@Lurrr said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

@Jackaltrade said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

@kopecup I am one of the players mentioned. Kopecup posted about my experience with permission from me. I don’t really engage with the MU-ing community at large but in the interest of keeping this community fun and safe, I feel like I need to. I can confirm it happened. I have receipts if that becomes necessary. I will put my name out if necessary. This behavior is beyond the pale and it needs to be called out and corrected, or at least a fair warning for the community at large.

I would like to see receipts, and I would ask anytime we (as a community) run into this behavior that just becomes the norm. It’ll save anyone the trouble of being doubted or other parties to scheme, etc.

Lurrr
Joined about 3 hours ago

And how are you related to the situation?
Clearly you made the account to comment on this, and not to just muse on ways we (as a community) should handle things.

Listen. They built themselves a community there that really fits the level of self-awareness and spite this whole thing demonstrated.

I, for one, wish them all the best building a more positive and constructive community with the likes of vulgarkitten, ghost, derp and macha.

Bless that mess.

If you run into this player in the wild you might think they can be friendly and inclusive; at worst pushy, aggressive, and a little disingenuous about their character’s position or significance.

She’s actually much worse than that. This is a person who is ready and willing to lie in order to get close to people who want nothing to do with her.

This is a person who is ready and willing to lie about who they are OOC in order to escape consequences of their own actions, and take it to shocking extremes, such as paging people OOC to ask for dirt on the ‘former player’ - herself.

This is a person who is ready and willing to lie about other people OOC in order to avoid those same consequences.

If she is playing your game and you think she’s not ‘that bad’, well. I thought that, too. Like, not great but not bannable. Yet the amount of drama and stress and heartache and vitriol she is responsible for is staggering. Her possible ‘not that bad’ behavior is not worth it.

“I don’t want to cross the line, I just want to get as close as I can get away with, as often as possible.”

@Cobalt it’s only crying over mush drama if it’s from the champagne region of France, otherwise it’s sparkling emotional manipulation.

Braum being an emoji

@Warma-Sheen said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

It only takes one false accusation to be acted on to break down the trust of an entire community in all directions and destroy the environment

So how many instances would you say it takes to ruin community trust when the event is someone being harassed and made to feel unsafe and unwelcome?

Being banned from a game is not being sent to jail.

It would be REALLY COOL if people could just find things to complain about that are not related to consensual sexual rp. Stop slut shaming. It’s 2023, can we please just leave this behind.

@Pyrephox I want to know a LITTLE of the ooc drama. I just don’t want to be involved in it.

Just a little. As a treat.

It’s just braum

@Whisky said in MU Peeves Thread:

@foksthery said in MU Peeves Thread:

An ooooooold peeve that I was reminded of recently. I was once on a shitty zombie game that had rules about “thought-posing”. As in, your pose could not contain anything that other people couldn’t immediately respond to. Flavor meta had to be all things that were immediately observable and that’s it, and people would stop scenes if they saw the Forbidden Meta.

I think this one depends though, like I’ve been in scenes where people have thought-posed disliking my character or “thinking they are really weird”. Which is just being passive aggressive without any IC consequences. Not like I can pose responding to it.

But you CAN, you CAN respond to it. You should, it’s fun! RESPOND TO IT and if they dare to call you out, say “I could read it in your character’s body language/expression” and if they still complain you get to say THEN DON’T THOUGHT POSE, YOU PIECE OF SHIT

@kopecup said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

“creating activity” is not an excuse to harass and abuse other players to the point of distress and quitting.

Absolutely true.

@inuki you sound like the asshole here, even in the receipts you shared. And that’s coming from me, a very talented asshole. Your passive aggression is off the charts. Please convert it to actual aggression, it makes it much easier for people to decide if they want to deal with it or not.

Also who the FK logs in a banned player’s character and POSTS THEIR PRIVATE SCENES. There is. Absolutely. No reason. To do that. Ever.

@Meg said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

@SpilledBeanz sorry, i have to admit i am probably not the target audience to get worked up about this. sorry that happened to you and all, but it just sounds silly to me, and that may be because i am-- 4 years out from any RP?

but when you have a culture of rot, then is more rot really contributing to it when it starts at the top?

It doesn’t really matter how the offense sounds to you as staff; whether you would personally be offended or upset by it, etc. What matters is that behavior is making players uncomfortable enough to complain about it, and the behavior continues despite being told to stop it.

And yet, very little actual MU experience, I guess.

Current:
Arx : Benedetto, Ahven

Past:
Arx: Hellfrog, Copper, Skald, Luca the 1st, a billion other NPCs and alts barely played

Firan: Celani, Anais

Spirit Lake: Asher

These misunderstandings are a big part of why I was NO PLS about sex work as a job on Arx. Even well meaning people don’t always handle it kindly.

Disturbing and worrying the creeps. Goals.

yuck

I hate it.

In the absence of stated intentions or feelings, we are just ascribing them. So, people have to meet some standard of noble intention to be able to post logs? What standard? What if someone said “I am posting this to show that x was not solely to blame”? That wouldn’t be noble enough if we don’t agree? They have to be willing to engage and actively defend themselves? We decide what is humiliating or not for other people? Only ‘victims’ or gamerunners can post logs?

@RedJellyBean I know for myself, async scenes are really hard. If I go 24 hours without thinking about/engaging with a scene, it gets really hard for me to go back to it. Even if it’s a scene with someone I LIKE rp with

I have a scene like this that I abandoned and it got auto stopped and I need to reach out and be like hey i’m sorry do you want to kick this thing up again or try a different scene I AM SORRY and ahhhhhhhhhh don’t be mad