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Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent
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@Snackness i hope its not the sore throat one. i have never woken up all through the night even in nyquil induced sleep due to painful swallows before. that seems to finally be edging off now but I’ve lost my voice completely. going to just mask 100 percent of the time at work now until after spring break i think.
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@mietze Luckily just cough, fever and mild wobbles.
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I really underestimated how awful dental surgery recovery could be. Ugh. I miss feeling normal.
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Today, I started my day by filing a complaint against my student loan provider with the Department of Education.
Every month, they receive an extra payment above what my required minimum is. They have specific instructions on file from me to apply this to loan that has the highest interest rate, in order to prevent interest from accruing. Despite the fact that their own computer system reflects that these instructions are on file, they have been applying these payments as pro-rated across all of my loans, sometimes in the amount of only pennies. This makes my extra payment significantly less effective.
My provider’s office opens at 8:00 AM. I called them at ~8:10. I have been on hold for 54 minutes without reaching a human being. It took me less time to document and file a complaint with the federal government than it did to to even reach a person at Nelnet.
I took these loans out starting in 2002. I started with a $44,000 balance. My balance is now… $42,700. My extra payment of $200/month ends up applying… $32 to the principal balance. At this rate, I’m going to pay off these loans in 111 years and 3 months.
UPDATE: I ended up sitting on hold for an 1h 45m before getting to a human being, who then proceeded to spend the next twenty minutes of the call talking over me, talking down to me, and insulting me because it wasn’t possible that they made the mistake I said they made. No, no. I was “clearly confused” and he was going to explain to me step by step how student loans work because he’s “more technical” than I am.
(My dude. I have an MBA and I work in finance, where my job is literally writing guides for phone reps walking clients through major financial transactions. Get fucked.)
After twenty minutes of arguing with this man, I finally give in and let him spend the next 10-15 minutes explaining my student loans and how payments work, step by step, like I don’t have the brain cells to read a basic table. Until we get to the screen with the breakdown of each of my payments and how it’s been applied. And then to the screen with special instructions for excess payments. Which clearly shows how I’ve set them up to be paid, and which doesn’t match how they have been paid. At all.
So then he got the pleasure of having me lay out point by point, line by line, what was wrong and what needed to be fixed. Bro all of a sudden went from talking to me like an idiot to backpedaling on what his original excuse was for how my required payments are larger than I think they are (which would’ve made their mistake worse??), reassuring me he was filling out a ticket with their accounting department, how it would be handled, that they would fix this, etc. etc. Y’know, like he didn’t just tell me this was all just too hard for me to understand by my wee widdle self!
This problem could’ve been fixed in 10 minutes, including the time to write up a ticket to their accounting team. Instead it took 45, most of which was him just insulting me. And that’s not counting the nearly two hours that I spent on hold. I cannot imagine what this is like for people who don’t have the same background or understanding that I’m lucky enough to have when dealing with this BS, nevermind for people who may have financial difficulties, incompatible hours, or accessibility needs.
Education in this country is so completely fucked, from daycare all the way on up. This entire system is broken, it’s designed that way on purpose to make people give up, give in, and give over every dollar they have, and my level of rage right now could probably power the entire Eastern seaboard for the next three days.
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Having worked in higher ed admin I am sure you would be thrilled to know about the vendor grift that is part and parcel of the whole thieving enterprise.
I woke up feeling so good, I think I’d better call in sick/ I need a personal trainer to help me hold my drink
I plan to be spontaneous next time we meet/I’m putting off procrastinating until next week
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@SpaceKhomeini said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
Having worked in higher ed admin I am sure you would be thrilled to know about the vendor grift that is part and parcel of the whole thieving enterprise.
I’ve worked for two different universities. I saw enough while I was there that I wouldn’t be surprised at all at what their senior administrations pull.
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Oh yeah, n/m you definitely know then.
I think what I didn’t realize was the thieving nature of nearly everyone who operates in that space, right down to the most inconsequential vendor. All that tuition and fee bloat over the years went into those pockets too.
I woke up feeling so good, I think I’d better call in sick/ I need a personal trainer to help me hold my drink
I plan to be spontaneous next time we meet/I’m putting off procrastinating until next week
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@SpaceKhomeini said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
Oh yeah, n/m you definitely know then.
I think what I didn’t realize was the thieving nature of nearly everyone who operates in that space, right down to the most inconsequential vendor. All that tuition and fee bloat over the years went into those pockets too.
My mom worked at one ivy league for, like, thirty something years. Once a friend of hers found out that I wanted to major in English, they would save up free copies of books that publishers sent them every year in a desperate bid to get the department to choose their editions for that coming school year. She would send my mom bags and bags of books to bring home to me just to get them out of the office – so I got to see exactly what was marked inside them for what the vendor would charge the school, versus the MSRP printed on the back of the book if it was carried in a regular store, versus what they charged the students at the campus bookshop. It was insane, especially considering:
a) the markups I was seeing didn’t include any third party vendors for things like hardcover textbooks, mostly just paperbacks of things you can buy at Barnes & Noble
b) the majority of these books were in the public domain
c) the markup for used copies was even worse
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TW: Toxic Family/Childhood
While it’s gotten easier as an adult, the holidays are never 100% fun and happy when it comes to travel and time together.
I love my family, but I feel like the time I spend with them is always a balance of positive exchanges weighted by the memories of past difficulties. Am I stepping on eggshells out of habit and imagining the landmines are still there? Or no matter how much better things may have gotten is there some level to which people don’t really change? I’m grateful for the positive memories I never thought I’d have since giving second chances and establishing boundaries. I also can’t discredit the growth I’ve witnessed and apologies I’ve received for these past mistreatments.
Getting older meant I was able to move out on my own, build my own life and finally get therapy for myself. I just thought at some point it would also mean I got over the traumas of my past. The older I get though the more I learn you never ‘get over’ your pain you simply learn a healthier way of living with it. Like a muscle in training, your heart just gets stronger as it becomes used to weight and continued motions of this exercise.
It also helps that I’m surrounded by more people who love me than who hurt me now. I have realized the importance of both my existence and my opinions. No matter what happens in the upcoming weeks, I get to return to a place and routine with people who make me feel valued.
To those who also have a holiday season that is stressful, whether for the above or any other reason: You’ve got this. You matter and we will get through this. This has been late night (early morning??) thoughts with SockMonkey. Thank you for tuning in.
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Christmas is on a Monday this year, which means that it and the New Year’s holiday don’t cross over the middle of two different work-weeks. They’re one work-week and an extra Monday, which means we’re anticipating that end of year PTO will probably kick off on December 15 and go up from there.
Because of this, I’ve advised every team I create communications and messaging for that it’s not a good idea to send anything important after December 19 because no one will be here to read it. Sure, you’ll officially check the box that says the communication happened, but very few people will read it and the ones who do won’t remember it by January and everyone will be confused. I’ve been telling them that for a month and they all said that makes sense.
In the last three business days, I have had nine – NINE – new requests for pieces come in that they all want published by the recommended deadline. Two teams submitted three requests each. At 10 AM today, I had someone ask me for change management messaging they want to send to 3,000 people tomorrow. One group wants a communications plan that will carry them to 2025. Nevermind the fact that our editorial calendar is so overloaded from now until December 13 that we’ve already started pushing things to the following week to relieve some of the pressure.
Then today the group that is my problem child and is always my problem child contacts me to tell me they’re “floating a few ideas for stories” and that they “just want to check what my capacity is” for the next week.
None. My capacity is none. My capacity is I have been asking you for this since the beginning of November with some overflow into I have made the intern start vetting requests for me. If y’all want to get me something for the holidays, the thing I want most is for you to learn what a deadline is, thanks.
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pneumonia sucks. It’s been a hard week. Missing out on a lot of stuff but you know you don’t feel good when there’s no pang of fomo. Hoping to finally be on the mend soon.
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I always wondered if I could do the early elementary years, because they just weren’t something I had a chance to do! The lowest I went was a 2-3 class with super gifted 2nd graders.
I now know that the answer is no and not. The constant touching without my permission is driving me CRAZY. Sometimes they don’t even try to say my name first >.> Just come up and start yanking on a part of my body.
When things are unstructured (recess, lunch, etc) I don’t mind them grabbing me. I can’t say I would hear them say my name and/or any other attention getter.
But god help me… When they reach out and touch me in a dead silent room to get my attention instead of raising their hands or saying my name… It just gets me.
My touch meter is FULL by the time I get home atm.
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WHO APPLIES FOR A KITTEN WHEN THEIR CAT IS MISSING?!
WHO DOESN’T FREAK OUT ABOUT THEIR MISSING CAT WHEN IT IS FREEZING AND SNOWING?
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@junipersky said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
WHO APPLIES FOR A KITTEN WHEN THEIR CAT IS MISSING?!
WHO DOESN’T FREAK OUT ABOUT THEIR MISSING CAT WHEN IT IS FREEZING AND SNOWING?
probably someone who feels the need to take care of something when they are stressed and in mourning? just because they applied for a kitten doesn’t mean they AREN’T freaking out about their missing cat.
In Occam I trust.
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Well, I know for sure they aren’t. Part of our adoption process is a home interview and they said “Oh, I’m not too worried. They have always come back before!”
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@junipersky i’m sure you’ve tried something similar to this so I’m not sure if it would work but I’ve now trained (for the most part) the preschoolers to 3rd graders at my school to hand me their name strips (everyone has a laminated first and last name strip of paper they can put on their table/on floor work they’re leaving in place, ect) when they need me. It helps me a lot too, as I have people in order and I don’t forget (which in the children’s defense I did do a lot before instituting this). One of the lower elementary teachers does this in her class and I was skeptical but I’m a believer now. Once the kids realized that I would not get sidetracked (except for blood, poop, or vomit) and they could trust me to come to them, it worked well and I didn’t have to constantly say “give me two steps back/mind my bubble/I don’t want anyone’s hand in my pocket but mine” or accidentally bootybump some poor child to the ground or step on them if i took a step back or turned around.
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My brain: Can we lie down for a bit?
Me: Sure (lies down in bed)
My brain: That’s not what I said (proceeds to produce whatever chemicals/nerve signals that make you feel like you shouldn’t be lying down)???
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So I bit the bullet and did it. This is pretty much a last ditch effort to keep a roof over our heads but I know everyone is struggling right now. Thank you for reading.
