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      Nynrose @Testament
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      @Testament The lungs filling with fluid is what did my Fussy-cat in on April 1, 2022. I did the same procedure you did to give her a fighting chance, but also had to put her down on the same day, to do the humane thing. I feel for you and am so sorry for your loss. She’s in my daily routine to tell my dogs goodbye when I leave for work, telling her, my husband, and my dog who all passed that I love them all and miss them all very much.

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        IoleRae
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        “assume positive intent” is so haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaard sometimes

        the entity previously known as Sunny

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          Pavel @IoleRae
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          @IoleRae said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:

          “assume positive intent” is so haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaard sometimes

          drink to that

          He/Him. Opinions and views are solely my own unless specifically stated otherwise.
          BE AN ADULT

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            mietze
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            Struggling with significant depression rn. I’m doing ok juggling most things I think. But a bit slower on the uptake/not very much energy right now. At some point maybe I will be less burnt out by life, but man it is really hard. I know I have lots of people right here with me tho.

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              hellfrog @mietze
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              @mietze you’re definitely not alone. I’m sorry for your struggle, for what it’s worth. ❤

              fr fr
              (she/her)

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              • juniperskyJ
                junipersky Administrators
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                Earlier this year they told us to start keeping every door shut and locked at all times. It is a pain in the ass but we have been doing it.

                Seeing the Nashville shooter just go right through the locked doors just makes my heart ache and feel like every time I let a kid go to the bathroom it is a tiny bit like I’m sending them out with a 'good luck, don’t die. The fact that it was on the heels of a shooting here in Denver just doubles the feelings.

                I’m not quitting teaching just… down.

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                  Cobalt
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                  CW: bullshit animal laws, and threats of animal cruelty

                  We have been in the new house for about a week. A 90yr old waste of human DNA has already called the cops because our dogs were barking (during the day, we bring them in at night). It has escalated quickly.

                  |He threatened to hurt our dogs tonight because the cops told them there’s no ordinance against dogs barking during the day.

                  So we called the cops back. And the cop told us that he’ll make sure the neighbor doesn’t come onto our property but we have to get rid of two of our dogs because there’s a city ordinance against pit bulls. We have a blue nose pit and a GSD/Pit that are bonded.

                  The ordinance requires that if they are outside they have a 4ft or shorter leashed and a muzzle. And cannot at any time be off leash. And they must be contained in such a way they can never get out on their own.

                  If we are caught violating the ordinance it is a 30 day sentence for the person deemed responsible. Which would be either my spouse or mother in law as they are legally the home owners.|

                  I really want to scream, but I have laryngitis on top of this so I’m not allowed to sing or talk loudly or anything…

                  Cobalt@Under the Stars
                  cob.alt@Discord
                  Cobalt#[email protected]

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                  • juniperskyJ
                    junipersky Administrators @Cobalt
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                    @Cobalt

                    The ACTUAL fuck. 😞 I’m so sorry.

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                    • WizzW
                      Wizz
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                      Someone called in to a bunch of schools in northern Utah today and claimed that an active shooter was firing at students. It was a hoax.

                      I don’t fucking understand who could possibly do something like that. I am so angry about it I am literally shaking. My son was home from school today but even just the possibility of him being so scared and traumatized over some fuckhead’s sick prank is unbelievable.

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                        Faraday @Wizz
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                        @Wizz Pennsylvania too. Rage. 😞

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                          GF
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                          Now I’m sitting here wondering if school shootings are so common that school policies include how many snow days to cut from the calendar to make up for days lost to shootings and prank shooter alerts; and I’m getting very depressed as I think about it.

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                          • juniperskyJ
                            junipersky Administrators @GF
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                            @GF The answer is no, we don’t account for them.

                            Welcome to the club other states. So (sarcastic) glad to be a pioneer in gun violence in schools.

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                              mietze
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                              Tfw pneumonia recovery might be hitting the stomach flu speedbump. fml

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                                sao @mietze
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                                @mietze God I’m sorry. I’m recovering from pneumonia too and I’m mostly just tired as fuck. Deep sympathies.

                                let it be a challenge to you

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                                • juniperskyJ
                                  junipersky Administrators
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                                  My older brother made the decision that he no longer wants any more care. They are starting to wean him off all medications and will discuss hospice options tomorrow.

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                                    Testament
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                                    I need to talk to my doctor about increasing my dosage of antidepressants. This last week I’ve been in what I mentally call the Hole has not been great.

                                    I have not been in the Hole for a long time, and I’ve done my absolute best to prepare myself when I know I’m in it. I hate how it can last a few weeks to potentially a few months. Or even longer. The last time it was truly this bad, it lasted 11 months of isolation in 2017. But I was unmedicated back then, so I don’t think it’s to that length of time.

                                    Still. I don’t like where my mind goes lately. It honestly scares me at some points. Friends feel kind of like strangers sometimes, staring at words on a screen and trying to determine if they actually care or if it’s just words and noise. Going to the gym helps steady and balance myself, it’s one of the few things that does. But I wonder if that’s more because I’ll work out till I want to collapse and just go to sleep.

                                    Even with that I still feel kind of lost, hoping that something pulls me out, or I find something that draws me out.

                                    I don't know what I'm doing. Poke at Seven Nations sevennations.aresmush.com port 2021

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                                    • juniperskyJ
                                      junipersky Administrators
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                                      He is gone and I don’t even know where to start thinking

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                                        GF @junipersky
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                                        @junipersky I am so sorry for your loss.

                                        Did you manage to get him on hospice? If you did, they can help you with where to start thinking. Dealing with the procedures can provide a weirdly effective combination of ritual and distraction; and if their hospice is any good, they should also offer counselors to talk to.

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                                        • juniperskyJ
                                          junipersky Administrators
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                                          My younger sister and I work together and are a LOT alike in many ways - but I’ve discovered we grieve very differently. She went to work the day we found out after our brother, and said it was the right decision. I fed the kittens and that was it. Today we both went in. She felt energized and comforted being there. I lasted until the last hour when I had to ask to leave because I was about to vibrate apart holding it together.

                                          I feel like I need to keep up with her energy but it is so hard to be around people right now.

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                                            TNP @junipersky
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                                            @junipersky said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:

                                            I feel like I need to keep up with her energy

                                            No, you really don’t. Really.

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