MU Peeves Thread
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To me “do not engage” is about total engagement, not just talking to.
Don’t engage with them, don’t engage about them, don’t engage around them. And it works both ways. If you’ve told me to leave you alone, then you leave me alone. Leave my name out of your mouth and out of your mind - unless you’re dealing with things officially. Don’t gossip about me, but do report my behaviour if you feel the need.
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@Pavel said in MU Peeves Thread:
Leave my name out of your mouth and out of your mind - unless you’re dealing with things officially. Don’t gossip about me, but do report my behaviour if you feel the need.
This is the part that I think a lot instances have created my outlook on this. Leave my name out of your damn mouth.
If someone wants to hate me for whatever arbitrary(legitimate or not) reason that I may never know or understand, that’s perfectly fine. I don’t have to understand.
But do it honestly.
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Something else to throw into the consideration mix, as someone who absolutely has drawn lines and gone to my own corner, is that in some cases this is the only route available (that a traumatized person can see) to actually retain the relationship long term.
Sometimes you need a break from a person so that you can calm down, reorient, and then re-engage from a place of compassion and understanding, rather than reaction. Sometimes the only decent thing that’s possible even knowing this is what’s going on is a strangled, ‘please leave me alone’.
I have had at least two of my ‘do not engage with this person’ requests respected that turned into calming down long term and being able to come back to the table and at least behave in civil fashion.
It’s a tool. It’s a tool that absolutely gets misused and can often be problematic, but unfortunately, the only way to guarantee that the people who actually NEED it actually get it is to ensure that everyone gets it, because making a traumatized person justify themselves is actively damaging.
Thus, this is one of those cases where you just have to assume positive intent, and then come down like the hammer of god on anybody who abuses it (baiting somebody who has a no contact request against you, for example).
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@IoleRae said in MU Peeves Thread:
Thus, this is one of those cases where you just have to assume positive intent, and then come down like the hammer of god on anybody who abuses it (baiting somebody who has a no contact request against you, for example).
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I can’t decide if this is a peeve or not but there’s someone in r/muds who posts about wanting to be a cannibal on a game to feel part of the game and doesn’t care if it’s the game’s lore or not but can someone point him to a game where it’s allowed???
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@tsar y’all need to learn how to let a man eat
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@helvetica hey. women eat too, ok?
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@tsar said in MU Peeves Thread:
can someone point him to a game where it’s allowed???
I’m working on a thing!
But I’m not sure I want this guy to be a part of it.
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@KarmaBum he just needs to do it to belong
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Nothing makes me feel welcome like when the host offers me a meal…
…of their own flesh.
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@crawfish I’m not sure anyone in this hobby needs Jesus more than you.
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@Herja said in MU Peeves Thread:
@crawfish I’m not sure anyone in this hobby needs Jesus more than you.
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@Herja HOW DARE YOU OUT ME
ETA: Because everyone knows I’m pure and innocent and something something yeah I can’t even finish writing
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lulz
