A Constructive Arx Thread
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@Mourne said in A Constructive Arx Thread:
I perhaps have the worst timing. I did find one roster whom looked interesting but someone apparently app’d them before I did so I lost out. Which is fine. First come first serve or they (most likely) had the better app as since I am new to the game the idea of:
How will you add RP to the game?
Answer should always be: By RP’ing with others.
Thanks for all the suggestions
…this is all I’ve ever really said when I’ve apped a roster, just in more words. I think you and Arx are on the same page there, tbh.
Either way, I hope you find SOMETHING! You seem pretty okay, and you spell things right, and you think in whole thoughts, etc
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Rosters are almost always first come, first serve, the apps are just sanity checks, so the other person probably just put their app in before you, yeah.
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@Mourne You can also keep an eye out - a lot of characters are only played briefly and then put right back on the roster.
But I am not trying to PEER PRESSURE you into playing Arx, wanting an OC is totally legit.
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@farfalla said in A Constructive Arx Thread:
@Mourne You can also keep an eye out - a lot of characters are only played briefly and then put right back on the roster.
But I am not trying to PEER PRESSURE you into playing Arx, wanting an OC is totally legit.
Not a peer, not yet… alas.
Maybe one day
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@Mourne if a spouse isn’t played and they’re integral to the character, i recommend asking in the app if widower is an option
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@sao said in A Constructive Arx Thread:
@Mourne if a spouse isn’t played and they’re integral to the character, i recommend asking in the app if widower is an option
I’d feel bad about taking the option of a pair of individuals coming in who wanted to have that relationship apping in together.
Also, runs smack into my fear of making what could be considered a demand just to suit me which I don’t think is fair of anyone to ask staff.
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@Mourne said in A Constructive Arx Thread:
@sao said in A Constructive Arx Thread:
@Mourne if a spouse isn’t played and they’re integral to the character, i recommend asking in the app if widower is an option
I’d feel bad about taking the option of a pair of individuals coming in who wanted to have that relationship apping in together.
Also, runs smack into my fear of making what could be considered a demand just to suit me which I don’t think is fair of anyone to ask staff.
It would really be okay to ask.
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@Mourne In my experience as a writer of characters, marriage means the character will never come off the roster again.
let it be a challenge to you
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@sao said in A Constructive Arx Thread:
@Mourne In my experience as a writer of characters, marriage means the character will never come off the roster again.
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I’ve always told New Margerie’s that is it OKAY if they would like to have a more chill relationship with Norwood than was previously RPed. Distance, time, differing interests - these are all very natural.
I feel like it’s a RED FLAG if someone apps a married person and expects there to be profound love there.
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@junipersky said in A Constructive Arx Thread:
I’ve always told New Margerie’s that is it OKAY if they would like to have a more chill relationship with Norwood than was previously RPed. Distance, time, differing interests - these are all very natural.
I feel like it’s a RED FLAG if someone apps a married person and expects there to be profound love there.
Yeah, there was a married couple who were both on the roster, AND I had a friend who claimed to be interested in applying for the other, but nothing ever came from it. Besides, I entered THE FUNK and that would have meant no RP on two characters, instead if just the one.
But if you trust someone to grab a spouse/apply together, it could totes work.
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@sao said in A Constructive Arx Thread:
@Mourne In my experience as a writer of characters, marriage means the character will never come off the roster again.
I’m going to second this. However, if you do choose a character who is married and the player who plays the spouse makes you feel uncomfortable for any number of reasons, I’d suggest speaking with staff before just tossing the character to roster. I would suggest that for any new player who logs in and is made to feel uncomfortable based on a previous relationship. I’ve noticed patterns of certain characters that always go back to roster. Some have been played by friends of mine and they have confided in me they were made uncomfortable by the spouse/lover but did not bring it to staff attention because they did not want to bother staff nor get someone in trouble. Chances are the person who is making the new player feel uncomfortable is making everyone who takes that character feel uncomfortable.
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@Birdie It’s a rough situation. I’ve known at least two instances where players took that to staff, and staff were indeed super supportive, but both times the players still had to deal with other players being shitty to/about them about it. It makes it hard to blame people for just rostering.
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@Roz Players need to mind their business about other people’s IC relationships and what they do with them.
lol lmao
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YES. This. So hard this.
I’ve had people jokingly (?) refer to some of my interactions OOCly, and it’s made me feel embarrassed and ashamed.
People, I don’t have to tell you my character is as Bi as I am, and if the gender of whom she engaged in pretendy times with is objectionable, or the frequency with which those times are assumed to have occurred (never as often as people assume), kindly keep that shit to yourself.
Given my character is actually pretty tame in her romantic endeavors, I can only imagine the shamey opinions that go out for people who present more sensually.
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A real uncomfortable moment for me was when someone said in OOC something to the effect of raise your hand if you haven’t hooked up with X.
In a very public event, not an event that was just some close friends/RP partners. I was like OOF.
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@Roz I absolutely understand that point and have been in that situation in the past. There is no blame on the person for whose personal reasons are to roster. My comment was directed more to situations I was privy to as a friend, where my advice was to address this to staff because it could potentially be problematic if there is a player covertly running people off a character. Whether or not that would have resulted in the same action to roster the character, at the very least it is documented by staff on game.
The same would go for anyone who feels it is in their right to harass another player over an IC relationship. That behavior is unacceptable. @Herja absolutely all of this.
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There was a dude who commented on public channels whenever he discovered my character was in a relationship with someone who wasn’t him.
At least he’s been banned repeatedly. And it’s a fun easy way to spot him when he does re-emerge from his slime pit.
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Aaaagggggggghhhhhhhh why are people like this. I mean I know why people are like this, but oh my god why are people like this.
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I feel like this is a line that people are just bad at. Sex isn’t shameful on Arx, but also like, it’s weird if people talk about it in public situations.
I finally had to ask people to just chill out with the sex jokes around Norwood because YES, it is fun how he reacts but like, it’s not because he’s against the sex, it’s because he thinks it’s no one else’s god damn business - especially his. HE DOES NOT WANT TO KNOW YOUR PRIVATE BUSINESS AND YOU DON’T GET TO KNOW HIS.
I actually don’t know if this is actually constructive or more of a peeve.
(Upside, the people I asked to chill were really wonderful and immediately did without a hit to our relationships.)
