Posts made by SockMonkey

@Meg Am I the only one who doesn’t watch something because an actor or actress is known to be terrible enough either talent wise or as an overall person? >.>

@Aria As someone with a long history of admin/executive assistant roles, I share your rage. People hear admin or executive assistant and look down on the person when in reality there are so many hats you wear to successfully achieve such a role. It requires such a vast skill set and involves adapting to so many different approaches.

In order to assist all these different people you have to understand the jobs you’re assisting them with. Which is something people don’t understand themselves. Also “taking a chance” must have been such a discouraging way to be viewed when you were earned that opportunity ten times over so I’m sorry for that.

All that to say -I- think you’re brilliant and am proud of you! Treat yourself!

@catzilla It’s definitely giving Britta Perry vibes.

@Mushling-0 Officially mentally adding the narrator voice of "Last time on ‘As the MUSH Turns’ " to the start of your post because dayum.

@Aria Look at you go!

@Tez

@Jennkryst

@junipersky Oh how fantastic! The birthday. The stability. The safety she obviously feels with you. You’re just marvelous!

@Buttercup Checking in to say you are both thought of and cared about. Hope your healing is going well. Not sure if you’re in the storm areas, but hope you’re staying safe through those too if yes.

TW: General reference of current events.

This week has been heavy for obvious reasons. My heart is pained and my emotions have been all sorts of scattered.

As a parent I feel like nothing I say or do is enough to help my kids. There are some questions that don’t have answers. Some explanations just don’t make anything better.

All I can do is sit and cry with them. Or be here as a support when they have nightmares or fears, but it honestly never feels like enough.

Having an emotional day, but thankful for the MUSH community where I can at least distract with plot or find support through friends.

Oh sweet mother of adorableness I LOVE them!

@Jumpscare

@Aria That is definitely one of those embarrassing moments your brain holds onto until 10 years later when you’re almost asleep so it can say “Hey remember that time you…”

@Snackness Yay! Glad you can remember what it’s like to be pain free. That’s super exciting!

@junipersky I’m proud of her too! I’m also proud of you. It means she’s learning to recognize and communicate her big feelings and you have given her a safe place to figure out the process. It’s hard to feel like you’re making a difference some days, but when you look back and see the difference between day 1 and present behavior it really is an encouraging thing.

The past few months of my life have felt like years in both the most stressful and wonderful ways possible.  I’ve taken on challenges and responsibilities that, even as they were happening, I wasn’t sure I was strong enough to face.  All I knew is that quitting wasn’t an option.

During these months I’ve had to sacrifice significant time from MUSH and other online and RL interactions and, while it was difficult to start with, my journey helped me find a healthier balance and outlook towards life in general.  It’s amazing how the toughest times in our life can also be the best.  How what breaks us down also leaves us stronger than we ever thought we could be.

I’m happier now.  I realize that self care isn’t selfish.  Kindness doesn’t require tolerating mistreatment.  Simply put…life is too damn short to spend it making yourself miserable.

I know realistically I will always struggle with my confidence and worry about letting others down.  It’s just part of being a recovering people pleaser.  It sure does feel nice to finally be in a place where I can look in the mirror and genuinely love the person I’m looking at though.

TL;DR: Life is short.  Love yourself.  You’re worth it.

@sao Me reading the one spelling as ‘Air-un’, ‘Aye-ron’ and ‘Uh-run’.

County offices and everything takes so damn long on their end, but when they need something and you don’t jump through every hoop you are called uncooperative. Even when it’s hoops they have only told you about and not set up yet. Meanwhile watching your child wait on important help they need because of it.

Words. Cannot. Express. My. Rage.

@junipersky That’s fantastic! You’re doing a great job. Just remember in your moments when you see her disappointment or are overwhelmed, you are human and you are allowed to be learning during this process as well.

What we did that helped is use the word ‘consequence’ instead of ‘punishment’ and then limiting screen time rather than physical discipline obviously or sending them to their rooms.

There will be a lot you realize after the fact that you beat yourself up for not knowing, but again you’re learning too. What matters is you care enough to be there. Every kid is different and every journey is different.

As for the toothbrush/hairbrush thing YES we had that duh moment too. We have realized the more choices they have or can help with the better. They pick what snacks go in their snack drawers each week. Sometimes it’s the same stuff sometimes it’s new food. They pick what scent soap they want for their bathroom. They pick Youtube, Movie or Roblox for family time at night.

Anyways I’m rambling. That affirmation goes a long way for you too so I know that must have felt good to receive. In case you haven’t gotten it in awhile, you are doing AWESOME and keep it up!

@junipersky Thank you! While it was awesome of them to give me severance and a recommendation letter it was almost worse that it wasn’t because of any mistake on my part?

It’s legitimately the “It’s not you it’s me” of the work world

That being said it’s let me catch up on the forums the past few days and OMG! So glad to see your own updates. How have you been? As one person to another who’s in that journey currently, you are amazing and you got this!