@Prototart

@Coin It’s giving:

More of a real life cute, but wanted to share. This is a recent development that now seems to be routine.

Backstory: Our oldest cat has diabetes and has to get injections. Don’t worry, he’s doing fine. Grumpy old man, but his levels are good and he’s moving towards remission. That being said, since he has to get a shot twice a day he gets fed a little away from the other cats and gets some extra cuddles after.

Present Day: One of our youngest cats started to walk up and whine when I was administering the post-shot extra cuddles to Oldest Cat. So I laughed and said, “You only get extra cuddles if you get a shot.” He head donked me and meowed.

Just for fun I took the insulin pen (so solid plastic cap no needle to it) and gave him ‘his shot’. I said “There you go! Good job!” and cuddled him.

Now he comes up every feeding, every injection, and waits his turn patiently for ‘his shot’ and extra cuddles.

@Tez said in Wikibara’s allegations:

@voiceinthevoid said in Wikibara’s allegations:

@Kestrel

Just – to be clear. You’re fine. Just want everyone to know who I am, which is Tez, with a z.

@bear_necessities It’s also ok to remove yourself from a situation if your no isn’t respected. Whether that’s the person dealing with the My Guy or the My Guy themselves. If it doesn’t bring you joy? Marie Kondo it. I don’t know, but life is too short.

While it’s not our job to point out what seems to be obvious negative traits in rp, I also will say sometimes all it does take is one person being willing to not complain behind the scene and instead go “Hey…I’ve noticed this trend. I think you might get more positive results and interaction if you try meeting people halfway.”

They might be ‘My Guy’ but that doesn’t mean they are ‘My Guy’…or something >.>

@Roadspike Exactly. Sometimes the ‘why IS my char here?’ makes the best memories. It’s fun and a chance to step outside their comfort zone with no rl consequences.

We don’t have to play normally at all or stick with certain ‘would and would nots’ because it’s ic. OOC sure don’t disrespect a boundary and don’t let people push you past a comfort zone (in MUSH, friendships, life, etc.) It’s MUSH though. By pushing my char’s comfort zones I’ve actually ended up growing my own confidence irl and used fiction to help encourage ooc growth.

@chorus This. Yes, there is some level of ‘staying true to your character’, but acting like your character is an actual existing person vs…ya know…a character you created and are in control of the actions of…always baffled me.

There is a difference between “I don’t know that my char would be much use in this scene” or “My char just had a bad run in in that location so would avoid it” followed with “but thank you for thanking of me!” and being totally unwilling to find compromise or being offended you’re left out as a result of the limits you set.

It’s reminiscent for me of characters who always start a scene sitting off to the side or doing a task that obviously distracts them from the events around them in a group or even a one on one scene. Then, don’t get involved until a character specifically approaches ic to get their attention.

Like, yes I’m willing to work with you in a scene and contribute my share. I’m not begging you ooc or ic to hang out with me/my char. That’s not fun. I deserve to feel just as prioritized in the rp as who I’m rping with.

On a bright side now I have the “What is up, My Guy?” soundclip in my head! XD

@helvetica

@MisterBoring Could just refer to one as AOH and the other Age since that’s how the websites lead. Or just let the chaos unfold and observe.

@Roz

@Rucket

My son told me the hairstyle he got at the barber is called the Merman Cut. I told him he looks awesome. Meanwhile, all I can hear in my head:

@sao Thank YOU for your work and the difference your dedication made. We are so grateful for the good members of our team who helped us through the process.

I’m not going to lie and act like it’s been easy or that we’ve gotten everything right alone the way. It’s been lots of laughter combined with a lot of frustration and even more apologies as my husband and I were learning. When you step back and think about what THEY’RE dealing with though it makes it easier to keep trying.

I can honestly say my kids are my heroes. They have been given every reason to be bitter and closed off to the world, but they are the kindest humans (kid or adult) and have such big hopes.

I miss this thread (even though it’s only been a couple months) and wanted to share a positive moment and hopefully read others too.

Our youngest kiddo has started communicating better and working on not yelling/cursing/fighting when they get mad.

When we praised them for this and asked what brought on this determination they answered, “I am not scared I’ll have to leave anymore. I know this is my home and I want to be happy.”

We are their 10th home. Our kids (biological siblings) moved into our home a few years ago as a foster placement. The adoption has been finalized over a year now. They have each had their own struggles and victories. I know our journey will continue to have highs and lows. Today though? Is a definite high.

@hellfrog

@Kestrel I’m sorry you’re going through that as well.

As someone who tries to see the best in people and also recovering people pleaser, I’ve been in this situation on MUSH and IRL several times and it hurts just as bad each time. Let yourself grieve. Let yourself feel angry. In my opinion, don’t let it make you regret acting with a genuine good heart though.

You tried to help. There is nothing wrong with that. They hurt you and took advantage of that kindness. Whether intentionally or not, or malicious or not. It doesn’t change the reality of your pain. In my case I still think most (not all) of the people I encountered this with were genuinely hurting people who were struggling on their own path of healing. It doesn’t make their actions any less hurtful, but I can genuinely say I’m at a point in my life now where I either wish them happiness (for those clearly hurting) or am apathetic (for those who were just awful people).

It helps to see if there’s a pattern of that behavior though that it isn’t personal towards me. It still takes awhile to move past though and leaves a lasting hesitancy to let yourself reach out to others in the same way moving forward.

You say ‘all these years’ and it’s easy to focus on how long you let yourself be fooled. Instead, look at how many future years you saved yourself from continuing the same toxic pattern. I’m proud of you and you should find a way to self care because you deserve it.

@helvetica I’m gutted!

I love good plot. Whether that’s good stuff happening, bad stuff happening, or whatever. I’ve written the death of a character I’d played for years and loved the bittersweet send off in the process. I’ve had characters suffer life changing events and played that out too.

My main requirement now, after some negative moments of learning, is that any events are discussed and I trust the other player if they are going to be running the events. This might count as having control so I can change my vote, but I just meant I don’t specifically have to be STing the event or writing out the leadup to the negative stuff itself.

‘Losing’ in a scene/plot/event (whether that’s a bad dice roll or events) can be some of the best character/player interaction to be had in my experience.

ugh, I’m sorry you had to deal with this. This is an awful, unnecessary, and annoying thing. How on earth is a brain tumor funny in any sense?

Yeah this is why (aside from maybe a couple friends) I no longer trust anyone when they say “I have an awesome idea, but I want it to be a surprise.” Even if I don’t think the person would pull anything like that it just gives me anxiety.

I do think any struggle can be approached with a defiant humor, but that’s the decision of the people experiencing it. We named my husband’s tumor ‘Tina Tumor’ and when we found out it was gone we went out with our friends and my toast was a very bad Arnold impersonation.

@RightMeow THAT’S why I space out randomly! You’re using our shared brain. It all makes sense.