Empire Discussion Thread
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ActuaIly, this has been very interesting to me, in understanding how much “the numbers” seem to be a part of how I define the success or not of a game.
My initial thinking was definitely based on this deep assumption that one should be casting the widest possible net, pulling in the greatest possible amount of people and trying to be all things to all people. It’s probably based on my formative MUSH experience being in the big, multi-sphere WoD pit.
However, now I think of it I can totally see that not all games should or would strive for that. However, in this case looking at the available roster, it does seem like Ada is hoping to achieve a decently sized player base eventually.
In any case. Perspective broadened.
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@Ominous said in Empire Discussion Thread:
What Ada should have written in response to the question
I think that this is the crux of why Ada and Warma had that interaction in the first place.
Because I disagree that Ada SHOULD have said anything differently. She COULD have, and maybe that would have helped.
But if she said what she meant, and that was misunderstood, Warma COULD have just as easily stated, hey, I’m confused here because it reads to me like you’re asking y
He COULD even go into better clarification of where the confusion was with a politely asked, “You mentioned not needing to send logs, but also that you need RP support. What’s the ideal format for getting that support to you?”Both of them could have made other choices. But they didn’t. Ada said something. It may or may not have been misunderstood. Rather than respectfully asking for clarification, a player came at head staff sideways about it.
So, sure. Staff CAN bend further backwards to clarify a misunderstanding that instead of being conveyed as such just got snippy… Or they can say they’re not interested in supprorting snippy responses and focus on people willing to work on finding understanding collaboratively instead. Only Ada can decide which of those she prefers.
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@Pacha said in Empire Discussion Thread:
only a pretty small amount of effort
I also wanted to pull up this phrasing here. We don’t know how much effort it takes. We know how much it might take us, but not anyone else. And even if it’s a small amount of energy for us, I don’t really want to spend all of my free time expending that effort to gentle parent a dysregulated player when I could be doing literally anything else, like setting my head on fire, instead. So I can understand just… not doing that.
@Ominous said in Empire Discussion Thread:
Then why didn’t Ada say THAT?
Honestly? Probably curse of prior knowledge. She knows the system is there, expects it to be used, but also expects everyone else to also know the thing that she knows. Because psychology. It’s not a satisfactory thought, but it’s the only one I can think of given that I am, as yet, unable to read minds.
@Ominous said in Empire Discussion Thread:
I don’t read rudeness or pushiness.
It’s entirely possible that my dislike of Warma is colouring things, but I definitely read it as pushy.
All that being said, none of that conversation was clear. And I have to agree that if you’re expecting me to expend more emotional energy and maturity than I feel you’re meeting me with, I’m just going to get rid of you instead.
He/Him. Opinions and views are solely my own unless specifically stated otherwise.
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@Pavel said in Empire Discussion Thread:
Honestly? Probably curse of prior knowledge. She knows the system is there, expects it to be used, but also expects everyone else to also know the thing that she knows. Because psychology. It’s not a satisfactory thought, but it’s the only one I can think of given that I am, as yet, unable to read minds.
I totally agree with this. I think this also occurs when players don’t read all of the available game documentation and just assume something is X when it’s actually documented as Y. So this may be something documented either in game or on the Empire website that is just assumed as known in every interaction.
I know if I ever get the time to build a game, I’m going to have a big disclaimer that applying for a character indicates that the player is aware of the game’s policies and rules, and that lack of understanding of those documents is not accepted as an excuse for negative patterns of behavior.
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I would (gently, politely) just point out that I did immediately qualify the text you have quoted with:
“Of course, Ada is welcome to decide that is more effort than they are willing to put forth.”
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@Pacha You did, and my statement was meant more generally. So I’m sorry that wasn’t entirely clear. However, the quoted phrase, and others like it in sentiment, are phrases I’d much rather we as a society (though I’d settle for just the hobby) abandon when applied to other people.
ETA: Though that’s a whole different discussion around implicit ableism in our language that’s probably worth at least a master’s thesis’ amount of research.
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My stance is that the onus is on the individual in a position of authority to be clear in what they mean. Staff has control over the situation, so they need to ensure that the player understands them. This wasn’t a chat between two equal parties; one clearly has power over the other, and, therefore, has the responsibility to be clear in their communications.
Ceterum censeo Carthaginem esse delendam
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@Warma-Sheen said in Empire Discussion Thread:
I cancelled a bunch of others cause having a bunch of actions open that we’re being addressed was really making me feel a kind of way.
This is the key bit of that log for me. It seems like this person was already being kind of passive aggressive and establishing a bad behavior pattern over waiting five days for a response from the lone staff member running the game. And it sounds like the other characters hadn’t even weighed in on the action yet for the staff member to even respond.
I don’t think log/no log was the real issue here.
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@Ominous While I disagree with the whole philosophical underpinning of what you’re saying here, we can unpack that at a later time. I do want to suggest one thought: They both thought they were being clear and the other was being confusing (at best) or intentionally obtuse (at worst).
There’s really no use in using the word clearly so often (not in this most recent post, but previously) when talking about a miscommunication/confusion/talkyfuckery.
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@Ominous said in Empire Discussion Thread:
one clearly has power over the other
No they don’t. Let’s not be super ridiculous here. That’d be like saying Pyre has power over us because they are mods of the forum
And while we’re on the topic of being super ridiculous, we’re going off a log that was clearly copy-pasted instead of screen shotted so we have no idea what happened. Literally everything could be editted.
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@bear_necessities said in Empire Discussion Thread:
That’d be like saying Pyre has power over us because they are mods of the forum
@Pyrephox has power over me because they still have the photos from the first (and only) Admin/Mod staff party. They shall likely never look at a turnip quite the same way.
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@bear_necessities said in Empire Discussion Thread:
@Ominous said in Empire Discussion Thread:
one clearly has power over the other
No they don’t. Let’s not be super ridiculous here. That’d be like saying Pyre has power over us because they are mods of the forum
And while we’re on the topic of being super ridiculous, we’re going off a log that was clearly copy-pasted instead of screen shotted so we have no idea what happened. Literally everything could be editted.
There’s a degree of power that, realistically, I have. It is small and stupid and very easily revoked, but it exists. But, conversely, everyone on this forum has the power say “fuck off, Pyre” and demand I be removed from modstaff or they leave to make a new forum. Which is how we got here!
So, yes, a staff member has the power to make a game experience suck, but in this case, I think with a game with a single gamerunner, that GM recognizes that someone is going to be a Problem early on and just removing them is a pretty good decision. If Ada removes a lot of people, or removes people who aren’t, uh, pretty well already established as being Problems across several games, then the game will die and the problem will self-correct.
For the record, I had a case where I didn’t receive a response for an action for a while, and I added a polite (I hope) ooc message to the action asking what my next step was, and Ada simply pointed out that I had an outstanding roll to do and I hadn’t noticed. Problem solved, nobody got banned, and I didn’t feel “some kind of way” about it.
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@Pyrephox said in Empire Discussion Thread:
If Ada removes a lot of people, or removes people who aren’t, uh, pretty well already established as being Problems across several games, then the game will die and the problem will self-correct.
I don’t even think it’s that. It’s consistency. Staff needs to be consistent with how they respond to problems. The player in this case was being rude and pushy in Ada’s opinion, so they got a one and done ban. This needs to be consistent going forward. If other people are rude and pushy to Ada on the same level, they should also get a boot.
I can’t count the number of games I’ve seen with inconsistent staffing.
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@Pavel said in Empire Discussion Thread:
@Ominous While I disagree with the whole philosophical underpinning of what you’re saying here, we can unpack that at a later time.
You disagree that people in positions of authority should be clear in their communications to those they have power over?
I do want to suggest one thought: They both thought they were being clear and the other was being confusing (at best) or intentionally obtuse (at worst).
That’s fine. It’s on the person with authority to make sure that the discourse is clarified. “I feel like you are being intentionally obtuse about this and are conversing in bad faith. What is it you are having issues with, so that I can clarify and we can move forward? Be verbose if you need to.”
@bear_necessities said in Empire Discussion Thread:
No they don’t. Let’s not be super ridiculous here. That’d be like saying Pyre has power over us because they are mods of the forum.
Pyre does have power over us. They can ban us without recourse, and we can’t ban them. It is not a two-way street. This isn’t a ridiculous statement. If Pyre were to ban me right now, it would have a negative effect on me. It would be embarrassing, it would hurt my ego, and it would deny me the ability to communicate with a community I enjoy having discussions with. Just because a forum for discussing a very niche topic is trivial in the grand scheme of things doesn’t mean that losing access won’t have a psychological effect. Obviously I have a desire to be here, since I am here posting. You all also have a desire to be here; otherwise, you wouldn’t be posting in reply. Hell, this forum wouldn’t even exist if people had just shrugged their shoulders and never gave MU* forums another thought after getting banned from MSB.
And while we’re on the topic of being super ridiculous, we’re going off a log that was clearly copy-pasted instead of screen shotted so we have no idea what happened. Literally everything could be editted.
Yes, it could have been edited. Warm Sheen could be talking out of their ass. But it’s all I have to go on right now. Based on what is presented, my feelings are that Ada should have communicated better.
Ceterum censeo Carthaginem esse delendam
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@Ominous said in Empire Discussion Thread:
You disagree that people in positions of authority should be clear in their communications to those they have power over?
No, I disagree that staff and players aren’t equal parties and that staff is the only one with responsibility for clarity in this or any other situation. Any power staff has is miniscule, as I am an adult with other things to do than worry about what an internet person thinks about me. Staff are just players with a job, worthy of no more and no less respect than anyone else.
But this seems to be a fundamental disagreement between us, so we’ll just agree to be ambivalent about it 'tween us.
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@DrQuinn said in Empire Discussion Thread:
@Warma-Sheen said in Empire Discussion Thread:
I cancelled a bunch of others cause having a bunch of actions open that we’re being addressed was really making me feel a kind of way.
This is the key bit of that log for me. It seems like this person was already being kind of passive aggressive and establishing a bad behavior pattern over waiting five days for a response from the lone staff member running the game. And it sounds like the other characters hadn’t even weighed in on the action yet for the staff member to even respond.
I don’t think log/no log was the real issue here.
This may be the key to my not understanding why people think Warma Sheen was being pushy. I do not read that as being passive aggressive at all. I read that as “I am uncomfortable having a bunch of requests in the queue that are all related and are potentially creating needless work, wasting your time, and delaying other players’ requests being acted on, so I deleted them.” But I am an incredibly anxious person who thinks he is a waste of space and needlessly wastes people’s time, so that’s automatically where my mind goes when reading that because I can see myself writing something like that and that’s what I would have meant by it.
@Pavel said in Empire Discussion Thread:
No, I disagree that staff and players aren’t equal parties and that staff is the only one with responsibility for clarity in this or any other situation. Any power staff has is miniscule, as I am an adult with other things to do than worry about what an internet person thinks about me. Staff are just players with a job, worthy of no more and no less respect than anyone else.
You may not be personally bothered if someone ends your access to an internet server, but it’s still a power over you that you do not have over them, a monopoly on the power of coercion. You will adhere to whatever they demand, or you will not be there anymore. That is power and that is authority, even if it is on a silly thing as a MU server.
But this seems to be a fundamental disagreement between us, so we’ll just agree to be ambivalent about it 'tween us.
Apparently. I almost said “clearly” but that’s come up a lot.
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@Ominous said in Empire Discussion Thread:
But I am an incredibly anxious person who thinks he is a waste of space and needlessly wastes people’s time
This conversation has not been a waste of time and even though we disagree I am grateful to have had it. We’re all glad you have occupied space here.
So put that in your pipe and smoke it, anxiety.
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@Ominous said in Empire Discussion Thread:
If Pyre were to ban me right now, it would have a negative effect on me.
Respectfully, this is you perceiving Pyre’s power and giving them a great deal of power over you, vs them actually having power over you.
If Pyre banned you right now for doing absolutely nothing except responding to a post, there would undoubtedly be backlash and it probably wouldn’t hold (although half of us would say you deserved it, then another half would say Pyre’s power-tripping, and there’d be a ton of back and forth about the perception of your tone and what you SHOULD have said vs what you DID say along with a disseration-level deep dive on what you implied with your perceived tone like we are literary scholars … sound familiar?)
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@bear_necessities said in Empire Discussion Thread:
Respectfully, this is you perceiving Pyre’s power and giving them a great deal of power over you, vs them actually having power over you.
Hey @somasatori are you qualified to supervise PhD candidacies yet? I’ve got a few ideas from this thread…
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@bear_necessities said in Empire Discussion Thread:
If Pyre banned you right now for doing absolutely nothing except responding to a post, there would undoubtedly be backlash and it probably wouldn’t hold (although half of us would say you deserved it, then another half would say Pyre’s power-tripping, and there’d be a ton of back and forth about the perception of your tone and what you SHOULD have said vs what you DID say along with a disseration-level deep dive on what you implied with your perceived tone like we are literary scholars … sound familiar?)
It’s about time for a spin off. Let’s go.
