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RL Peeves
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I wish I could have the whole package and always have been aware that I have the skills to do lots of things while also being aware that I lack the capacity to tie it all together. This isn’t something that other people see, usually. It’s internal. And it’s hard to explain to people who don’t have that similar feeling.
Thank you for this because this put into a few sentences the very feeling that I’ve been writing PAGES in my journal just struggling to figure out how to express.
You are right. While knowing others feel like this makes me sad because I KNOW how much it just wrecks one’s confidence and self-esteem, there is some comfort in knowing that I’m not the only person in the world feeling like this.
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@Testament I’ve wondered a lot if maybe there has been some depression there all along that was masked because my ADHD have been out of control for YEARS. Now the ADHD is being treated and my brain is a little quieter and now depression is just like “Yo, what’s up?”
THIS. SO MUCH THIS.
I cannot speak for you because you are your own person with your own feels and life. However, I didn’t get diagnosed or treated for ADHD until January-ish of last year. My masking behaviors were so a part of my being that I didn’t realize what was going on until I started to manage them. Then when one mask was removed, it came out that my depression was more in control than I realized.
I wish there was a magic word to say or treatment to give to make you feel better. If I could say it or do it, I would. I can’t. It sucks. I’m sorry and you are the perfect you. Just remember that. All the negative self-talk are just lies. Think of them like ‘problem players’ just trying to wrong fun you. Also we are not promised time in life. We don’t know what our last minute will be. So take the time to try the thing. If you stop it, you tried it and you enjoyed it while you were doing it. It’s okay. It’s okay to pick things up. It’s okay to put things down. It’s okay to forget about things. It’s okay to live life how you live it. You are the amazing person you are and you don’t have to live another expectation because others around you are not you.
So in closing. I understand. I wish I could make you feel better. I’ll keep you in my thoughts and you are already so perfectly worthy of anything and everything you want to do, feel, or exist in.
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@Testament I’ve wondered a lot if maybe there has been some depression there all along that was masked because my ADHD have been out of control for YEARS. Now the ADHD is being treated and my brain is a little quieter and now depression is just like “Yo, what’s up?”
I don’t want to do any armchair psychoanalysis on you, here, but depression or depressive episodes are absolutely a common comorbidity with ADHD, and it’s worth getting that looked into if you have the means and the desire.
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First world problem, I know:
I ordered an iPhone (maxing our a credit card to do so) cause my current phone is garbage. It was supposed to be here an hour ago. First apple rep says “oh the carrier tried to deliver it and canceled it”.
No they didn’t! I have been sitting by the door since 11am this morning. Waiting.
Senior rep says “I don’t know what happened, but it says the order got cancelled”. Talk to the store it was shipped from… it hasn’t been brpight back to the store though it was picked up 2hrs ago.
Where tf is my phone.
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Yesterday I walked around outside without a coat.
Today it is freezing and cold.
I forgot this side of spring.
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This is for all the folks who were writing about ADHD and depression (and I fully admit to skimming because, you know
).This is something I have been working on in therapy (I fully support talk therapy + medicine, if needed). Be kind to yourself. Be gentle with yourself. If all the things didn’t get done, that’s ok. There’s always tomorrow or you know what, maybe it never gets finished. That’s ok, too. I have to often stop myself when I begin berating myself for not doing enough, being enough, having enough, not following through, not finishing what I started, etc., and take a breath and say either out loud or in my head “be kind to yourself.”
Just food for thought. It has helped me get through some tough moments. Doesn’t take the place of therapy but it’s a tool I use for myself and my kiddo who has been showing a lot of ADHD. Be kind to yourself. You are deserving of kindness.
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It’s kind of amazing to find yourself in the position of having to fight to keep a job you hate.
Edit: This wasn’t meant to be a response to anyone. I clicked the wrong button.
love that perfect frown
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@Vulgar-Boy said in RL Peeves:
It’s kind of amazing to find yourself in the position of having to fight to keep a job you hate.
In a similar position right now where I am actively interviewing, while trying to keep from losing my mind and quitting the job I have, which would solve no practical problems and only feel good for five minutes.
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@Testament I’ve wondered a lot if maybe there has been some depression there all along that was masked because my ADHD have been out of control for YEARS. Now the ADHD is being treated and my brain is a little quieter and now depression is just like “Yo, what’s up?”
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I also kind of think there’s a certain amount of depression/anxiety that are just - BECAUSE of the condition. Having no executive function sucks. Having a terrible memory sucks. I don’t think I have chemical depression, I think I’m depressed that this thing does not happen in my brain and I really wish it did.For me, being medicated helps? I can maintain, I can go to work and not get fired, I can mostly get bills handled on time, etc. But it doesn’t ACTUALLY supply executive function. Nothing does. And that fucking sucks, and I’m always a little low-grade depressed about it.
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@hellfrog YES. And it is really hard to figure out how to express how the lack of executive functioning and the memory lapses have really fucked up my life in a lot of ways. I can be positive and gentle with myself and I am in therapy right now because my harsh inner critic was leading me down some dark roads, but all the mindfulness and gentleness and meds and self-accepting in the world doesn’t change that this sucks and I wish it were different.
lol lmao
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And it is really hard to figure out how to express how the lack of executive functioning and the memory lapses have really fucked up my life in a lot of ways.
I could scream with how much I feel this.
“Just do the thing” is impossible and I can’t explain why. I have never in my life found the words to adequately explain to someone how this just does not happen for me. And even being kind to myself I know - i know- that people don’t understand and they find it frustrating. Because I fucking find it frustrating, and I do understand.
Guess I’m just yelling in solidarity here, but for what it’s worth? I know how these things have fucked your life up. I get you.
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I don’t really recall how I managed to make my life work with my autism/ADHD/etc before I was able to work remote full-time. I guess I developed tricks to keep people thinking I worked like they expect while in reality I spend 30 hours of the week wrestling with angst of executive function disorder and then 10 (often in one go) being more productive than most of my peers are with 40. That’s way easier to make work now that I don’t have to be in an office.
I do have the general major depression, I would describe my baseline emotional state as greyscale, but luckily (ha) I was raised with an overdose of puritan work ethic so being happy was never an expectation.
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We have so many people absent that I’m covering a class all day today. (Since the teacher I’m covering knew it was a real teacher in here she gave ACTUAL content for them to do.)
I’ve got one kiddo I’ve provided everything I possibly can, but he won’t pick up his pencil.
I could make a row and a fuss and get him to work, but that would take the other students out of their MOJO and prevent their learning.
It is really bothering me I’m letting this kid fail.
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My spouse and teenagers are having a good time while I’m working. Which would be fine if they WERENT SHOUTING CONSTANTLY.
Ugh.
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Heard a solicitor stuff a piece of paper in our door today around 7PM. Didn’t think much of it.
Went to walk my dog at around 8:30PM, and the paper fell out of the door. Turns out it was from our apartment complex, and it basically says ‘We sold to a different company, your security keys won’t work effective immediately, your new owner will be in touch with whatever details.’
Wut.
Anyhow, went to go pop on to their resident portal website to see if anyone had issued a statement or anything.
Okay, damn, that was fast. Guess I’ll just swing by the company’s actual website, then, and…
These fuckers just deleted their web presence and printed that shit out and ran with absolutely no notice. Impressive, honestly.
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Rearranging my entire routine to get to work a half hour early for a meeting…only to have the meeting canceled at the last moment.
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Nice little surprise waiting for us at our new house, previously hidden behind the old owners washers and dryers….
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Watching the city government deal with the chemical spill in the Delaware River is enraging. The river water was contaminated by the spill on Friday night and not announced until 1PM on Sunday, with a warning that we might need to switch to bottled water in… 45 minutes?
Fuck the Philadelphia Water Department.
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I get a call on my cellphone at 5:30 that goes straight to voicemail. It’s a doctor’s office calling about one of my patients, but doesn’t say what the call’s about. I call them back and, after a bunch of faffing about trying to find out the patient’s SSN, find out that this isn’t the doctor’s office: it’s a hospital and some kind of crossed wire has sent me to them instead of the office I need to call. However, the hospital employees are helpful enough to tell me the office I need closed at 4:00, 90 minutes before I even got the voicemail. Fantastic. I could call their on-call number, but their system is still screwed up and redirecting me to the hospital, so I have no way of knowing what the hell they want to tell me about my patient.
I love competence in medicine, don’t you?
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Peeve 1- Dentist doesn’t call back about root canal for a month so now I have to miss work instead of being able to do it over spring break.
Tmi below
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Peeve 2- Spring Break messed up my pee cycles. Now it isn’t just during my transition periods I need to pee.
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