Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent
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@Snackness God. I’m so sorry for you and your family.
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@Snackness said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
We are trying to figure out if my mom is “actively dying”. Dementia fucking sucks.
;.;
There’s been some side-eying given to a family member in my case as well, because they have been saying and doing certain things that seem like a precursor to it, or outright misremembering if not forgetting certain things.
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We had a huge set-back in the case. Back in April they had a week of trial to terminate rights, and didn’t finish because the father’s lawyer objected so much. They scheduled two more days, and those happened this week. We were SURE it would wrap up but…
- Father’s lawyer’s witness arrived late and so they were delayed starting.
- The father’s lawyer didn’t issue a subpoena to his witness, so when she said “Wlep, it is 1, I have to go,” they couldn’t compell her to stay. The county didn’t get a chance to cross the witness.
Because of 1 and 2, the county objected and said fhay if they didn’t get to cross her whole testimony should be tossed. The judge, professionally pissed, agreed to add another day.
In July.
Our hopes that this would end this summer are officially squashed because they will need to also allow time for closing arguments (they are having them written and submitted to the judge.)
Mom also fucked up big time this week. During their visit she pulled older sister aside and asked if she was SURE their father had touched her. Older sister went into hysterics and only calmed down once her foster mom was there. They ended the visit.
All the kids have been given the power now to say if they want to go to visit or not. It just needs to be recorded. Eldest sister’s GAL is also submitting a motion for visits to end for her, but the other two GALs won’t be.
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My mom died today.
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@Snackness I’m so, so sorry. Is there anything you need we can send? I cannot imagine the heartbreak.
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@Jenn My dad and I have a solid support system in place, but I really appreciate the offer. It means a lot.
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@Snackness Take care of each other. And we’re all here for support if you need to chat it out away from other folks who might not be ready to talk about stuff the way you might need. to do so.
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@Snackness My deepest condolences for you and your family. It’s so hard, even when it’s something you know is a possibility.
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@Snackness Honey, I am so, so sorry.
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@Snackness said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
My mom died today.
I’m sorry for your loss, having been there myself nearly 28 years ago. I’m glad to hear you both have a support system during such a time.
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<3<3<3 @Snackness and I am glad you have a support system but I am definitely thinking of you.
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@junipersky I hate to say it, but even though permanency is super important to kids, the likelihood is that the court will terminate and then the parent will immediately appeal. I dunno about yours but our department typically won’t finalize adoption while appeal is still pending because it is SUCH a mess if lightning strikes and a term is reversed. If they aren’t warning you about this, beware optimism.
I’m sorry you’re going through this – reminds me of a time we had to stop mid term and do a mistrial because a parent testified that they were high on the stand. Had to start over 5 weeks later in front of a different judge. Term trials are very hard to schedule especially in jurisdictions without a lot of court availability. Winceing at that failure to subpoena because I have been in that boat-- sometimes IDK who my witnesses are until my dependency parent shows up with them at the term trial and demands we let them testify. Our AAG used to let them because she knew a witness like that was unlikely to hurt her case against the parent and the failure to offer evidence could give them grounds for that appeal.
I hope I am wrong and your final orders are actually final but it sounds like there’s some obstinacy, so. Fingers crossed for you.
