RL Peeves

Pavel · 26 Jun 2022, 03:50

@RightMeow What we mean is that BrandMuDay is not the place. Find somewhere else, please. There’s a whole wide internet out of there.

Tez · 26 Jun 2022, 03:55

While users can create new threads, they cannot create new categories. I believe that’s what you mean when you say new boards, yeah? We made a conscious choice not to include a politics category when we created this forum and right now that is not changing.

Politics isn’t a team sport. It’s life or death for many of us.

It’s not that we don’t think it’s important, so we won’t make space for it; in many ways, it is TOO IMPORTANT. This is especially true given the hands-off moderation stance I’d rather see on this board. We just don’t have the time, bandwidth, expertise, capacity, etc. to be able to moderate those discussions.

I’m sorry.

RightMeow · 26 Jun 2022, 21:46

@Tez @Pavel

Oh no worries. I wasn’t aware. Thank you for clarification. There was a lot going down when I joined the forum and I must have missed that is all.

Thank you!

eye8urcake · 6 Jul 2022, 08:01

This is such a stupid peeve, but…

There are, upon conservative estimation, no less than eight MILLION baby spiders in my kitchen. AND THEY’RE USING ONE OF MY CATS AS A FUCKING BUS.

Tez · 6 Jul 2022, 13:38

@eye8urcake THAT’S NOT A STUPID PEEVE YOU SHOULD MOVE

eye8urcake · 6 Jul 2022, 16:19

@Tez said in RL Peeves:

@eye8urcake THAT’S NOT A STUPID PEEVE YOU SHOULD MOVE

The Kitchen Kingdom has been fully annexed by the Spider Empire and Shelob Jrs #1-#8,000,000.

Testament · 12 Jul 2022, 02:29

Planning a wedding. They suck. Not the wedding itself, but…everything around and involved with it.

I used to thinking mushing or running a mush was stressful. Then I learned the kind of hell I deal with when looking at various quotes for a suit or flowers or why my mother changes her mind about what dress she wants to wear three times a week. I barely have bandwidth for anything else these days.

Weddings are dumb. Except not. No, I’ll rephrase; the price of weddings are dumb.

Meg · 12 Jul 2022, 02:32

@Testament said in RL Peeves:

Planning a wedding. They suck. Not the wedding itself, but…everything around and involved with it.

I used to thinking mushing or running a mush was stressful. Then I learned the kind of hell I deal with when looking at various quotes for a suit or flowers or why my mother changes her mind about what dress she wants to wear three times a week. I barely have bandwidth for anything else these days.

Weddings are dumb. Except not. No, I’ll rephrase; the price of weddings are dumb.

can i come. i am a wonderful wedding guest. just ask @Tat .

Snackness · 12 Jul 2022, 02:34

@Testament I had a fantastic wedding. Budget was fine, the only incidents were funny in hindsight, great party, everyone seemed to have a good time, I still adore the guy…

And I STILL tell everyone to elope.

Testament · 12 Jul 2022, 02:34

@Meg It’s going to be gothy/witchy(her theme) and DnD(my theme) themed. You good with that?

There’s going to be a giant d20 involved during the reception.

Meg · 12 Jul 2022, 02:35

@Testament said in RL Peeves:

@Meg It’s going to be gothy/witchy(her theme) and DnD(my theme) themed. You good with that?

There’s going to be a giant d20 involved during the reception.

that sounds like fun! DnD and witchy pair really well together.

i’ll bring @hellfrog as my +1.

Roz · 12 Jul 2022, 02:35

@Snackness said in RL Peeves:

@Testament I had a fantastic wedding. Budget was fine, the only incidents were funny in hindsight, great party, everyone seemed to have a good time, I still adore the guy…

it’s sweet that you still talk about @tsar like that years later

Solstice · 7 Dec 2022, 02:38

@Testament

Everything about it is soooo fucking draining. I’m going to project: Getting the things you want. Getting the things your partner wants. Accommodating for what other people want. Hearing the fucking phrase ‘A wedding isn’t for you, it’s for your guests!’

Being guilt tripped into compromises by parents and in-laws, and oh hey could you invite great uncle Barry who you’ve never met in your life?

Keep it as You and Your Partner as you can.

Make your memory the priority. No one gives a fuck if Great Uncle Barry shows up, at the end of the day.

Testament · 7 Dec 2022, 02:43

@Solstice OH we’ve already had a conversation about family I’m not inviting (she had a very small family that is just her mom and half brother). I don’t want my entire family there for reasons that are too long winded and nobody needs to know my internal family drama.

With prices the way they are, it’s just been…difficult to afford everything.

I’m also expecting…opinions that I have a best woman as opposed to a best man with flamboyant hot pink hair and doesn’t hide her thoughts on anything. I just know my brother and I are going to have a conversation.

When I think on it, we really should’ve eloped. But I know why we didn’t. It’s important to my fiancé, as she never really had a family. So that’s really why I’m going through all of this. It’s important to her. That makes it worth it.

TNP · 12 Jul 2022, 02:42

@Testament Elope and half the money you save on the wedding can be used for a fantastic honeymoon.

IoleRae · 12 Jul 2022, 02:45

@Testament said in RL Peeves:

When I think on it, we really should’ve eloped. But I know why we didn’t. It’s important to my fiancé, as she never really had a family. So that’s really why I’m going through all of this. It’s important to her. That makes it worth it.

This makes me happy to read.

Testament · 12 Jul 2022, 03:03

@IoleRae She really just wants this one day. For the father that bailed when she was 2. For the nights she and her mom lived in a woman’s shelter. For the NA meetings she had to sit at because she was too young to be at home. For the older half brother that she still looks up to as her hero. She just wants this one time. And she knows how silly it all is.

I may never understand that, how hard her upbringing was, but I don’t need to understand it to know how important it is to her. So, she’ll have her day.

And hey, apparently I still look good in a suit, so there’s that.

IoleRae · 12 Jul 2022, 03:06

@Testament

You guys are gonna be so happy. So happy for you. Good luck coping with the stress in the meantime though, it’s definitely rough.

Testament · 12 Jul 2022, 03:09

@IoleRae The biggest controversy thus far is we having pie instead of cake, because I hate cake and love pie.

It’s created fun, heated debate. Stressful? Yeah it all is, but it will create good memories. The stress is worth it. Or well, I say that now.

The countdown to October 8th continues.

eye8urcake · 7 Dec 2022, 03:15

@Testament I don’t think we’ve ever directly interacted (I could be wrong, my memory is shit in general and this past year isn’t one I’m fighting to keep hold of, in all honesty) but I’ve paid attention when you post because you seem like a pretty cool person who has seen some shit, as they say, and I always find myself rooting for you when you open up.

Good luck with all the planning, I’m really hoping your spouse-to-be gets that one special perfect (for her, whatever form that takes) day, and that you get to eat all the glorious pie you want without shame or recrimination.