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MU Peeves Thread
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FWIW I wasn’t talking about sex MUSHes and I’ve never experienced a game where kinks that are being described are happening publically and that wasn’t even my peeve. We’ve gone way off course now though so IDEK what the peeve is anymore lol
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@Roz said in MU Peeves Thread:
ETA: also what did the furries even do
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So I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that Based On My Personal Experience and That is a Giant Fucking Caveat with Many Asterisks*, both of what @Roz and @kestrel are saying is correct. It’s just been that my general experience has been that slut-shaming culture on MU*s is usually very much conducted in public and kink-shaming culture is usually very much conducted in private, either by the abuser directly or by the circle around them, with latter being something I most often encountered on WoD games.
Like other users in the thread have said that I’m too lazy to dig up, sexuality in general and some level of kink specifically is baked right into the theme of Vampire and has been since in launched in… 1992? 1993? It doesn’t have to be played, but it frequently is.
In regards to kink, and to BDSM specifically, I really do think that the power dynamics of such relationships make them easier to devolve into something that is abusive. They are, by their nature, higher risk. But they are by no means whatsoever inherently abusive and, like I said above, any community, any culture, any system, will have abusers in it that need to be recognized and removed as swiftly as possible. This requirement is doubly true for anything involving BDSM and is very much why the community has to go balls to the wall with consent, communication, negotiation, safe words, contracts. It can be very, very dangerous if you don’t, as we’ve seen in the news several times in the last three years alone.
And that is exactly why, on every game I have staffed on, STed on, or written for, my policy has always been “I absolutely do not care what kind of ‘weird’ sex stuff y’all are getting up to, as long as it’s consensual. And yes, that includes not roping in unwitting public participants into whatever you’re doing because that’s not consensual.” I am adamantly against coming out commenting on kinks in general, and even specific kinks I find weird and gross, because the most important thing to me is people being able to report something the moment they feel abused or unsafe. In public, in private, or yes, even on public channels, where the whole “not roping unwitting participants in to your sexy times” still applies.
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@Kestrel said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Roz said in MU Peeves Thread:
ETA: also what did the furries even do
I feel like we’re way fucking off course at this point.
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I feel like the peeves thread on a Mu* forum is probably not the best forum for detailed debates over ‘Kink: Good or Bad?’ It should probably be, for one thing, a discussion people are consenting to join and I’m mildly requesting that it …go somewhere else.
as previously stated, good day.
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Yeah, like at this point can it just be split off to somewhere else? Or stopped?
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@Kestrel I’ve been playing since like…1992, minus my recent time out since TR…and your minority/majority experience is reversed from mine. I’m one person, so I’m not discounting your experiences but I’m going to go out on a limb and think that my playlist isn’t the same as your playlist at the very least.
Slut shaming is a huge issue online and RL. People oversexualixing small things is a huge issue rn RL which is why I stated I give it a serious side eye in these discussions.
I’m going to be honest, considering the current way things are going RL, I personally am not going to give in to some perceived prude persecution complex.
Once is a coincidence, twice is a pattern. Fuck nuance, if something happens more than once that you don’t like and you don’t find another place to play, that’s on you.
It’s a solution I hate, but it’s legit been the only 100% working solution going as far back as I can remember. We should always work to improve any community, but there will always be disagreements over what is and isn’t acceptable behavior.
Unacceptable sexual situations has been in public discourse by sociologists since the early 1990’s due to the LambdaMoo incident and hasn’t really been considered ‘solved’ yet. . (See this account and this article)
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Official voice time.
This is absolutely not the place for this kind of intense discussion. IF it must continue, I’ll happily move the posts to somewhere else. I’d prefer that it stop altogether, though.
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@farfalla Seems fair, I’m done, it just took me a long time to figure out my reply and format it or I wouldn’t have made it.
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@Pavel Sorry, I composed that post before I saw your official voice. Should I delete it?
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@GF If you don’t mind. Just so that it doesn’t continue the conversation here.
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@Pavel No problem. I wouldn’t have asked if I wasn’t at least concerned that it was too far afield for this thread.
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Today my peeve is burnout. Hella burnout, and being forced to confront the fact of burnout.
Bleaurgh.
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Today my peeve is: People who I don’t know, and have never interacted with before, paging me out of the blue with single word greetings.
Bonus creep points if your character got approved less than 15 minutes go.
Even more creep points if you’re doing that from a male roster character who tops many (most? all?) top 10 strongest marvel heroes lists.
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@Sammich I’m honestly about at the point where if someone I can’t identify even says ‘hi’ to me I’m all ‘back the fuck up and never speak to me again’ which I’m sure is very healthy.
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@Sammich said in MU Peeves Thread:
Even more creep points if you’re doing that from a male roster character who tops many (most? all?) top 10 strongest marvel heroes lists.
Whoa, whoa, let’s not throw needless shade at Hawkeye
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@Snackness I was honestly half-expecting to find someone here having replied to you saying ‘hi’ in their post and only that.
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@Sammich I know everyone in this hobby is a giant bundle of nervous tics and anxiety issues, myself definitely included, but god I hate it when someone just says “Hi” to me. When my nerves are especially frayed, that comes off like they’re saying, “Hey you, come up with something for the two of us to talk about because I want to be entertained, not do the work of contributing to an actual conversation.”
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@GF Exactly this. Don’t put the onus on me. You messaged me for a reason and my psychic pills haven’t kicked in yet, so out with it.
