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An Arx Peeve Thread
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I do still want to RP, but I don’t feel like I want to rp with any particular character development in mind. Like, I want to make characters, use them for a little, and then watch them burn up when they are no longer useful.
But that goes against all I know about PCs.
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@junipersky Sounds like you want to create lore or theme as opposed to RPing characters?
That’s not a bad thing, mind. I love to create lore.
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@Testament
Basically. But I don’t feel like I am integrated enough anywhere to do things like this. -
A self peeve here and not a fault of the game: Often I will see some dude alone in a public room with his “looking for RP” flag on. I really enjoy meeting new people but I often won’t go over to him, because I’m afraid that flag means “I’d like to meet a cute girl or maybe a bro” and not “I’d like to RP with this random gay guy.”
I have had some poor experiences trying to RP with straight dudes when no one else is around, I don’t know if they think I’m going to come on to them or what (I am certainly not!). And I’ve also had some good experiences! And not every dude with a LRP flag on is even straight probably! But it’s the bad times that stick out to me and sometimes I get stuck and afraid to meet new people because of it.
I wish I could get unstuck and trust “dude looking for RP is probably just looking for RP” a little more.
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@imstillhere Sort of related, maybe? I usually play guys. And I get some of my strangest receptions from other guy characters. I sense they’re either put off by me playing polite or friendly dudes, or there’s this strange undercurrent of competition directed my way. It’s not all the time, by any means, but I’ve for sure noticed. It makes it difficult to find friendships or connections sometimes.
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@tsar I think you just described contemporary masculinity.
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I don’t know that it is exclusively a guys with guys thing. women do it too. Though, I’ve found some females tend towards doing actions to ‘mark their territory’ more than some men do.
If your guys (Icly and OOCly. I don’t really care the genders OOC. I just refer to person as their IC gender OOC unless told otherwise) want guys to ‘feel safe’ around. Aleksei, Ingvar, Valdemar, Vitalis, and Preston are the ones I can think of off the cuff. I’m sure there are more but I’m bad with names and not the most invovled.
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@helvetica sad laugh
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friendship bad
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@imstillhere as someone who plays a dude on Arx (Edris) if I’m sitting with my flag on in public it means I wanna RP. I have amazing fun RPing with PCs that have absolutely no romantic or sexual connotations at all (and in fact to be honest if I don’t know you chances are I’d prefer that anyway for the first scene, regardless of gender).
But I get it. On PC elsewhere sometimes I have worried that the reason why people don’t respond much to requests for RP is because they’re worried that my female PC is only looking for a fuckbuddy and they’re not interested so why bother. On other places I’ve definitely worried about that a lot (or worried about someone getting crazy because they assume that’s what I’m doing with their RP partner). It’s hard to overcome.
I don’t much sit in public these days on Arx because I have only had short bursts of viable playtime and sitting around for a long time with only crickets makes me feel sad so I don’t do it when I know I have limited energy. But at least with Edris I’ve found male PCs regardless of orientation really fun and game to RP regardless if they want to be flirty or not (with the exception of one, but after observing his behavior in other scenes I’m pretty sure it’s because he always focuses on one pc and pretty much ignores everyone else so it’s totally not personal). I have run into issues where people seem annoyed if he’s not responding to overtures in the way that they want because he’s not interested, but even those have been a LOT milder and better than I’ve experienced turning people down elsewhere. I’m sure a lot of it is luck, but also I know that there’s a lot less tolerance for that kind of weirdness.
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@hellfrog said in An Arx Peeve Thread:
friendship bad
Humans are pretty terrible. Someone should something about them.
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@junipersky said in An Arx Peeve Thread:
Replace with cats.
https://media.discordapp.net/attachments/1046495457200848979/1058171445399785522/20221229_163449.jpg
I’m trying!!!
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@hellfrog said in An Arx Peeve Thread:
friendship bad
I still can’t believe you never convinced Tehom to implement +meteor for you and @Herja to use. That said, my rates are reasonable.
@junipersky My retirement plan for Bhandn is to become an immortal lap kitty. Does that count for anything?
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@dvoraen lol this is not the energy Bhandn puts off tho
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I honestly have so much affection for the people on Arx. But when I logged on with the oomph to RP my brain went, “It has been too long, it is too weird, and you don’t know what is going on, so don’t even try.”
The mind gremlins won so I didn’t rp but I really do like all you people.
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@junipersky said in An Arx Peeve Thread:
I honestly have so much affection for the people on Arx. But when I logged on with the oomph to RP my brain went, “It has been too long, it is too weird, and you don’t know what is going on, so don’t even try.”
The mind gremlins won so I didn’t rp but I really do like all you people.
It me, but also @orgs and @clues and and and…
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@junipersky I literally had a dream the other night wherein I was on the phone with someone that my brain had decided was @IoleRae, upset at me for not RPing enough.
Brains are fkn weird.