On the utility of Logs, Receipts, and Proof
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Everyone with brain problems is welcome to play. However, your brain problems do not act as an excuse to permit you to cause discomfort to others.
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My general guide for Not Being Creepy On Games, which is by no means inclusive, but will catch…at least 80 percent of basic creepiness:
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Be honest and straightforward about what sort of play you are looking for. There’s nothing wrong with being there primarily for the TS OR primarily for the combat OR whatever, but:
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Accept without complaint or attempt to ‘win someone over’ when someone is not interested in the RP that you want.
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Do not solicit real life details from other players. If they want you to know, they’ll volunteer it.
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Do not share more than basic RL details to anyone who has not specifically asked. Freely shareable details may include the general line of work you’re in, what region of what country you live in, or the sort of hobbies you would tell your grandmother about. Details that no one needs to know unless they’ve specifically asked and you feel truly comfortable sharing with them may include but not be limited to: your address, your real name, pictures of any part of your body, your kinks, your salary, and any hobbies that you would not be comfortable explaining to a ten year old in front of their loving parents who are also holding shotguns.
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No is a complete sentence. If someone says that they DO NOT want to do a thing, no matter what that thing is, then they do not have explain themselves and you should not try to persuade them to do the thing. That includes ‘talking to you’ or ‘playing with you’.
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If someone says “Stop”, OOC, then stop. Do not pass Go, do not collect $200. If someone says “Stop”, IC, then stop, and make sure OOC that they are enthusiastic (not just ‘will tolerate’) about the direction a scene is going in, and let them know that if the scene is not fun for them at any time, you can absolutely do something different or end it without any sort of argument or retribution. Then follow through with that.
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If an IC event is going to involve harming, humiliating, dominating, punishing, or otherwise doing something painful to another character, check in proactively with the player, and work out boundaries for the scene OOC. This doesn’t have to mean planning out every moment, but you want to establish early and often that communication is good, and that just because someone’s PC is on the bottom of the IC event, it doesn’t mean you’re trying to harm or punish the player. It’s a game. Everyone should have fun.
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Remember: Nobody on a game owes you anything. Not other players. Not staff. They don’t owe you scenes, or benefits, or specific relationships. No, even if it is written into character backgrounds - it’s a game, and people change. If someone doesn’t scene with you for a while, don’t assume that it’s because they’re avoiding you, or they hate you, or because they’ve been stolen away by that TS hog over there. Usually, it has nothing to do with you, but if you throw a tantrum over it, it WILL. And also, you will be creepy.
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Helping a new player is not an exchange. Do not do it if you think you’re going to “get something” out of it, or that the new player’s character is going to owe something to yours. Especially do not page new players to see if their character is available for relationships for your desires - and if it is not, do not advise them on how they ‘should’ change their character so it is.
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Comments on PBs or descs should be family friendly. Again, imagine the ten year old and the parents with shotguns. Do not volunteer the various sexual things you desperately want to do to the actor whose face a character has - or anything you’ve done to your self while looking at a gallery picture or desc. Ten year old. Shotguns. Don’t.
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@Pyrephox This is a really good guide to explain boundaries for people who might struggle with knowing what they are. Thank you for writing all this out.
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@Pyrephox said in On the utility of Logs, Receipts, and Proof:
anything that you would not be comfortable explaining to a ten year old in front of their loving parents who are also holding shotguns
I’m stealing this.
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I moved a big ol’ digression of posts about JKER to the thread for their ban discussion: https://brandmuday.mythicus.net/topic/303/jker-temporarily-banned-discussion-thread
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Creepy, imo, is about intimacy. If you are pushing or forcing intimacy too soon, or without basis, or against someone’s boundaries, that is creepy.
I don’t just mean intimacy in the sexual sense, either, though that clearly applies. Pyre’s advice is (always) good, because clearly communicating will let you know if people are open to the type of intimacy you are out for.
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I haven’t seen much by way of sexual harassment in the grab-ass sex pest way that’s discussed primarily in this thread. But I have seen it in the form of guys getting mad at a female player over a catty remark over a public channel and calling her a who-ahh or whatever in response. In those cases I just tell them both to chill out, and will remove either, or both, if they fail to.
But I’m pretty sure I’m good about filtering sex pests because I have some female players in my circle and they’ve been consistent for years. They’re good girls, too. If anybody made them unhappy I’d fix it.
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@NEETzsche lol should we be providing you the definition of creep, too?
Shoo, troll.
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@bear_necessities I’d settle for a coherent response but that might be too much to ask from you.
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Yeesh y’all had to deal with these losers all the time over at the other place? I get it now.
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@shit-piss-love Yeah, @helvetica and @bear_necessities are pretty retarded. Thanks for the support.
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The user @NEETzsche has been temporarily banned for ableist language while admin discuss a permanent ban.
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@shit-piss-love yes. It is why the instant account creation was disabled.
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If I ever get banned I’mma go out on something way more cash than dropping the R-slur. 0/10 and no style points. Clearly a sock puppet, send it into the sun.
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Do we unlock an achievement for seeing two people banned in a 24 hour span?
I’m just keeping track.
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@Testament with this particular person/people it’s a pattern. if it’s the one suspected.
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