MU Peeves Thread
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@L-B-Heuschkel Unfortunately my memory of LegendMUD is very hazy around all of that - and I played around those times as Lark/Lirra! But wow.
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@Omen I have never had a problem with people checking in OOC! I don’t, and I don’t need it because I don’t have anything I want to avoid, but I appreciate it as a ‘this person is being kind and considerate’ gesture. If this is what makes you comfortable you should keep doing it! Then, if the other person doesn’t like it, you can stop and acknowledge that your play styles don’t match up for that type of scene, nbd.
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@Wizz It’s really worth noting: if you and I are about to pretend-plow, you probably already know me well enough to know that I’m not going to RP the deets with you.
Which is I guess my prevailing point. These conversations need to happen beforehand.
And, really, it’s true for any emotionally intense scene. Playing those emotions credibly involves a measure of vulnerability for me. I’m not going to be willing to love/hate/murder/fuck/backstab/bromance your PC if I don’t kinda already trust you OOC enough not to take it somewhere I don’t want to go.
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Ya know I’ve been over here like “No one ever established any of that stuff with me before the clothes came off” but also getting involved in TS was always the beginning of the least fun parts of the hobby for me and now I’m wondering if these things aren’t more related than I’d thought. Appreciate all the perspectives that have come up in the discussion.
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I think what happens with me is that I don’t think about it until suddenly I realize it and then I kind if explode into oh shit I better make sure they’re okay and also they know that I’m totally okay with what they want but how do I say what without like making it super weird and then I kind of just weirdly stumble into checking in probably more worried than I should be which also make me look like a dork.
So like, everyone be forewarned, I am a dork a lot. About lots of things not just those types of things that involve c words.
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@KarmaBum said in MU Peeves Thread:
Which is I guess my prevailing point. These conversations need to happen beforehand.
Nobody is suggesting these conversations shouldn’t happen beforehand if possible, but it needs to be pointed out that people don’t always know all their own triggers, and it is absolutely possible to stumble across one on accident, just like it is in a RL scenario. Expecting someone, even someone you have known for years, to 100% know when and how something is going to affect them beforehand is not fair, as any decent therapist would tell you. Being able to check in, even in the middle of an emotionally intense scene, just seems vital to me.
Feeling like you are not able to speak up if something really hits you that you weren’t expecting and having to wait until things are over is just not a scenario I would ever put myself in or advise as a healthy thing to do for others.
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Clearly there’s a wide range in personal preference, and I can see all sides of them tbh. But unless we’re talking about something non-consensual, I think all the approaches discussed are fine. Your comfort matters as much as your RP partner’s, so if you will be uncomfortable if you don’t stop to discuss, stop to discuss. If you would prefer to play Cock Chicken, the other person can also decide whether to stop or continue. Etc.
I’m perfectly fine meeting someone in a bar and going back to my place - I’m not going to discuss TS preferences with them as soon as I walk in the bar. But someone else might prefer not to have sex scenes with new people.
I think as long as everyone is proceeding with respect and care, any approach is fine.
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@Wizz I feel like someone hitting a previously unknown trigger face-first is a different discussion than the casual ‘how’s my service’ check-in replete with a sudden need to discuss menu options RIGHT HERE AND NOW that I was pointing out that I really don’t want to have sprung on me mid-scene. I don’t speak for anybody else in the ‘leave me alone and react to my RP ICly only wherever possible’ camp.
Nobody’s ever suggested not contacting the other participant(s) if someone unknowingly veers into dangerous territory, and conflating the two is meh.
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@eye8urcake said in MU Peeves Thread:
the casual ‘how’s my service’ check-in replete with a sudden need to discuss menu options RIGHT HERE AND NOW that I was pointing out that I really don’t want to have sprung on me mid-scene.
Which was, itself, not something anyone here was ever putting forward as a good idea, so maybe we’re all talking a little past each other to some degree about a sensitive topic.
It happens.
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I feel like there’s also two versions of “mid-scene” going on here. There were comments I saw earlier talking about OOC conversations happening MID-THRUST, which indicates to me “the real TS proper has definitely already started and the conversation is coming a little late.” Which is different from mid-scene that’s more like “our characters are going home together and they just got there but haven’t actually started any actual sex.” I think the former is gonna be more jarring than the latter.
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Yes I do think it is pretty clear that if the first OOC communication you have is ‘this is so hot,’ that’s wildly uncomfortable and I Do Not Want.
I much prefer if the first OOC communication is ‘lololol they’re so awk’.
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The “this is so hot/are you turned on” conversation always baffled me a bit. Because no, I’m not. I’m writing! I am paying more attention to whether I’ve accounted for all limbs and/or props, and trying to keep typos to a forgivable ratio than I am in being turned on.
Reading sex scenes CAN turn me on, but…honestly, most TS isn’t a great sex scene, because of the tendency to have one action in one PoV and the next in the other. It’s sort of jarring to read. If I want to get turned on, I read a romance, where the scene flows a lot more naturally.
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@Pyrephox props are the WORST
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@Wizz I get you.
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takes one sip from the drink he ordered three hundred poses ago and now it ceases to exist
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@Rathenhope I recently decided that I was peeved at the word ‘sip’ being used all the time, when no one really sips drinks, and so I’ve been trying to RP without using it. It turns out it’s hard! “Eleanor drinks her drink.” Drink as a verb is very weird and kind of implies a general/over time action so it feels wrong. Gulp only works if you’re actually gulping. Mostly I’ve just been doing “Eleanor takes a drink” but it’s not a satisfying answer. Maybe I’ll give in and sip again.
as previously stated, good day.
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You gotta starting quaffing that shit.
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@farfalla I sip all the time!
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