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MU Peeves Thread
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My least favourite encounter in stories/plots is the Main Character Syndrome player. The one who rushes ahead without bothering to wait for anyone’s emote and grabs the MacGuffin to take home and try to interact with the plot to the exclusion of all others. The one who gets up in front of everyone and “volunteers” to be the most important person who shall charge forth alone to solve all the problems and actually expects a pat on the back for this behavior. Basically constantly looking for a way to elevate themselves above the rest of us peons who showed up to participate.
I’m dealing with one in the current game I’m playing and I’m so fucking done with it. A decent amount of plot licking means they’re somehow constantly in the center of everything and there’s very little to do that doesn’t require going through them in some way. And they have a history of OOC aggression towards people trying to get involved in plots they’ve already licked.
Like, have friends if you want, put them first if you want, I consider this all fairly normal behaviour. But if you can’t stop acting like a monster to everyone else that’s where I draw the line. Fuck off with that shit.
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@Juniper said in MU Peeves Thread:
My least favourite encounter in stories/plots is the Main Character Syndrome player.
I’m dealing with one in the current game I’m playing and I’m so fucking done with it. A decent amount of plot licking means they’re somehow constantly in the center of everything and there’s very little to do that doesn’t require going through them in some way. And they have a history of OOC aggression towards people trying to get involved in plots they’ve already licked.
When this is allowed to run rampant, it’s one of the fastest ways to get me to disengage with a game. I don’t feel the need to win as my character (I actually prefer losing more often than not as it leads to better character arcs IMO), but if the same person or few people are the ones always doing everything and I feel like my character is just a side character in their story, and staff lets that happen? Yeah, I’ll take my time and energy and go elsewhere.
The issue I find is it happens more often than not. I’d say that most of the places I’ve played in the past year or so, if you were to do a straw poll of players and asked, "Who seems like the ‘main character’ of this game?', you’d see a vast number of players answering the same person or people. That’s a problem.
Staff needs to be cognizant of these things and while it’s hard to tell a player “please don’t get involved in this plot”, there are ways that you can urge things in other directions and not get into a confrontation about it.
But as a player? If you don’t want to share your ball, I’ll go find another sandbox to play in. There are plenty of them out there, and none of them are SO GOOD that they are worth the mental energy of fighting with bad players over it.
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I think it’s gonna be a two pieces of cake sort of day today.
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Playing on a game where staff ardently vows to the player base that their entire goal is to prevent gatekeeping, waiting for weeks while all of staff takes a break at the same time grinding plot to a halt leaving the players to pick up the slack and run a bunch of open events involving everyone and being inclusive, and then have staff come back and immediately launch a ton of events that are all “closed” to very small groups of seemingly the same few players again.
It’s not gatekeeping I guess if you’re the ones inside?
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@mangosplitz Those events are in response to requests made by groups of players poking at plot, and there’s a staff-run plot guide explaining how to do that.
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@helvetica I get the complaint assuming @mangosplitz is talking about Concordia (bc really dude just name names already, vaguebooking is so 2023). Four events, all featuring the same 4 characters, is a bad look. But considering the last large plot was in October, I assume 90% of the people in those groups that did the requesting are idle or have quit?
IDK you’re never going to please everybody.
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@bear_necessities word. for my part on playerside, I tried to invite people I had connections to and got fatigued by them reading the mails and not responding, so ~~the group that’s there is the group that responded before I ran out of steam. c’est la vie.
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@helvetica 100% not on you as a player, other players suck and it is fucking exhausting as a person to try and be inclusive and get 0 answer from anyboy.
Just giving my “from the outside looking in” perspective on the situation. But also lol @mangosplitz just from my time on Concordia I 100% believe if you asked the head GM there to be involved, you would? So idk you get what you give in any situation.
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Passive participation results in passive inclusion. We can’t know you want to do something if you don’t tell us you want to do something. That’s not gatekeeping, it’s just a lack of telepathy
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@mangosplitz said in MU Peeves Thread:
waiting for weeks while all of staff takes a break at the same time
Idk but I get sucked into holiday/kid events from pretty much mid-october to January these days. So like… staff taking a break over a commonly bust time for many doesn’t seem bizarre???
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The visibility on this is really unfortunate sometimes on ares games, since you cannot have truly hidden events (and unless things are customized, you can see how many private scenes there are and who and timing too, which I personally feel contributes to a lot of feelings of FOMO/left outedness if someone ISN"T used to that kind of transparency until they recalibrate). Once people do realize that’s all it is, it gets easier to ignore unless there’s other difficulties.
But that’s going to happen on any ares game unless it’s heavily customized. One of the things that I LOVED about Wyrdhold is glitch making private scenes truly private (I think there was notification of how many but that is all). I don’t remember seeing any You Are Not Invited events but I don’t know if just planning happened privately (I participated in some that were handled like that!) or if there was some switch that made it happen, Glitch is like super awesome so I could see that being something they could do!
On places like arx and other places if an event is toggled private or limited it won’t even show up for people who are not eligible. I don’t think that Concordia has an unusual amount of private STed responses to requests, if anything there are a lot less. They’re just visible to all. It’s one of those things that you can’t take personally as a player, though at the same time I think staff probably shouldn’t take anything personal about about player worry when they see things they’re used to being hidden/out of sight.
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For concordia specifically, I find that once you are able to get yourself over the threshold to put in a request, it’s pretty easy and friendly. You do not need to involve other people at all (though I believe working with a group nets a bonus). I’m not gifted at paperwork and my brain organization is different than the norm, so at first it was disorienting to have things get closed or shifted quickly with a quick turn around time–BUT one thing to remember about ares at least on this game is that you can ping to reopen very VERY easily just on the web portal, it’s not “final” if it’s been closed because response time took too long and you totally don’t have to start from scratch.
None of that is personal, it’s just a style and applications thing. I know for me, when something is CALLED the same thing (request) I tend to think of it in the same terms of what I’m most used to (which in my case is not ares or a system where a paused request can be popped right back open at will. So that’s an adjustment too.
There are some super friendly folks on the game that will totally help you if you need help brainstorming on how to approach a request, ect. Or even if you post on the forum or ask on channel about feeling out of the loop! So I’d really encourage you to do that too. If the request thing is intimidating I totally get that, I’m much better at RPing than I am at organizing.
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@mietze said in MU Peeves Thread:
One of the things that I LOVED about Wyrdhold is glitch making private scenes truly private (I think there was notification of how many but that is all). I don’t remember seeing any You Are Not Invited events but I don’t know if just planning happened privately (I participated in some that were handled like that!) or if there was some switch that made it happen, Glitch is like super awesome so I could see that being something they could do!
I fucking loved that too. I looooooooove Ares but the FOMO of some of the pieces of it can hit pretty hard sometimes. First thing I do on any Ares install is turn off featured scenes. MY GOD.
FOMO can be rough in our community, but no one is a mindreader and staff can’t be expected to be either.
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I will say that I don’t think anyone should expect staff to be mindreaders but also the players shouldn’t expect to be mindreaders also - and it can be extremely hard to “know” that stuff is Happening after a long break, especially if you are not connected to certain groups. Specific to the interrogation, I recall an OOC conversation where people were asking to be involved months ago and the tone was not having a ton of people in the room or something similar to that, and while I think that came from a player rather than staff, it can be super intimidating to even the most proactive of players to hear stuff like that and still try to be involved. And IIRC didn’t a lot of the people suddenly thrust into leadership go pretty inactive immediately afterward? It’s sort of a “sucks all around” sort of situation.
Anyway I do think we have a tendency to believe staff should come to us when we’re being proactive to reward us for good behavior or whatever and ehhh I don’t think that’s a good way to go about getting involved in things.
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I seems to me that it doesn’t take a mind-reader to suppose that somebody on the game wants to participate in it.
Sure, not always true, there are some people who don’t want to play staff-run stories, any GM will find those people who you can’t coax or prod into stuff.
But mostly?
Similarly, well, consider this very conversation. It doesn’t take a mind-reader to suppose that maybe somebody is not sure if they’re welcome for certain storylines etc.
Hell, I spent a solid year on a game where it typically took three weeks for ‘my’ GM to respond to my +requests by asking a question that was already answered in said request, then another three weeks to respond to my repeating the answer, during which time they’d feed important plot-points that I was working on to NPCs, and similar such behaviors. Attempting to play rather than wait resulted in me being typified as demanding constant attention in spite of me not actually entering anything into the game but a daily ‘pub Good evening folks’ for weeks at a time.
One thing that sucks balls about GMing MUs is that one more or less must apply salves to burns other GMs have inflicted on players.
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@mietze said in MU Peeves Thread:
One of the things that I LOVED about Wyrdhold is glitch making private scenes truly private (I think there was notification of how many but that is all). I don’t remember seeing any You Are Not Invited events but I don’t know if just planning happened privately (I participated in some that were handled like that!) or if there was some switch that made it happen, Glitch is like super awesome so I could see that being something they could do!
Now, see, my MU Peeve is that this game is gone and now you’ve gone and mentioned it, you awful person.
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Hi there
To clarify, from my point of view (I play Lysander), I put in a job about interviewing those prisoners on 25 October.
From my point of view, I initially ran a scene where Lysander wrote to basically every PC on the game who had a specialism in law or law enforcement, inviting them to take part.
I took all of those people, and then everyone who approached me and asked to be involved, and put them on a great big job, which totalled about 8-9 people.
Unfortunately, there were various delays and such, which meant that it took until now to get the resulting scenes done. Because of the passage of time, a lot of the people who had been on those jobs initially fell off or lost interest, so by the time it came to do it, there were 3 of us.
The three characters could not do the same days, so we ended up doing two scenes on two different days. I did both, but that involved me staying up past 2 am two nights in a row, so I did put in significant effort to attend those scenes.
To the massive credit of Spes, she went around everyone that was online and available on both nights to find other people who might like to join in and participate, with the result that we had extra people at each event.
It certainly was not any attempt to exclude or slight anyone, and anyone that approached Lysander I included on the job. Even other people who wanted to go ahead in a way Lysander disagreed with (wanting to be violent with the prisoners), I did my best to find a way to let that happen for them, and they are going to get a chance to do that.
So, anyone who asked me was included, and I proactively asked everyone who seemed to have a relevant interest in those scenes (law or law enforcement) to get involved. Obviously, if you are playing a character whose main interests are, say…needlepoint or exploring the wilderness and you had not expressed any particular interest, there was no logical reason to invite you to such a scene.
I genuinely do not see what more I could reasonably have done to include people.
There was definitely a long delay with staff being unavailable and then the Christmas break. I will personally say that I am not a great fan of “closed” events being posted publically (I also play on Shattered, where they do that a lot, and I really dislike it). Still, I get it is a useful organisational tool.
I am not sure there is an overarching point I am trying to make. I just wanted to set some facts out from my perspective.
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@Pacha said in MU Peeves Thread:
I genuinely do not see what more I could reasonably have done to include people.
I wasn’t going to comment again because my point was made, but I want to clarify that my post wasn’t directed at you, my dude. We haven’t RPed, but you seem like a nice and inclusive player, and I apologize if you thought I meant to be critical of you as a player. I didn’t even think that all of the scenes were yours specifically, although that does kind of go to my point because I know you’re not the only player asking for help on things (as someone else said, having a bunch of IC leaders roster has been rough on folks).
There was definitely a long delay with staff being unavailable and then the Christmas break. I will personally say that I am not a great fan of “closed” events being posted publically (I also play on Shattered, where they do that a lot, and I really dislike it). Still, I get it is a useful organisational tool.
This was really my only thing. It was just frustrating after having the game go dormant other than a handful of players who struggled to keep events and activity up over a two or so month period while staff was burned out (only to see a bunch of THOSE players get burned out and quit after picking up that burden), to see staff make a triumphant return and only address a portion of stuff in the same corner. But looking at it from their perspective I suppose it’s easier to bring things back in clumps and all those scenes were interrelated, but this is where “telepathy” comes up with communication to players that their stuff is coming, too.
To bear necessities: I wasn’t trying to vaguebook to be edgey, I was just trying to post a general MU Peeve as the thread is called, not “name and shame” a particular game on blast just because that happened to be the the most recent place I saw this thing (which others have agreed is a peeve) happen. It wasn’t meant as an attack on the game (it’s a fun concept and has awesome players and a very dedicated head staffer), just something that kind of sucks when I see it happen (and this isn’t the first or second MU I’ve seen it happen on).
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@mangosplitz said in MU Peeves Thread:
To bear necessities: I wasn’t trying to vaguebook to be edgey, I was just trying to post a general MU Peeve as the thread is called, not “name and shame” a particular game on blast just because that happened to be the the most recent place I saw this thing (which others have agreed is a peeve) happen.
This is a tangential thing, I don’t play on the game being discussed but…idk what people expect when they post in the public Peeves thread about what’s clearly a specific incident that’s readily identifiable to the people involved, who have their own point of view on it. This comes up a lot and…idk what people expect. Not explicitly naming a game or person doesn’t really obfuscate much a lot of the time and the illusion it does is, I guess, a MU Peeve of mine (MU Board Peeve, which is very meta). People figure it out very quickly and are going to respond, this stuff is not really general a lot of the time unless it’s a pretty old gripe.
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I get that everyone is very excited to be able to AI generate
Henry Cavill their favorite actor as their PC, but can we please keep everything safe for work on actual character pages? Generate all the naked/nearly naked pics you want sure, but please share them on Discord or something and don’t post them to your character page.
