RL Peeves

[RightMeow]

Also, I decided to start a health program type of thing today. It’s the easy version of calorie range, exercise, read 10 minutes, easy type…I already regret my life choices.

This is fine. Everything is fine. It will be fine.

[Raeras]

Extremely small time peeve but:

Having to go in to the office on a work from home day with no heads up because one of your co-workers has a ‘last minute appointment’. x.x

At least I get an extra WFH day next week because of it.

[somasatori]

RW people in my family (and elsewhere, but family in particular today) trying to argue the old “climate change is a myth propagated by the liberal media” chestnut when most of the world is on fire. This is probably more than a “peeve” tbh, but holy shit.

[Wizz]

@somasatori

ugh, I feel this one especially lately. my fam’s got bonus “wtf” points for believing global warming is not only inevitable but supposed to happen as part of the apocalypse, so…yayyyyy

[RightMeow]

@L-B-Heuschkel

Late to the party, but if you drop your book in my DM - I’ll buy a copy. I might as well use my shopping problem to someone’s advantage.

[Cobalt]

Why does this boy have to be so nosey? Why he gotta ask me what I’m doing any time I’m doing something.

[Wizz]

@Cobalt

My kiddo’s new favorite thing is to pretend to be an SCP Foundation creature and maul me every fifteen minutes, wanna trade?

[mietze]

@Cobalt did you open up a wrapper or a bag of chips or something? my big monsters are in their 20s now and i swear to god they still will hear me open up a popcorn bag through like 2 doors (downstairs door plus room door). hey mom, whatcha doing?

[Cobalt]

@mietze I was sitting looking at my insurance card.

“Whatcha doing?”

My stuff, mind yo business, boy.

[somasatori]

@Wizz My daughter is about 2 and tells me “piggy back” so I’ll kneel on the ground. Once I’m down there, she hits me over the back with her little plastic baby chairs. I’m anticipating she’ll have a wonderful career as a professional wrestler.

[Cobalt]

How do I tell my in laws I don’t like their spaghetti because they boil the noodles until they’re almost paste?

[GF]

@Cobalt Maybe offer to cook spaghetti for them, and say, “I’m experimenting with a more al dente noodle, tell me if you think it works?”

[mietze]

After a series of unexpected health bills and all that stuff our second car died when we really need to have more than 1 car to juggle 5 working adult schedules. I feel ill. Its not worth to fix the 2nd car bc its a 2000 civic and so the cost to tow it and have it evaluated will cost more than the car is worth. This has been such a shitty week for so many different reasons I just kind of wish the ground would swallow me up right now.

[Cobalt]

@mietze god, I’m sorry.

We recently bought a car and basically got scammed with it. The cabin lights don’t work, the throttle position sensor keeps going out, so I will suddenly not be able to accelerate while on the highway, and the battery keeps dying, which killed the a/c somehow.

We’re at this point where we don’t even know what to do with it. Do we sell at a massive loss because of all the problems? Or do we fight the warranty company to get them to fix it? “Oh it didn’t do it wit us, so we don’t know what’s wrong”.

-.-

(And it’s not like we can afford the loss on the car, it was supposed to be an investment so I could work more… but it’s just been a pain.)

[Aria]

@Aria said in RL Peeves:

Dear Dr. X -

I am asking you to cancel my appointment for Tuesday, March 7.

Based on the fact that a caveat that you do not test for <medical condition> was not only included in, but emphasized in bold in the email that I just received from you, I would assume that this is a recurring issue. I would strongly suggest that your office communicate this more clearly to your network of nearby referring offices, as well as to your own employees.

Please note that prior to making this appointment, I was advised that your office does test for <medical condition> by my referring doctor and specifically indicated to your receptionist that I was seeking testing for <medical condition> when I called in December to schedule this appointment and was told that I needed to fill out a battery of forms (which I should note I then didn’t receive for a week) before they would place me on your schedule. I specified it again in January when I called to confirm that I had completed and submitted them, but hadn’t heard back from your office, and was advised that your next available appointment wasn’t for several months.

If your staff had been able to communicate this the first time I spoke to them, it would have saved me multiple phone calls, clearing my schedule for a full day for a battery of testing, rearranging several financial payments to accommodate the nearly $2,000 that I would owe after my insurance coverage, and months of waiting only to find out now, three days before my appointment, that your office would not be able to help me with diagnosis or treatment at all.

It certainly would have saved your team this unkind, though not undeserved message.

Sincerely,
Aria

I went through another round of this same situation this week, this time yelling at my insurance company. In the four months since this posting, I’ve discovered:

1. My insurance company does not appear to have any doctors who are in network that provide this diagnostic screening for adults, only for children.
2. Every doctor that conducts this diagnostic screening for adults does not work with insurance companies because they are a massive pain in the ass.
3. My insurance company does cover out of network doctors at 60%, rather than 80%, but requires precertification for both.

This essentially means that the best case scenario is that I’m on the hook for as much as an extra $1,000 for “choosing” to go out of network, when I have no in network options, if I can somehow convince doctors who don’t deal with insurance to help me deal with insurance. Hahaha. Yeah, right. The more likely scenario will be that my choices are between paying as much as $5,000 out of pocket because I wasn’t able to jump through impossible bureaucratic hoops or just not get a diagnosis and treatment at all.

'MURICA! BEST COUNTY IN THE WORLD!!! WE DON’T WANT NONE OF THAT SOCIALIST-COMMUNIST-NAZI MEDICINE HERE!!

Please excuse me while I scream into the void.

[TNP]

@Aria It is possible for you to get what is called an ‘in network exception’ where you can use an out of network doctor and they’ll be treated as in network. Not every insurance company is okay with that and some are easier to deal with than others but it’s definitely an option you should explore.

Call your insurance company and ask what is the way to get an in network exception because no in network doctor offers what your PCP says you need. If the first phone rep can’t/won’t help you, ask for a supervisor.

[somasatori]

^ this, but also @Aria your PCP can advocate for you here. I would suggest this only if you have a good relationship with your regular doctor. You can ask them to write a letter of medical necessity (specifically use those words). This can underscore the importance of the condition and its assessment and eventual treatment if it is found to be medically significant.

It will still come down to the underwriter and staff reviewer, so you need to be your own advocate with your insurer as well. That’s so difficult and I’m sorry you’re going through this. I hope you’re able to find some resolution and you have a good RL support network in your corner.

[Aria]

Thanks for the advice, guys. I literally broke down in tears in a conference room today about this and someone just being nice to me about it instead of an unhelpful, faceless bureaucrat reciting policy is a relief.

@TNP said in RL Peeves:

@Aria It is possible for you to get what is called an ‘in network exception’ where you can use an out of network doctor and they’ll be treated as in network. Not every insurance company is okay with that and some are easier to deal with than others but it’s definitely an option you should explore.

This is my hope because I spent 45 minutes on the phone yesterday with a rep at the insurer who only handles claims from my company. I was like, “Give me a doctor, any doctor, within two hours that does this, is taking patients, and in network.”

They literally could not find a single one after 45 minutes of digging through their own database.

Apparently my company also has advocates in our HR office whose only job is to help us navigate these bullshit Byzantine rules and I’m like, “So maybe if we have three people at our office whose only job is helping employees deal with this insurance company, the insurance company is kind of shit? Just a thought.”

[Jenn]

@Aria I have nothing at all useful to offer in terms of solutions or helping you to navigate this situation. But I absolutely see your struggle and additional stress amidst what is already a terrible situation. I’m so, so sorry that you’re dealing with the bureaucratic nonsense amidst obvious medical need. I hope you’re able to come to affordable and reasonable solutions. We’re here to hold space for you and to offer support in the interim. I’m sorry that your ‘coverage’ makes things all the worse rather than making things better. It sucks so, so much.

[Cobalt]

My rheumatologist suggested for a degenerative condition, that is causing me debilitating pain, physical therapy and a nerve block. Which are not things that can actually stop the degeneration of my body. Thanks, doc.