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MU Peeves Thread
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@farfalla said in MU Peeves Thread:
What is your preference for scenes where it starts PG and then heats up?
FTB and we can talk afterward.
Based on this thread, most of us don’t even get hot and heavy with people we don’t already know, so it really shouldn’t happen all that often. I can’t even remember the last time I got into a sexy scene with someone who didn’t already pretty much know my boundaries.
@farfalla said in MU Peeves Thread:
The alternative, in my experience, is a game of TS-chicken in which each person tentatively uses a new word to see how the other person responds but no one wants to be the first one to use it. Which is also awk so I don’t have a solution.
Is it a language thing? I don’t really have a problem with the words people use. Call a dick a dick; I’m fine with it.
It’s more just the time and energy that goes into TSing, and the seeming expectation that I’ll carve regular time out of my RP to play a sex scene. My past experience with people that I have TSed is that (if the relationship doesn’t immediately end after the sexy-times) there’s a “relationship upkeep cost” that I really don’t want to pay. Unless the next sex scene is somehow going to be different than the last one, I’m good to off-cam it… but my partners seem to expect on-cam sexytimes continue, and I really only have like three TS poses; if you played one sex scene with me, you’ve seen my entire repertoire.
I RP maybe three or four scenes a week right now. I don’t got no time for plowing that doesn’t move the story.
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Because I’m not at all concerned about what words the other person uses, I play a lot of word chicken. You pick what you want, I’ll follow your lead. But it’s almost always better to start off subtle.
I also figure I’m dealing with a decent amount of folks who might not enjoy OOC at all, or find it offputting.
If they’re someone who DOES prefer OOC, you usually find that out when they OOC you, lol.
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For those of you unsure of what words to use, I present a great resource:
These are so good that they got A CERTAIN RP PARTNER, WHO I WON’T NAME, to say:
SOMEONE
welp
it was fun TSing with you while it lastedTEZ
NO
MY STATELY PIECE OF MACHINERY
MY ORGAN OF BLISS, INSTRUMENT OF PLEASURESOMEONE
mute
she/they
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@Tez I need better terms for oral sex because my brain takes things very literally and any time someone uses the word ‘eat’ in any descriptive combination whatever, I’m fighting immersive breaking mental images for at least five minutes. If you don’t know, five minutes is like seven internet yeara.
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@Tez miraculous thing which wets where it tickles and tickles where it wets
Lmao
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@tsar said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Tez miraculous thing which wets where it tickles and tickles where it wets
Lmao
Fucking dying
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It is commonly the case for me because I tend to be on the slow side of posing that by the time things get to that threshold for real that I’m getting close to needing to crash/know its getting late for that person. So sometimes the conversation of hey I’ve got to go soon, but i am enjoying the rp–happy to write in an interruption or we can fade or pause what would work best for you has to happen.
Oddly in the last few years all of that sort of play (with varying degrees of graphic detail) that i have done has been with folks that are new enough to me that I’ve not known their preferences or that I’ve never had things go that way even after knowing them awhile. However I think I’ve gravitated in general towards close RP partners who i feel okay about reaching out to. I always feel weird (and not about romance per se) but I think if anyone is going to have to deal with me as a close RP associate then they’re going to figure out how awkward and weird I can be at some point.
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I’m ngl, I find the game of Cock Chicken that goes on in TS with a new person to be kind of endearingly delightful? That is: people just figuring out together where their scene partner’s comfort is, AKA “do I need to use euphemisms or can I just call a cock a cock.”
I actually have TSed with folks I don’t know plenty. In a lot of those instances, the other person has gone OOC when the direction of the scene became clear (but before real hot and heavy stuff had started) to check in about any issues with particular language or terms. I’m not bothered by that at all, although I don’t usually initiate it myself.
I AM bothered if it’s asked more like… “Hey, stranger, what are you into so I can tailor things to what you’re into.” That’s when it gets a bit weird.
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@Roz There is always one c-word I get clearance for because not everyone likes it.
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@crawfish cuddle
she/they
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@crawfish this is really the question I always want to know hahaha
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I actually never even thought about asking about word choices though. It did not even occur to me that it might be triggering, it was just more of an internal fretting that I might stumble across in a bad sex poses post or something (but I think that would also kind of like that if nobody knew it was me).
And I did have one scene with a friend where we tried to have the worst written pull out all the horribad euphemisms and mechanics and try to one up each other TS and we were both laughing so hard we were crying and it was very fun.
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@Tez wow tez, keep it sfw
as previously stated, good day.
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All this is doing is reminding me of some of the my first ever poses now with a limited MUD system to pose.
you thrust at Saywan’s groin
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@Roz What’s YOUR preference on this? Does it make it better for you if they OOC and draw the lines? Or do you miss out on the fun game of Can I Use Both C-Words Or Just One of Them?
(I was going to call you a big old skanky “tinyslut” but Siri auto-corrected it to “tiny slug” and it made me LOL so much that I wanted to leave it in the post but then it made zero sense. So I just put it here instead.)
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@KarmaBum said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Roz What’s YOUR preference on this? Does it make it better for you if they OOC and draw the lines? Or do you miss out on the fun game of Can I Use Both C-Words Or Just One of Them?
Oh, I mean, I find the game of chicken to be funny in that it’s generally two people just trying to be considerate to each other and then finally realizing it’s fine to use explicit language, but I don’t mind either way. I guess when all is said and done I have a minor preference for just letting things progress IC without going OOC? But this is the very important point: I don’t have triggers here. I might have squicks or whatnot, but they are not things most people are gonna just trip over. So it makes sense that I’m not worried about others checking in with me in that way, BUT I absolutely don’t mind when they do! Because to me it’s just an indicator or someone wanting to be considerate about boundaries, which is a good way to be.
(I was going to call you a big old skanky “tinyslut” but Siri auto-corrected it to “tiny slug” and it made me LOL so much that I wanted to leave it in the post but then it made zero sense. So I just put it here instead.)
I will claim both monikers PROUDLY
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As someone who prefers to have the option of open and honest OOC communication if needed during intimate scenes instead of before or after, I gotta say I that while I frankly can’t really grok the opposite position, I appreciate everyone who has taken the time here to say that it breaks immersion in an unacceptably uncomfortable way and I will definitely take that into consideration if and when I dip my toes back into the hobby.
I am sure most people who feel this way do make this clear already with the people they choose to TS with, but that discomfort is something I have to admit I didn’t have an awareness of and I’d definitely want to know upfront.
