood between us – at least not about that and the dRaMa!!11!one!elevn!!! that resulted – there have been several times since then that I’ve wanted to sock the dude in the mouth.

But, like… don’t, guys. Just don’t. Not cool, and A+ to the folks who said they aren’t going to do that.

My coworker’s partner is liquidating a lot of their inventory from their Etsy shop. So today they showed up with a bag full of block printed t-shirts for me and tried to foist them off on me for free, until I insisted on paying something for it.

(Pay artists. It’s a rule, not a guideline.)

My clothes are extra queer now and I am very happy.

In my experience, abusers are going to be abusive regardless of what community, culture, or system they’re in. They will find ways to bend the rules and norms of that setting to their advantage, as well as to blame those they abuse for somehow being at fault for what was done to them. And this is true for any kind of abuse, although sexual abuse is the most egregious.

The key to minimizing this is making it clear from the outset that it’s not acceptable by the broader community as a whole, then enforcing this mandate regularly and consistently when it’s uncovered that oh, hey, surprise, this abusive person is a piece of shit. Officially, yes, but also unofficially, with a general aura of “You fuckers are not welcome here.” that is present from start to finish.

It’s not perfect, not by any means, but no system is and I think it’s the only way to balance the fact that everyone’s experiences, preferences, and desires are their own and that no one else really has the right to dictate that for others, save those who cannot possibly consent for whatever reason.

Final GPA for my Master’s degree. Considering there was a point when I lost track of how many times I dropped or failed out of undergraduate programs, I’d say this isn’t half bad.

@farfalla

I prefer they/them. She/her is also fine. Like, I won’t be mad about it or offended if someone uses that, especially given how complicated my own feelings about gender are and the fact that my body-type adds a lived experience I will always have thrust on me barring major surgery I don’t want, but I do get the warm fuzzies when folks at least try.

Uhmm.

I somehow got an A in the worst class in my entire program, the hell-class that I was seriously concerned about failing in the final semester before graduation, the class that had me in spiralling meltdown mode for two months.

I understand virtually nothing from this class, including how or why I got this grade, but fuck it. I’ll take it.

@Tchotchke said in Liberation MUSH:

I appreciate everyone’s thoughts. Getting that out of my system and finding that a bunch of people with an outside perspective thought it was problematic was cathartic. Thank you.

Dude, my friends and I left that game over way less awful shit than that. And while I sometimes miss my character and regret the amount of setting material I wrote up for a staffer that was very shortly thereafter replaced by a hypercontrolling weirdo…

That policy (? bbpost? whatever it is?) is so beyond the pale that no amount of nostalgia would be worth going back. I suggest taking Roz’s advice and noping the fuck out of there.

@somasatori said in AI Megathread:

I have actually had to unlearn using em dashes because I would do it constantly. I use a lot of parentheses now when previously I would just be like – . People have recently assumed that I was using AI (not great for clinical writing) and thus everything is over-parenthized. Over-parenthesesed?

Parenthosophized. Add it to the style guides now, please and thank you.

@Pavel said in AI Megathread:

@MisterBoring Either @Roz or @Aria explained… somewhere up in the higher reaches of this thread. I got a cramp trying to scroll that far.

I explained it here. Roz got mad that she didn’t know the dumb reason they’re called en dash and em dash.

@Pavel said in AI Megathread:

@Aria said in AI Megathread:

You should be–if you know how to use them properly–leaving no spaces between the dash and the word

That is a style guide difference.

ETA: At least it used to be, I haven’t checked recently. But when I was first coming up in the Professional Writing Arena we used some bastardised variant of AP style that required a space between. It also did weird shit with ellipses that I didn’t approve of.

You can use spaces between (I prefer spaces between because ohgodmyeyes), but having a space on one side and not the other like our dumb brand font does is what I was talking about re: stylistic inconsistency. We use a bastardized version of Chicago style where I work that does the no spaces.

@Pavel said in AI Megathread:

However, various institutions are using flawed heuristics – be they AI-driven or meatbrain – to judge whether something is written by an LLM which do include em dashes and other common signs of professional/academic writing, and using those flawed judgements to punish students, workers, etc in ways that can dramatically impact their professional lives.

Funnily enough, em-dashes (along with emojis) are something that I use in my professional life to gauge whether or not something was written by an employee or written by AI. The giveaway isn’t that they’re included in whatever document, though. It’s that they’re formatted incorrectly.

Our brand standard font doesn’t like em-dashes and will format them like this-- which is both grammatically wrong and stylistically inconsistent (to the point that the forum software isn’t even auto-formatting it for me). You should be–if you know how to use them properly–leaving no spaces between the dash and the word. The professional writers will almost always catch this because it’s a clear grammar mistake. People who don’t know how em-dashes are supposed to work but had them inserted in by Copilot 365 or ChatGPT usually don’t notice the error.

It’s the same with emojis. The ones that you can make in Microsoft programs using keyboard shortcuts or from the available list in Teams have a totally different visual style than the ones that ChatGPT, Writer, and other LLMs spit out. If they show up in a piece, it’s almost always a dead giveaway that someone copied that content from an LLM into Word, Outlook, or Teams, and literally every time I’ve asked someone if they used AI to write that after seeing an out of place emoji, they excitedly confirmed they did.

The thing is, I’m not a manager and I’m not HR. The only repercussions they’re going to face from me judging something as “AI wrote that for them” is me making a bitchy little face behind my computer. If anyone else notices, they’ll probably be praised for being more efficient–right up until someone in leadership wants to know why something isn’t right.

Needless to say, I have a lot of Big Feelings about AI because my company uses it, I’m expected to write about what we use it to do for the public, I’m expected to write about how to use it better for our employees, and people think it can replace parts of my job. Which it can! And does! Often poorly. Especially when people don’t understand how it works, what it actually does, or that artificial intelligence is a terrible misnomer and it should likely be called ‘automation’ instead.

@Faraday said in AI Megathread:

@Ashkuri said in AI Megathread:

No one is coming for the em dashes

That is just literally untrue. People have targeted it so much that it’s been widely dubbed the “ChatGPT Hyphen”, and there are a bazillion articles written about how it’s a “tell-tale sign of AI use” by people who don’t know better.

I am not saying that the Wikipedia article was made in bad faith. As you note, it has many sensible disclaimers. But there are just too many people looking for “shortcuts” to identifying AI writing, and they’re liable to summarize and/or quote out of context without the necessary nuance.

I probably shouldn’t be sitting here laughing, but like…

I rattled off five different things I do in my writing that would probably get it flagged as AI, three of which are things I’ve been professionally trained to as part of published and in-house style guides. And now we’re arguing about “OMG em-dashes!” again, which is… summarizing and/or quoting out of context without the rest of the nuance.

Exceptio probat regulam in casibus non exceptis.

@Faraday said in AI Megathread:

@Tez said in AI Megathread:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wikipedia:Signs_of_AI_writing

Just as a note, many (if not most) of these “signs of AI writing” are in fact signs of professional writing as well.

The so-called “ChatGPT Dash” is just the em dash, widely used by pro authors and well-known in Emily Dickinson poetry. Rule of three, “has been described”, parallelism… most of these are common writing tools that many people just weren’t aware of before. ChatGPT is able to imitate those tools because it stole the published work of actual writers.

This. So very much this. I write professionally not as an author of novels or biographies or anything like that, but in the world of corporate communications. There are literally hundreds and hundreds of both externally-facing articles online and internally-facing intranet articles that I’ve either written or edited over the last five years in this job.

As I scan this article about signs of AI writing, I can see no less than five things that appear in my writing either because they’re a personal writing habit (m-dashes, rule of three) or because they’re in my company’s internal style guide (disclaimer-like language as a result of regulatory rules we’re adhering to, items being treated as proper nouns, excessive use of bold face when referring specific form fields or product titles).

Anything I write personally, I don’t use AI for at all and generally refuse to touch. Knowing my writing style, though, I’m just waiting for the day someone sees me using the MS Word autoformat for an m-dash (–) out of pure habit and accuses me of using ChatGPT to RP.

Anything I write professionally would almost certainly be pegged as written by AI, despite the fact that I have access to three different LLM products at work and largely refuse to use them–unless I’ve gotten a last minute request from a level of leadership I can’t delay. Even then, I use it to spit out a very rough draft at most, which I edit significantly.

On our team of seven people, one of my teammates consistently receives praise for her adoption and advocacy of AI tools. She’s also recognized by our boss’s boss as the team’s worst writer. I largely refuse to use them and am generally regarded as the team’s Luddite, and also get consistently praised as our best writer. The irony isn’t lost on me, but it does seem to be lost on management.

I’m sure this is some sort of big scandal, but all I can think is:

“Jesus Christ, I barely have the ability to make an alt–as in one!–on top of the one character that I have on one game. The last few times I tried, I either never finished CGen or went IC all of, uhhh, twice. Who has the energy and executive function to have multiple OOC identities with multiple alts for each of them?!”

@Gashlycrumb said in MU Peeves Thread:

@Yam

Once we all had anxiety, or we had emotional/mental fatigue from being the person who did the who-where-aboutwhat? scene-organising labour too often.

Now we can top those legit reasons off with the fact that some get away with treating asking for RP as a violation of boundaries and a bannable offense. So yeah, who’s asking these days?

I don’t think I’ve seen anyone banned for asking for RP unless it was someone they had a no contact with and were approaching on another alt.

That said, I have seen someone go to staff and complain that they were being harassed by someone who they were trying to avoid, but who frequently asked them for RP or who often popped into rooms they were in to try to catch a scene. The thing is, there wasn’t a no contact and place and they’d never expressed to this person that they didn’t want to interact with them for fear of being seen as rude or as a bully–which is totally legit and a reasonable concern!

But. A big ol’ but here.

At that point it’s not harassment, it’s just the other person being annoying by not taking the hint. And my dudes, dropping a hint is not clear communication. It’s deliberately vague communication, which is hard enough in person when there’s also body language and facial expressions and tone to pick up on. Text has none of those things. Don’t drop hints, cross your fingers, touch your toes, and hope the other person clues in to what you’re (not) saying. Say what you mean. You can be nice about it! But say what you mean. The internet is not going to burn to the ground if you tell someone “Oh! Thanks for the offer, but I’m not really up for that.” or even just “No, thank you.” the way we were all taught when we were, like, five.

@helvetica said in Celebrities We've Lost 2025:

@Aria My mother is touting a picture of him holding me as a baby, today.

I’m gonna miss that dude! I rarely go to fancy restaurants, but I feel like every time I ever do… he’s there, out with one or more beautiful twinks. smh. single tear drop.

I met him a couple of times and was just showing a friend the photo of me and @insomniac meeting him at a standing room only Green Day show, like, ten years ago. I didn’t realize he was live when the pic was snapped. He put me on air talking about how I’d been listening since I was 14 and when I was off at college and they weren’t broadcasting online yet, my mom’d put the phone up to the radio on Thanksgiving Day so we could sing “Alice’s Restaurant” all together and horribly off-key.

Pierre Robert, 70

Pierre was a radio legend. He’d been on air since 1981, so almost anyone who ever lived in the Philadelphia region and listened to rock knew who he was. The man was so beloved by locals that any time he was covering a concert, the line to meet him would be almost as long as the line the meet the band. His love for music was legendary, as was his hilariously painted van “Minerva”, which was older than I am. His complete inability to keep to a schedule became a running joke that his audience dubbed “Pierre Standard Time” and his radio show frequently ran over just because he was jamming out and having a good time. He founded charities to fight food insecurity, launched city-wide holiday traditions, promoted small local bands, was willing to use his platform to cut off musicians who took extremist views or did a Philly audience dirty, and was always, always happy to stop and snap a photo with listeners.

For folks in Philly who love music, this one’s a kick in the teeth.