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      mietze
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      It is commonly the case for me because I tend to be on the slow side of posing that by the time things get to that threshold for real that I’m getting close to needing to crash/know its getting late for that person. So sometimes the conversation of hey I’ve got to go soon, but i am enjoying the rp–happy to write in an interruption or we can fade or pause what would work best for you has to happen.

      Oddly in the last few years all of that sort of play (with varying degrees of graphic detail) that i have done has been with folks that are new enough to me that I’ve not known their preferences or that I’ve never had things go that way even after knowing them awhile. However I think I’ve gravitated in general towards close RP partners who i feel okay about reaching out to. I always feel weird (and not about romance per se) but I think if anyone is going to have to deal with me as a close RP associate then they’re going to figure out how awkward and weird I can be at some point.

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      • RozR
        Roz
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        I’m ngl, I find the game of Cock Chicken that goes on in TS with a new person to be kind of endearingly delightful? That is: people just figuring out together where their scene partner’s comfort is, AKA “do I need to use euphemisms or can I just call a cock a cock.”

        I actually have TSed with folks I don’t know plenty. In a lot of those instances, the other person has gone OOC when the direction of the scene became clear (but before real hot and heavy stuff had started) to check in about any issues with particular language or terms. I’m not bothered by that at all, although I don’t usually initiate it myself.

        I AM bothered if it’s asked more like… “Hey, stranger, what are you into so I can tailor things to what you’re into.” That’s when it gets a bit weird.

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        • crawfishC
          crawfish @Roz
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          @Roz There is always one c-word I get clearance for because not everyone likes it.

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          • TezT
            Tez Administrators @crawfish
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            • farfallaF
              farfalla @crawfish
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              @crawfish this is really the question I always want to know hahaha

              as previously stated, good day.

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                mietze
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                I actually never even thought about asking about word choices though. It did not even occur to me that it might be triggering, it was just more of an internal fretting that I might stumble across in a bad sex poses post or something (but I think that would also kind of like that if nobody knew it was me).

                And I did have one scene with a friend where we tried to have the worst written pull out all the horribad euphemisms and mechanics and try to one up each other TS and we were both laughing so hard we were crying and it was very fun.

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                • farfallaF
                  farfalla @Tez
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                  @Tez wow tez, keep it sfw

                  as previously stated, good day.

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                  • TezT
                    Tez Administrators @farfalla
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                    @farfalla said in MU Peeves Thread:

                    @Tez wow tez, keep it sfw

                    I’m a bad, bad tez.

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                      • Duke WhiskyD
                        Duke Whisky
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                        All this is doing is reminding me of some of the my first ever poses now with a limited MUD system to pose.

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                        • KarmaBumK
                          KarmaBum @Roz
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                          @Roz What’s YOUR preference on this? Does it make it better for you if they OOC and draw the lines? Or do you miss out on the fun game of Can I Use Both C-Words Or Just One of Them?

                          (I was going to call you a big old skanky “tinyslut” but Siri auto-corrected it to “tiny slug” and it made me LOL so much that I wanted to leave it in the post but then it made zero sense. So I just put it here instead.)

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                            Testament @Tez
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                            @Tez

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                            • RozR
                              Roz @KarmaBum
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                              @KarmaBum said in MU Peeves Thread:

                              @Roz What’s YOUR preference on this? Does it make it better for you if they OOC and draw the lines? Or do you miss out on the fun game of Can I Use Both C-Words Or Just One of Them?

                              Oh, I mean, I find the game of chicken to be funny in that it’s generally two people just trying to be considerate to each other and then finally realizing it’s fine to use explicit language, but I don’t mind either way. I guess when all is said and done I have a minor preference for just letting things progress IC without going OOC? But this is the very important point: I don’t have triggers here. I might have squicks or whatnot, but they are not things most people are gonna just trip over. So it makes sense that I’m not worried about others checking in with me in that way, BUT I absolutely don’t mind when they do! Because to me it’s just an indicator or someone wanting to be considerate about boundaries, which is a good way to be.

                              (I was going to call you a big old skanky “tinyslut” but Siri auto-corrected it to “tiny slug” and it made me LOL so much that I wanted to leave it in the post but then it made zero sense. So I just put it here instead.)

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                              • WizzW
                                Wizz
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                                As someone who prefers to have the option of open and honest OOC communication if needed during intimate scenes instead of before or after, I gotta say I that while I frankly can’t really grok the opposite position, I appreciate everyone who has taken the time here to say that it breaks immersion in an unacceptably uncomfortable way and I will definitely take that into consideration if and when I dip my toes back into the hobby.

                                I am sure most people who feel this way do make this clear already with the people they choose to TS with, but that discomfort is something I have to admit I didn’t have an awareness of and I’d definitely want to know upfront.

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                                • tsarT
                                  tsar
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                                  Confession: I will never stop sending @KarmaBum pictures of carnival fun houses mid-scene.

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                                  • saoS
                                    sao
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                                    I have definitely played TS word chicken with RPers I knew pretty well. Just because I’ve known someone for years doesn’t mean I know their TS prefs! It doesn’t always come up!

                                    let it be a challenge to you

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                                    • KarmaBumK
                                      KarmaBum @tsar
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                                      @tsar next time i would prefer if you would ask me if it is ok to use the word carnival tyvm

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                                      • OmenO
                                        Omen @Wizz
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                                        @Wizz said in MU Peeves Thread:

                                        As someone who prefers to have the option of open and honest OOC communication if needed during intimate scenes instead of before or after, I gotta say I that while I frankly can’t really grok the opposite position, I appreciate everyone who has taken the time here to say that it breaks immersion in an unacceptably uncomfortable way and I will definitely take that into consideration if and when I dip my toes back into the hobby.

                                        I am sure most people who feel this way do make this clear already with the people they choose to TS with, but that discomfort is something I have to admit I didn’t have an awareness of and I’d definitely want to know upfront.

                                        I feel this. I know that I have initiated some of these OOC conversations, and realize reading these examples of boundaries that I may have inadvertently been one of the people who bordered on making a mistake. It’s hard not to feel a bit self-conscious thinking back on it now. I appreciate this conversation a lot so that I can be more aware of it in the future!

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                                        Still I planted my seeds

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                                          Nynrose @L. B. Heuschkel
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                                          @L-B-Heuschkel Unfortunately my memory of LegendMUD is very hazy around all of that - and I played around those times as Lark/Lirra! But wow.

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                                          • farfallaF
                                            farfalla @Omen
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                                            @Omen I have never had a problem with people checking in OOC! I don’t, and I don’t need it because I don’t have anything I want to avoid, but I appreciate it as a ‘this person is being kind and considerate’ gesture. If this is what makes you comfortable you should keep doing it! Then, if the other person doesn’t like it, you can stop and acknowledge that your play styles don’t match up for that type of scene, nbd.

                                            as previously stated, good day.

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