Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent
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Child’s parents are having their termination of rights trial this week. On the advise of all of the professionals husband and I did not go. Our kiddo is the most emotionally affected and we want to be present for her - and also not hear/see the garbage/evidence put up and have it impact our opinions on things. (We know that the parents are going to try to paint the kids as liars who just made up stories during the forensic interviews, and that the county is putting up poster sized images of what kiddo has drawn in her journals.)
But hearing NOTHING is driving me beyond madness. Especially since child is home sick with a fever I’m 95% sure is nerves. (She wants to go home to mom and dad but also can’t argue that she feels safe and loved with us and doesn’t want to leave us either.)
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So the trial… isn’t over. They ran out of time and so scheduled an additional two days in June. We aren’t very happy about the 60 extra days the defense gets but bio parents haven’t made much movement in the last 24 months, so what can legit happen in 60 days? That is eight more visits with the kids apiece.
Kiddo didn’t go to visit this last week because she had a fever - and she has been amazing. We are babying her a lot, but she is still getting upset about stuff then COMING BACK to regulation without losing her mind. Our only big battle was getting her back into her own bed from the nest wr made her on the floor next to ours.
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We are trying to figure out if my mom is “actively dying”. Dementia fucking sucks.
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@Snackness God. I’m so sorry for you and your family.
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@Snackness said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
We are trying to figure out if my mom is “actively dying”. Dementia fucking sucks.
;.;
There’s been some side-eying given to a family member in my case as well, because they have been saying and doing certain things that seem like a precursor to it, or outright misremembering if not forgetting certain things.
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We had a huge set-back in the case. Back in April they had a week of trial to terminate rights, and didn’t finish because the father’s lawyer objected so much. They scheduled two more days, and those happened this week. We were SURE it would wrap up but…
- Father’s lawyer’s witness arrived late and so they were delayed starting.
- The father’s lawyer didn’t issue a subpoena to his witness, so when she said “Wlep, it is 1, I have to go,” they couldn’t compell her to stay. The county didn’t get a chance to cross the witness.
Because of 1 and 2, the county objected and said fhay if they didn’t get to cross her whole testimony should be tossed. The judge, professionally pissed, agreed to add another day.
In July.
Our hopes that this would end this summer are officially squashed because they will need to also allow time for closing arguments (they are having them written and submitted to the judge.)
Mom also fucked up big time this week. During their visit she pulled older sister aside and asked if she was SURE their father had touched her. Older sister went into hysterics and only calmed down once her foster mom was there. They ended the visit.
All the kids have been given the power now to say if they want to go to visit or not. It just needs to be recorded. Eldest sister’s GAL is also submitting a motion for visits to end for her, but the other two GALs won’t be.
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My mom died today.
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@Snackness I’m so, so sorry. Is there anything you need we can send? I cannot imagine the heartbreak.
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@Jenn My dad and I have a solid support system in place, but I really appreciate the offer. It means a lot.
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@Snackness Take care of each other. And we’re all here for support if you need to chat it out away from other folks who might not be ready to talk about stuff the way you might need. to do so.
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@Snackness My deepest condolences for you and your family. It’s so hard, even when it’s something you know is a possibility.
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@Snackness Honey, I am so, so sorry.
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@Snackness said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
My mom died today.
I’m sorry for your loss, having been there myself nearly 28 years ago. I’m glad to hear you both have a support system during such a time.
