Is friendship bad?
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There is also something I learned some years ago. And that was to stop trying to be everyone’s friend because you don’t like where you’re at in life.
And I liken it slightly to the idea of getting into a relationship with someone. Are you doing it because you actually like/care about them or are you doing it for yourself because you don’t want to be by yourself.
It’ll sound stupid and cliche, but you gotta like yourself before you can try to expand that outwardly. So while I say I wouldn’t mind having more friends in my life, because, well, I don’t think that’s a terrible thing to want, I’m also perfectly content if that doesn’t happen.
I may be depressed, but at least these days I don’t completely hate myself. I was surprised by how many more people I found in my life once I got past that hurdle.
We all deserve to love ourselves, even if I know it can be the hardest ever to do.
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@Solstice said in Is friendship bad?:
The real treasure was the coin I wasn’t auto-splitting with the group and no one noticed.
This hits home so hard for me as someone who spent 20 years on MUDs.
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I’ve developed a very sensitive NOPE reflex over the years, which might be why I’ve grown with like two close friends from back when we all sucked at boundaries (both incoming and outgoing), but neither of them really MU anymore.
It does make joining games a little less fun, honestly.
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Clique is a word that has lost all meaning, to the point where trying to use it when it’s actually applicable means it just gets lost in the noise of everyone and their dog referring to any friend group (or in a lot of cases, perceived friend group that may or may not exist) of which they’re not a part as a clique.
To some degree I can understand why it happens, but it’s a big personal peeve, and it does indeed compound the idea that being friends with people in this hobby is in some way a bad thing that must be justified, but which will always be seen as slightly shady, particularly if any of those friends is in some sort of authoritative position (or, heaven forbid, most/all of them).
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Friendship is not bad.
Friendship is amazing.
Being an exclusionary twit, that is bad.
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I’ve got friends. Even one or two from MUing. As a matter of course I never deal with them ‘professionally’ in any capacity, MU or RL.
That’s how I keep friends.
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it’s still bad
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@Rathenhope believe it or not I somehow did this after trying to ‘x’ out of BMD in the middle of a work meeting. I am become boomer.
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Friendship bad. Only enemies and lone wolves sitting in their dark corners of the tavern.
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@Testament This picture is almost a verbatim quote from NieR: Automata. In a pretty heavy plot point.
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@dvoraen said in Is friendship bad?:
@Testament This picture is almost a verbatim quote from NieR: Automata. In a pretty heavy plot point.
I thought the heavy plot point was the robot chick’s ass.
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@STD said in Is friendship bad?:
@dvoraen said in Is friendship bad?:
@Testament This picture is almost a verbatim quote from NieR: Automata. In a pretty heavy plot point.
I thought the heavy plot point was the robot chick’s ass.
The correct terminology is “thicc” I think.
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Friendship is good.
I have made some amazing friendships.
Everyone else is like someone you see in a grocery store.
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everyone is my buddy til they do something very unbuddylike.
then they’re just a probationary pal.
further demotion to chum is possible but from there it’s only a slippery slope down to duder, sport, and then “oh hey, that person”
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@Wizz said in Is friendship bad?:
everyone is my buddy til they do something very unbuddylike.
then they’re just a probationary pal.
further demotion to chum is possible but from there it’s only a slippery slope down to duder, sport, and then “oh hey, that person”
listen, pal
In Occam I trust.
