MU Peeves Thread
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@Snackness said in MU Peeves Thread:
Why do people say they want to RP with me and then…not RP with me? This is mainly rhetorical but also, is it me? It’s okay if it’s me, I’d just like to know.
I often ask this question too.
But honestly? I think this is a question that a lot of people internally ask.
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In my experience:
“I would love to RP sometime!”
“Me too! Hit me up anytime!”
It will literally never happen.“I would love to RP sometime!”
“Me too, what day this week would work for you? Thursday or Saturday is best for me.”
Better odds of it happening.IDK why but it seems like heaps of people can’t get to the when shall we do this stage even if they’re the ones that initiated interest.
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Sorry
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@imstillhere said in MU Peeves Thread:
In my experience:
“I would love to RP sometime!”
“Me too! Hit me up anytime!”
It will literally never happen.Why would you call me out like this.
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@Snackness said in MU Peeves Thread:
Why do people say they want to RP with me and then…not RP with me?
I can’t prove this but I get the sense most people who say they want to RP with you need you to be the one who reaches out to follow up because they take a failure to do so as rejection.
Dunno if that’s the dynamic with you, obviously. For all I know, you have been reaching out. It’s just something I’ve been thinking about that might or might not be useful to you.
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@imstillhere Realizing you pulled this on me day before yesterday
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@Snackness opportunity POUNCED
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Fighting FOMO, but manage to make plans to do rp today with a character I’d like to play more! And then see the person plans are with make plans to do two other RP scenes instead, so open up Beip to at least spectate other people RPing.
Beip has lost all config, I have no worlds or chars to connect to. Feels like a hint.
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@hellfrog omg wtf beip that is misogyny
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@junipersky said in MU Peeves Thread:
I want to rp with you. But I won’t because my brain doesn’t have enough cells to rp these days.
That’s because the RP brain cell is shared among like a dozen of us, these days. At least that’s what it feels like.
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@bear_necessities said in MU Peeves Thread:
Me: Hey wanna grab a scene sometime? I want to rp with you!
Them: yeah!3 days later
Me: oh that person never asked me to rp, they were probably being nice, oh maybe that’s the brain weasels and i should just ask them, but they know I want to rp so why aren’t they asking me?
3 more days later:
Me: it’s too late to ask now and if they wanted to scene with me they would’ve asked, right? right.And then it’s 3 weeks and I haven’t logged into the game and my anxiety is on HIGH ALERT and i’ll just play My Time at Sandrock because that seems really easier than asking people to play with me.
How–how are you in my head. I am in this EXACT situation right now. And I know I should just be like ‘hey would you be okay with me starting a scene finally?’ but since the original conversation they have started other scenes with other people and I’m convinced now they are clearly too busy so I should not bother them.
Why do we do this.
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I think I have shown in various posts over the years that I always think the worst is about me. Brain weasel. Rejection sensitivity. Whatever we want to call it.
I do this exact thing.
On the flip side. I also tell people that I want to scene or I’m good to scene. Then I forget who I talked to. Not because I don’t care, but because my brain didn’t retain. So those weeks I’m also kind of hoping they ask again.
I do find that can we meet on X date at X time does work better for me. I should get more in that habit.
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@RightMeow That’s pretty much me too. I reach out to a dozen people but then I forget who I already talked to and really, the safest way to catch me is to ping me and be like, ‘you there, make a thing happen’.
That said, ping me anytime you visit.
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what @Pavel said a few replies back…
… I want a turn with The Brain Cell. ._.
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lol. just… lol.
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If you are paging me out of the blue, come to the damned point in the first one or two pages.
That’s it, that’s my peeve.
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Yeah. Could do without the “hey” or “waves” page. Just say the thing. Or include the thing with the hey or the wave.
ETA: I more exactly mean when I have to wait several minutes for the ask, or have to initiate the “what’s up?” before the ask comes.
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I mean, if it’s a friend then just a wave makes sense, of course.
If it’s someone I don’t know very well, or a stranger (especially if I’m staffing), then I know there’s another reason for it, and it feels like the most awkward thing ever to have what amounts to small talk with a customer that just approached you at the service desk.
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no one ever greet me
or face the consequences
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