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    IoleRae
    last edited by 15 Jun 2022, 20:00

    Something else to throw into the consideration mix, as someone who absolutely has drawn lines and gone to my own corner, is that in some cases this is the only route available (that a traumatized person can see) to actually retain the relationship long term.

    Sometimes you need a break from a person so that you can calm down, reorient, and then re-engage from a place of compassion and understanding, rather than reaction. Sometimes the only decent thing that’s possible even knowing this is what’s going on is a strangled, ‘please leave me alone’.

    I have had at least two of my ‘do not engage with this person’ requests respected that turned into calming down long term and being able to come back to the table and at least behave in civil fashion.

    It’s a tool. It’s a tool that absolutely gets misused and can often be problematic, but unfortunately, the only way to guarantee that the people who actually NEED it actually get it is to ensure that everyone gets it, because making a traumatized person justify themselves is actively damaging.

    Thus, this is one of those cases where you just have to assume positive intent, and then come down like the hammer of god on anybody who abuses it (baiting somebody who has a no contact request against you, for example).

    the entity previously known as Sunny

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      Solstice @IoleRae
      last edited by 15 Jun 2022, 20:22

      @IoleRae said in MU Peeves Thread:

      Thus, this is one of those cases where you just have to assume positive intent, and then come down like the hammer of god on anybody who abuses it (baiting somebody who has a no contact request against you, for example).

      bartok kick

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        tsar
        last edited by 28 Jun 2022, 15:56

        I can’t decide if this is a peeve or not but there’s someone in r/muds who posts about wanting to be a cannibal on a game to feel part of the game and doesn’t care if it’s the game’s lore or not but can someone point him to a game where it’s allowed???

        Ahhhhhhhhh
        Hhhhhhhh
        Aaahhhh

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          helvetica @tsar
          last edited by 28 Jun 2022, 16:01

          @tsar y’all need to learn how to let a man eat

          Street Cred

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            BloodAngel @tsar
            last edited by 28 Jun 2022, 16:27

            @tsar hannibal

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              crawfish @helvetica
              last edited by 28 Jun 2022, 17:10

              @helvetica hey. women eat too, ok?

              I draw things! http://www.mahaldoodles.com

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                Solstice @crawfish
                last edited by 28 Jun 2022, 17:56

                @crawfish

                santa clarita

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                  Herja
                  last edited by 28 Jun 2022, 19:58

                  Yall need Jesus

                  lol lmao

                  It's me, hi, I'm the problem it's me

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                    Narson
                    last edited by 28 Jun 2022, 20:05

                    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d4O1A-mmBWw

                    When someone shows you who they are, over and over again? Believe them.

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                      Solstice @Herja
                      last edited by Solstice 28 Jun 2022, 20:57

                      @Herja

                      No God

                      “No God.”

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                        KarmaBum @tsar
                        last edited by 28 Jun 2022, 21:25

                        @tsar said in MU Peeves Thread:

                        can someone point him to a game where it’s allowed???

                        I’m working on a thing!

                        But I’m not sure I want this guy to be a part of it.

                        On Dragon Wings · https://pern.gaslightswitch.com · pern.gaslightswitch.com port 4201

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                          tsar @KarmaBum
                          last edited by 28 Jun 2022, 21:29

                          @KarmaBum he just needs to do it to belong

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                            Pyrephox Administrators
                            last edited by 28 Jun 2022, 21:39

                            Nothing makes me feel welcome like when the host offers me a meal…

                            …of their own flesh.

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                              crawfish @Pyrephox
                              last edited by 28 Jun 2022, 23:05

                              @Pyrephox There is
                              physical pain
                              in me
                              restraining myself

                              FROM ALLLLLL the things I wanna reply with

                              @Herja help

                              I draw things! http://www.mahaldoodles.com

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                                Herja @crawfish
                                last edited by 28 Jun 2022, 23:11

                                @crawfish I’m not sure anyone in this hobby needs Jesus more than you.

                                lol lmao

                                It's me, hi, I'm the problem it's me

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                                  dvoraen @Herja
                                  last edited by 28 Jun 2022, 23:12

                                  @Herja said in MU Peeves Thread:

                                  @crawfish I’m not sure anyone in this hobby needs Jesus more than you.

                                  this

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                                    crawfish @Herja
                                    last edited by crawfish 28 Jun 2022, 23:25

                                    @Herja HOW DARE YOU OUT ME

                                    ETA: Because everyone knows I’m pure and innocent and something something yeah I can’t even finish writing

                                    I draw things! http://www.mahaldoodles.com

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                                      IoleRae
                                      last edited by 28 Jun 2022, 23:44

                                      lulz

                                      the entity previously known as Sunny

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                                        dvoraen @crawfish
                                        last edited by 29 Jun 2022, 00:26

                                        @crawfish said in MU Peeves Thread:

                                        @Herja HOW DARE YOU OUT ME

                                        ETA: Because everyone knows I’m pure and innocent and something something yeah I can’t even finish writing

                                        As one Twitch streamer I occasionally watch says in her “who am I” moments (when she gets raided, and such): “Hi! I’m <name>… and I cuss a lot. So if you have small children and want to stay pure in the eyes of the Lord, I wouldn’t. fucking. be here!”

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                                          Jumpscare
                                          last edited by 29 Jun 2022, 01:02

                                          I don’t really have a problem with cannibalism, as long as it’s done in good taste.

                                          Game-runner of Silent Heaven, a small-town horror MU.
                                          https://silentheaven.org

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